Where are all the single White ladies at?

Everyone has a sob story. I have many, but I don't feel like sharing because i don't believe in making a negative impression. However, I'm starting to feel like the internet scene is ten times worse than the bar scene. All the guys are looking for super models with hearts of gold. Perhaps I should pay to put my ad up here...but I just don't know. :? :?

 

I don't have a sob story at all,I think it is a waste of time to try and meet a person online the majority of the time. Most folks online have unrealistic expectations. Not everybody is looking for a super model that would be like me saying all the ladies want a superman or a muscle bound super heroe.

 

Ummm a clear picture might help Peach...

 

I thought it was free to place an ad. You only have to pay to respond to an ad i believe.

 

I don't know. I never even checkced out the personals section of this site.

 

With close to 18,000 members....my guess is that there are many more single women lurking around than you may realize.

There are really only a handful of regular posters on here. Maybe a little focus on getting others to post would help.

I can just speak for myself....I'm very new to the site and I tend to be a rather outspoken person. But sometimes it can be a bit intimidating to step out and post on public forums. They all have their own little cliques and flavors. Maybe people aren't feeling very safe in posting. But I would bet that there definitely are many single women out there reading.

DJ - I don't think you are Anti-American women. Your point about needing to beat out 100's of other suiters...so what? I think that would be true for any person out there. Woman or man....everyone is "in demand" in their own way....even those you have to "weed through". However, I think if where you are approaching women in a negative manner with the expectation that they won't be good enough or that they will be rude (or whatever) then you are probably going to find it rather difficult to encounter women who are open and all the things you list that you are wanting.

I just think that it's a copout to say all or most women are this or that way. I would think that you would not appreciate a woman saying American Black men are this or that either.

BTW....While I'm not in a relationship, I hardly think that anything makes anyone an authority on black men, interracial relationships, and being a woman. The only thing it makes them an authority on is their own relationships and themselves. Hell I'm a white woman - that doesn't make me an authority on white women....just as you being a black man does not make you the authority on black men. There is no one voice for all.

I will say, FWIW, I do appreciate you speaking out and saying what you really think and feel....even if I find some of the things that you say to be rather irritating.

 

Maybe I'm just paranoid but I don't trust online relationships if my life depended on it. Matter of fact, my best friend had met a guy online who she thought was black and "seemed" like the perfect guy and he even went as far as to try and meet up with her. Thankfully, we both found him out to be some creepy white guy with an even more creepy black female fetish. You have to watch out for people like that. I'd just stick with hooking up the natural way.

 

Well I don't think the idea is to create an online relationship. The idea is using the online sites as a way to connect. The problem is that some people get overly involved prior to meeting in person. I've heard people thinking they are in love and all sorts of things and they haven't even met the person.

I don't really see meeting online as much different than meeting IRL. Someone can lie and do all sorts of things when you meet them somewhere out in life too. Of course, one of the benefits to meeting offline is that you do know what they look like and if there is any real attraction.

 

Oh, I see what you're saying. In that case, you have a point. I just figured since it's online you're more at risk since you can't actually see the person.

 

Sure, it's easy for people to lie online, to send falst pics, etc. you just have to learn caution, and I too heave heard of people falling in love when they've never even met. So they fall for an idea...an imaginary image. Not a good idea. :lol: But some people want to fall in love so badly, they'll accept anything and go to any lengths.

 

I agree. There are hazards online and offline - advantages and disadvantages. Of course there are nightmare online stories, but as they are mostly what get 'news' I'm going to say something positive instead.

I've met a few people online - male and female - and it's been a really interesting way to broaden my mix of friends and experience a lot of different attitudes and points of view. Sure you can read those on forums, but it's been great to "get to know" a few people on other continents. I've always loved travel and I've always been interested in different cultures and different points of view. I did meet up with a BM I met on a forum - we had an LDR for 2 years and that had its ups and downs. We split up because our personalities didn't 'gel' as much as we both wanted. But we remain close friends and both have each others 'backs.' Not to mention Frequent Flyer points.... 8)

Anyone can pretend to be anyone online, but if you keep aware of basic security issues - like you would offline - and ask lots of questions, you can - up to a point - get an idea of whether a person has substance or not, and if they are consistent. If every online conversation is an attempt to 'hook up' then that's IMO as dangerous as it is in real life.

What I do like about meeting people online (male or female friends) is that I can talk to a variety of people I might otherwise never meet. And, to men that I would never walk up to in the street and start talking to. Online does cut out some of the 'smalltalk' and I like that.

 

I agree with this. Usually when you meet after talking on line you know that you have some sort of common ground.

 

RE: Internet communication

Thanks, for making a statement to this forum about "internet communication." I think the internet comes into two channels: Equity vs. Diversity. Also, the "internet" is a world of language that requires some very serious communication skills in order to express yourself. It is, therefore, important that when you communicate with your online crush, you’re very careful to make sure that each of your communications is positive and deliberate. When it comes to dating online, it is very easy to date many people over a short amount of time. Dating, after all, involves getting to know a variety of people and then choosing one person to focus your attention on.

Because you need to be appreciative of language when you begin a relationship online, it is important that you understand the effects of your language. There are, in fact, a variety of things that should be avoided when you begin a relationship with someone online. Here is a short list of the Top 10 flirting lines that you should avoid when meeting someone online:

10. “I’m looking to get married pretty soon. Are you available?”

This line comes across as slightly desperate. Dating means that you try several people before choosing just one. Therefore, don’t rush things; date awhile.

9. “Do you have any STDs?”

While it’s important to learn about your partner’s sexual health, when you are barely even a couple, it is considered rude and presumptuous to ask about sexually transmitted diseases.

8. “Mothers really love me.”

While a line like that, it’s not surprising that you’re single. Be slow to show off the full breadth of your ego and make sure that the relationship is grounded in friendship before you talk about meeting the parents.

7. “Are you hot?”

While asking about a person’s physical looks (or temperature) may appear to be important, if you are going to build a lasting, sustainable relationship, it’s far better to start with questions about your mate’s personality and emotions.

6. “What’s Your Income?”

Yes, finances are important to many relationships, In fact, most relationships break up because of finances. However, if ou are going to have a solid relationship, it would be preferable to base it in things other than money.

5. “What Kind of Vehicle Do You Drive?”

Just as income is important, so are reliable cars. However, it is vital that you start your relationship with questions that are most positive and down to earth than the car they drive…unless, of course, you meet in an automotive chat room.

4. “What do you look like?”

It is important to eventually find out about the appearance of your online crush. However, try to start simpler. Ask, instead, about matters of the heart. If things work out, then work your way towards asking learning more about physical appearance.

3. “Do you want to meet tonight?”

Even if you have a fabulous conversation with your online crush, it’s a bad idea to ask somewhat out of the blue for a meeting. Instead, work your way up to a meeting to ensure that you create a solid base.

2. “I hope you do drugs.”

It’s a wise idea to avoid meeting people online that do drugs. Not only will it be difficult to trust them, but when a major pick-up line involves narcotics, the relationship is likely not one that is built to last.

1. “Are you easy.”

Discontinue communication immediately if your online crush asks you if you are easy…unless of course you are looking for a one-night stand or purely physical relationship.

Online dating is an entirely new world that brings with it new risks and new opportunities. It’s important for the individual to learn the ropes of online dating in order to play the game strategically. Often, learning the ropes means that an individual will have to go through some bad online relationships in order to find some good people to date.

 

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