Where did your facination start?

Okay then thats them you can't make that all of them, it is just like when they tried to say that basketball players only go for white women when the truth was a lot more of them are and were married to black women.
It seems like you are going by the small picture and not the big picture.

But you are getting the laws of attraction messed up. I find black women beautiful, but I am more so attracted to white women, I could date a black woman(and has) but to make it into an relationship knowing my attraction towards white women is strong if that strong attraction doesn't go away while with her I could find myself being in something where my feelings are full; you want to make sure you have full feelings for a person you are committed too......But to put this discussion in short and make it REAL TALK and regardless of race, when it comes to intimate relationships you always should.....

FOLLOW YOUR HEART

That is the number one thing that MATTERS when it comes to relationships man, you go with feelings not politics, history, philosophies, etc. Just your feelings, your heart, do what makes you happy.

 

Damn, it's a lotta insight in this here thread.

 

fo' real, dude. i don't even know who to respond too...my brain is doing cartwheels, lol. :smt048

 

No one said black athletes ONLY go for white women, but a disproportionate percentage of them do date/marry white women. And it doesnt matter who your dating/married to, your gonna find "other" women attractive. Why...because your a man and your d**k doesnt have a brain. But your right that in the end everyone should follow their heart, but just because we date white women doesnt mean we cant admire and respect the beauty and intelligence of black women.

 

Thats a damn good question and I personally dont think "being black" has to be defined...which would enevitabily lead to the debate of who is and is not "black." I think people define themselves (personally, not racially) and represent their race.

Being urban/ghetto doesnt make you "blacker" than a black person from the burbs no more than having having a mixed heritage make you less black. (Which is why I have a problem with Tiger Woods.)

 

You obviously wasn't listening or reading what I wrote to say the stuff I highlighted jellybird, because I never dismissed that matter. And I have more than just a d**k, and are you saying that men gets horny with any and every female? Lets remember the lisa lampinelli forum where some men on here expressed for lack of a better word their unattraction for larger sized women. Are you saying that men can't have preferences?
There is no such thing? If not I would like to know what in dudes heads would make them go on the search for a interracial website....I would like to know what went on in the heads of men when they decided to go to a website called whitewomenblackmen.com....I would like to know what made them join and REGISTER on a site called whitewomenblackmen.com....I would like to know why on this site why they talk about and expresse their interest, love and admiration of white women and very, very, very, very little about black women.

Like I said man, Attraction is more than just your d**k.

 

Co-sign

but I'd say the vast majority of BM athletes marry sistas...it's just that the ones who marry white women often get more camera time.....take actors for instance

How many times have we seen Taye Diggs' wife....and how many times have we seen Denzel's wife?

 

Huh? Why are you getting your panties all in a bunch? In my post I was agreeing with you.

And just because this site or something else exists, doesnt make it right or good for you.

 

when I was a wee lil g, about 4-5 years old, I used to play with two white chicks (sisters) the same age accross the st from me... they used to pin me down and play doctor... and thats how it all started.

 

sad but thats the point, if someone doesnt fit the stereotype of black then they are seen as not black. black culture is not just urban ghetto culture and language, many many blacks live in rural south and suburban areas and dont have the same views on life as others. some ones distain for urban culture maybe becuase they are from rural or suburban areas

one doesnt have to be attracted to the women of their race, and one can be attracted solely to another race , it is clearly an individual thing, since we dont know each other accept on here, we dont know what each individuals experiences in their life and day to day goings on

since this is IR website, we understand that we all come to IR with different life experiences adn views, i dont judge others on how they came up, and i hope the respect is reciprocated but some people assume that they should tell others how to live to be black and date white women, and that is interesting seeing as i am sure they would hate to be told how to and what to think themselves

 

I've seen a lot of this "self-hate" on this thread, and probably others. So, I have a question: If a white woman comes on this board and proclaims that she's only ever been attracted to black men and she's only dated black men and she's never, ever found white men attractive, would you tell her that she self-hates?

I'm not trying to be antagonistic here, it's just a question. I'm just curious about the answer.

 

Prime example of the "white man holding me down" mentality. So, any BM on this site who is attracted to a WW (or non BW) automatically hates BW and himself? What you are doing is accepting all things negative that "society" has thrown on black people. You are believing the lies, the negativity and giving into ALL of the negative stereotypes with your mindset. To prove my point, I'll ask you this question: If a BW decides she’s attracted to WM, is she hating on BM? Yes or no question, no novels please.

 

Who on here has bashed rejected black women in order to validate their attraction to white women? Screen names please, we're waiting. Also, please answer my question: If a BW decides she’s attracted to WM, is she hating on BM? Yes or No question.

 

Y'all cats sound like y'all need some pussy. :|

Loosen up a lil bit for once. If a person wants to date outside their race for whatever reason they may be, then just let them. What does their rationale have to do with you?

Y'all are sitting up here making mountains out of molehills. :?

 

Y'all?

Much respect to you Tony but please don't group me in with that clown man. I'm really trying to see where he's coming from but I think I should stop because it's not getting me anywhere. I've never seen any member of this forum put down a BW in order to claim his love for a WW. capricornone87 is ignorant and arrogant. Some of you might be taken by his use of big words (that he misspells half the time) and 20 paragraph posts, but I'm calling him how I see him... he's a racist. I'm done.

 

If you think you are being respectful then you need some deep therapy man! We can handle the truth-but you don't speak the truth!

 

Re: Y'all?

Nah, I see where you coming from. First of all you need to really psychoanalyze what certain people are really about. They only post on message boards with the sole purpose of starting an argument with someone. They always has a hidden agenda, and they get their jollies off by upsetting anybody who chooses to disagree with them.

They live to argue with and antagonize people, and if you take the bait you will be the one who is pissed off while they have already moved on to the next unsuspecting person to upset. They simply want attention, no more no less. I know people who are just like this, so if you ignore them or never respond to their posts, they will simply fade off into oblivion.

I hope this helped.

 

Yesir. I mean, this is a message board so we are all here to have discussions, but I realized that with capricornone, it's always going to be a never ending battle...thats why I said "I'm done" at the end of my previous post.

 

It's like that saying...Never argue with a idiot, because people watching may not be able to tell the difference.

As with you, HenRock, I am done with this idiot. I let him get to me yesterday. But, today is a new day.

 

Ok y'all....it's time for TheChosenOne to pass down his ruling....this will become the law of the land. Failure to abide by said law will result in cruel and unusual additional posts by me. LOL.. :twisted: 8)


All of you are right to some degree....(yes I know this sounds defeatist):


SOME BM prefer WW because they just do and have no particularly deep set reasoning for doing so....much the way someone might prefer luxury sedans over a high powered sports car.


SOME BM hold no ill will towards WW..but for various reasons...they prefer dating/marrying BW....their preference for BW doesn't make them stronger BM nor does it make them "more black"...nor does it mean that they don't hate themselves...I've seen many BW-lovin' brothas that hated themselves.


SOME BM prefer WW for cultural/shared values type reasons. I've noticed that a lot of BM that are heavy churchgoers often marry a WW not because she's white but because he's looking for someone that he can find common ground with.

There's also a large group of brothas that simply find that regardless of religious persuasion, they don't share anything in common with the AVERAGE sista. That doesn't mean that there aren't any sistas out there for these brothas....but when a brotha grows up in an environment that lacks diversity...he's going to have a difficult time connecting with the majority of BW because many of them are accustomed to being around and seeing their "own kind."

The best description would be to take three people...an American BM, a WW and an African woman. Let's assume that the BM and the WW grew up in the same neighborhood and went to the same schools. The African woman grew up in Senegal and came to the U.S. as an adult. On the outside...without doing any in-depth examination...most (probably no one in this forum but the "average Joe" might) would assume that despite some obvious differences, the BM would find more common ground with the African woman as opposed to the WW.....the assumption is that their common identity of 'blackness' trumps the shared values/culture that the BM has with the WW. We all know that despite sharing color....the WW and the BM would probably make a better fit assuming both are willing to go outside the lines.

Sharing someone's color doesn't mean you share their culture. Black Americans grow up in a wide array of environments...we don't all come from the same place, regardless of what many might believe. Some of us grow up visiting our grandmother's cottage on Martha's Vineyard....traveling to Europe & Africa during the summer and attending the finest Ivy League schools. Other's grow up "in the hood"...avoiding crack dealers and gang bangers on a simple walk to the store....going to college is only a dream unless you can run like the wind or jump through the roof. I will assume that most of us lie somewhere in the middle of these experiences.


SOME BM do indeed hate themselves. They will date/marry anything under the sun so long as it's not black. These brothas will try to date BW early on but instead of pursuing sistas that are actually a good match for them...they will chase after attractive hood-rats knowing that she will eventually sabotage the fledgling relationship. They already know from day one that they prefer WW and will blame BW for character flaws that they knew were present from the jump. These cats are brainwashed and there's nothing that can be done about it....they have an inferiority complex that doesn't endanger BW...but instead threatens unsuspecting WW who are charmed by the attention that a self-hating BM throws at them.


Notice carefully how I placed the word "SOME" in front of all of these descriptions. No two BM are alike....our motivations are known only to us. The relatively few angry sistahs that write to Ebony & JET....the ass-kissing "psychologist" brothas that write books and give interviews explaining why BM are "obsessed" with WW...and the WW that think they can nail any brotha when they want to (are you listening Lindsay Lohan)...know nothing about the BM psyche. Every BM has his own reasoning for doing what he does and no statistics or cleverly thought up theories can change that. We shouldn't assume we know why men do what they do......and if they tell you why.....give them a smile and keep on walking.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to try and get ready for my friends Foam Party.....

"I'll take a vanilla breast with a chocolate thigh"- :lol: