When should you introduce the kids to your new bf/gf?

goodlove8 · Oct 23, 2016

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There are a lot of people out there who are trying to jump the steps. They are trying to do the instant thing. To me, all that does is create problems though. It's not fair to kids to be bringing in people like that.
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First date on Tuesday and want marriage on Wednesday.

Beasty · Oct 23, 2016

goodlove8 said: ↑

Yeah...a person really need to be honest with themselves about what type of relationship they want
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They lack awareness. After years of spiritual self neglect it happens. Balance is key. We all have a lot on our plates but when you sacrifice the wrong things it comes back on you.

goodlove8 · Oct 23, 2016

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They lack awareness. After years of spiritual self neglect it happens. Balance is key. We all have a lot on our plates but when you sacrifice the wrong things it comes back on you.
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You are darn right.

I often say step back and don't get pussy-matized/dick-matized and see things for what they are

K · Oct 23, 2016

Beasty said: ↑

They lack awareness. After years of spiritual self neglect it happens. Balance is key. We all have a lot on our plates but when you sacrifice the wrong things it comes back on you.
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Exactly.

It's very easy to get on a track and it just keeps going. Some people live their entire life that way.

4north1side2 · Oct 24, 2016

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I don't have a set time. I think it's best to go about things in a natural, casual way though. More just introducing them to a friend and not making a huge deal out of it all.

I'm very cautious about who comes around my children, but I can't imagine doing the whole thing where people get into a deep relationship with someone and don't introduce the kids until it's very serious. How can you even know you would want to get serious with someone who hasn't been around your kids? That also seems like a lot of pressure.

I've always been up front about my children.

Now on the other hand, I have had 3 men bring their kids on first dates (without telling me ahead of time). I would NEVER do that, and as much as I love kids, I don't think they should be doing that either.
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Bizarre and red flag

K · Oct 24, 2016

4north1side2 said: ↑

Bizarre and red flag
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LOL yah....I left and there was NOTHING further.

I thought it was crazy enough the first time....but THREE times??

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