Where did your facination start?

1st grade....the first friend I had in elementary was this blonde girl...Jamie. I think if we had been older..we would have gone out. We used to call each other on the phone and talk for no good reason....(yes, I know 6-year olds on the phone sounds odd)


3rd grade....this girl named Lacey...again same thing....our school offered music...we played the violin....her dad thought I was cool and that I should hang around his daughter (gee if only that time were now)...I moved away so we lost contact :cry:


6th grade...I hit puberty first...(voice changed significantly) in my class...a lot of the white girls acted funny around me...flirty and whatnot...I thought they looked good but didn't understand why they were all of a sudden interested in me.........I guess this is where it really started though


A lot of guys like black girls at first than slowly move toward white girls...but in my case...I think my preference was for WW at first...than I grew to love BW.....now I like all women.... :lol:

 

(I would call mine an appreciation more than fascination)
Even though I grew up in predominately black neighborhoods, my schools were always well integrated. It was my first year of middle school and her name was J. Black (ironic, huh). We took alot of the same classes and spoke regularly, but strictly platonic.

Thats where my ideas about IR dating first blossomed.

 

Pretty much the same friggin story... except the only thing I would of changed is it happend in 4-5 really...I will still playing with cubes and learning my ABC's in the 1st and 2nd grade lol... where was your mind at.. :wink:

 

Dont really know when it started.Only know that all my crushes (since my early years of grade school) have been white.

 

In my early years I went to one of those schools where half the kids either couldn't read or speak English so it wasn't hard to "get off task" after finishing lesson

 

Personally... ever since I was a child I have been attracted to men of color. Black, Hispanic, Native American, Greek etc. It was always that.... a preference... especially BM. You know what though... most BF get along with me because I am real. I do not represent myself like a lot of WW I see frontin...like a "sterotypical" BF. My best friend of 16years is a BF. I'm not one of those WW to date a BM to get attention or piss off my family. They have always known what type of men I like. Keep this in mind though...being Black does not do it for me...you must be a strong god fearing, intelligent and well-spoken BM.

God Bless!

 

lol..

i'm not riding your jock, chosen, but I started off with a blondie also.... I think it was in the 2nd grade...

I used to tell her that I liked her, and she always rejected me because "you're black, and i'm white."

At that age, kids probably could not care less about what color you are, unless their parents are drilling that into their heads. Which was probably the case with her. She was very pretty if I remember correctly. I did not let that rejection stop me, as in the 3rd grade, I moved up the ladder to a dirty-blonde with green eyes. We used to stare at each other in class, and she used to tell her older sister about me. We never did anything tho, but we were still very attracted to each other...

My grade school was mostly white, and I was one of the few black dudes there. The black girls there didn't interest me...all 2 of em...and I am not the type of guy who "sticks to his kind, no matter what." Ever since then, I liked girls of all colors and backgrounds.

Honestly..

who expects a black guy to stay away from white broads, at a mostly white school...

??

that's just bananas...

 

ah so true.....we are products of our environment.......if I was a military brat in South Korea.....i'd probably be a lover of all things Korean (especially the women)

 

I've always been more attracted to the tall, dark and handsome type. I think I've dated 2 blonde guys. The rest have been hispanic or Italian...I've always gravitated toward men with more olive-colored skin. Maybe because I'm so pale - I'm 1/8 Irish and I look alot more Irish than I am. LOL!

My attraction to bm (though I've always found alot of black celebrities very attractive) has been rather recent. I saw this guy and he blew me away. I had to get to know him.

We've been out a few times, as kind of a "getting to know you" meetings. He's smart, funny, articulate, so easy to talk to, and seriously gorgeous. I hope things progress. I'd really like to see where it could go.

And now that my eyes have been opened, I see good-looking bm everywhere now. All I can think now is, where have these guys been all of these years??

 

It started from elementary school and then I read almost everything about IR like for example the books by J.A.Rogers,Sexual Racism by Charles H. Stember,Calvin Herndon's Sex and Racism in America,and many more.

 

uh oh...where's jellybird at

 

lol - you need to stop, pettyifficerj

 

:lol: I know.

Actually, I used that very term to describe my ex. At the time I didn't think it was racist at all and, of course, defended my usage of it. Since then I've gone out on a couple of dates with wm and the word never popped in my head. :idea: Looking back, it's obvious the unintentional, negative way I said it and I won't do it again. I think it goes to show we all walk around with perceptions in our head and sometimes we don't even know it. The important thing is to learn and move forward with that knowledge.

Live and learn, I guess. And to those who are likely to pop on here and call me racist...bite me.

 

trying to help her out, so that she could avoid future, "real life" conflicts with bm, and their biologicial sisters

"oh no she didn't....mom....where's the vaseline....gimmie the vaseline for my face!@@!"

:wink:

I personally never got offended by it...

my family used to use that to describe me...

however..

from time to time, i do talk a lil' hood, and I would not like that to be used to describe my level of intelligence..

that's just weak..

talking a certain way, doesn't make you "smart"

there are too many aspects of intelligence to decide that, and anyone capable of an original thought, should be aware of that bit of info

8)

 

Oh hell no she didnt...

Why da black man gotta be speakin well? So dat means cause he know how da talk you aint gonna kick him to da curb? How mighty white of you.

:smt013 :smt106 :smt096 :smt093 :smt067 :smt068 (Gang 'o black men angry at the implication)

 

lol...

sometimes a person's percieved level of articulation, is used to describe other unknown qualities..such as whether or not he's a thug, gang-banger, upper class, lower class, or just down-right ol dirty basturd type mofo....

which is why I think it's such a big deal to some people..

but as we know, just because a person speaks a certain way, doesn't mean that person will behave a certain way...or doesn't speak other ways when you aren't around

 

My apologies.

You guys answer fast! LOL! I use that word to describe lots of people. I had no idea it could be taken in such a negative way. I am sorry. That was really not my intention.

Lesson learned.

And that's why I'm here, to learn what I can.

 

in the black community, there is much debate about speaking "properly" and "keepin it real."

people from both camps either don't mind each other, or dislike each other..

some people who speak proper english are looked upon as "acting white," while the ones who are "keepin' it real," are speaking the way they are comfortable with, regardless of who is around and the sorts.

the rivalry exists across many races, but it holds a dear place in the hearts of some african-americans.

hope that helps

 

touche'