when you're ugly like me, you just naturally have to be cool!

aint that the truth boy, aint that the truth

 

Re: when your ugly like me, you just naturally have to be co

LOL!

 

totally mate totally

 

Ugly people do tend to have some of the most intriguing personalities and innovative minds, and athletic skills... LOL A lot of ugly people got more girls than me I remember this dude told me 'I'm ugly, I just got game'

 

What always intrigues me is when really attractive people somehow feel they don't need to cultivate a personality...how can they think they'll get the best possible mate on the strength of (transient) looks alone?

 

I know what you mean!

I agree 100%. No matter how attracted I become to a woman, nothing will turn me off faster than a negative personality or lack of intelligence. No amount of looks can make up for those flaws.

One of my high school friends said it best: as you get to know someone, they either become more attractive or less attractive to you.

 

i am with you there and when an ugly person with a nice personality and highly intelligent is seen as nothing, i hate that profoundly

 

attraction

I have met all kinds of people Adonis to AAAAAAHHHHH NOOOOOO and pretty people do not have a monopoly on lack of personalities. I have met some pretty bitter ugly folks and tons of charming sexpots. However, for women, attractiveness and attraction are a little different. At least that is true for me.

ATTRACTIVE equals visual for me.

ATTRACTION equals a whole bunch more. Charm, intelligence, humor, status (yes status), education, power, money , artistic, philanthropy, etc... are all components of things that might make a connection or attraction between two people.

I do not always feel attracted to the most attractive person nor to an unattractive person who has many of the qualities that I seek in someone. I will say however I am never attracted to someone who does not have a little of both.

 

Same here

 

Plus, I'm not attracted to guys with beautiful faces. Well, that perception (of what beauitful is) is individual anyway, but its just that those kind of guys look (don't know the word in English....efeminated??) ....like women.
I look like a woman and its enough. A man has to look like a man.

 

All of you make really valid points, especially you, Jerome29.

You see, back in my pre-teens, late-teens, and early 20's (until age 25), I was always the guy that girls NEVER wanted to date or associate with. And I do mean NEVER :? . Not because I am physically unattractive, but because I don't fit inside the hip-hop box....if you get my drift.I know from hardcore, repetitive experience that most women usually don't change their perspective of a guy regardless of personality. The only way that happens is if she finds out that you have money . Girls know within the first two to ten minutes of meeting you whether you will be a friend, a boyfriend, etc.

Girls are just as primal as guys are.......but on a totally different level. Now there are exceptions to the rule, but they are just that, exceptions.

Now that I have blossomed 8), I am very harsh on girls about being able to contribute to the table (education, personality, etc.) as well as being physically beautiful.