When did you first realize or accept you were attracted to WW/BM?

Interrace magazine had been around since the mid-80's. Publisher Candy Mills appeared on a morning show with Regis Philbin before he went national. I did't read it until 1998. It was a great magazine. So many inspiring love stories and advice. They even had a Hollywood issue showing Jim Brown and Racquel Welch on the cover(from 100 Rifles). I wanted it, but it was sold out. I felt good to find a magazine that was about this lifestyle. I wish it came back.

 

14 Years old when I went to visit the high school i went to the first time. There was an open house and I was able to walk around the school for the first time. There were not many black people in the school either..

I saw a group of white girls walking down the hall and :shock:

 

There was never a specific "realization or acceptance" of my love for bm...it's been a part of me for as long as I can remember. I can imagine it might be something to "accept" if you're from a small town or something (maybe?), but interracial relationships were prevelant in my hometown. I was the only white person in my social circles growing up, so I think it was inevitable that I'd date black men and mexican men! Most people have a "type"...blond/brunette, tall/short, skinny/thick, light/dark, etc. I've got no shame in the fact that I prefer bm...most are sexy as hell lol! A bit of a generalization, but I stand behind it

 

For me, it started when this beautiful ivory chick rub my belly.. It seems most of the white women I meet have thing big guys..

 

If u r a big guy, you will attract wiminz that like big guys. The others would go to what they like. Just a thought. Lol

 

Here here.

I always liked white girls growing up but I think the turning where I started only dating them and no one else was freshman year of hs. They were far more nicer to me and I didn't need "swag" to get them. I dressed in all the popular shit kids dressed in at the time (we're the same age so I'm sure you remember Avrex jackets and Iceberg T-shirts) but I didn't have that bad boy swag like I was ready to go to prison over dumb shit.
To this day I seriously have no idea why personality wise ww just seem far kinder and giving than any other type of woman I've come across. Maybe its a me thing, maybe I just attract what I attract but I'm not complaining. Milky to tanned, brown to blue, blonde to raven colored hair I love em all.

 

I've always liked black men, even when I was young and I didn't understand what sex was. I have thought black men were more handsome since before I really thought about that sort of thing. I've always been drawn to them. Even when I was in grade school and I had non-sexual fantasies about being a princess, the prince in my head was black. It didn't seem weird or strange or different to me; it's just what I wanted.

I dated Chinese guys in high school because that's who was around me, but I knew I had a thing for black guys. I've known I was interested for a long time, but it's only something I told my friends a couple years ago even though it's always sort of been there.

 

I am so international I don't understand the term "accept". Realize is fine but why accept?

I am only trying to understand...

 

Acceptance plays a certain role here. I think of it more like accepting that you're going to have to deal with negativity and stereotypes surrounding your relationship, not so much "accepting" the fact that you're attracted to bm or ww. Not everyone is strong enough to handle fighting for their relationship. My ex's mom used to tell me how sweet I was in one breath, and how her son could never date a white girl in the next breath. Clearly she didn't know that we WERE dating lol. His sister gave me trouble every time I was over there...because I'm white. Unfortunatly, this just comes with the territory when dating outside your race. I never felt a need to "accept" the fact that I'm attracted to bm, but I did have to understand/accept that the world is filled with all types of people...including hateful ones.

 

Amen to that.

 

oh come on...everyone has swag. its just they have their own swag.

people may have a nerd swag, fag swag, thug swag, intellect swag, business swag etc.....

some have a mix of ALOT MORE THAN OTHERS.

 

Cant say I ever wasnt attracted to WW. I always been in diverse areas. I think the first time I actually had a crush woulda been 1st grade, so age 6?

 

I see where you are coming from and it makes sense.

However I never been in this situation even though as a BM I never dated a BW. I think your level of education, stance, presence, attitude and first impression has a lot to do with other races accepting you.
I live in a country where very few BM make into the white mans world whether it's having rich white friends or working for a multinational corporate entity.
I was fortunate to attend private international schools my entire life and was exposed to a world I did not know nor understood when I used to live in NewYork (Queens, middleclass neighborhood).
My life has changed, I also changed and so did my lifestyle. I have friends from all over the globe and my friends parents love me. I have learned how to addapt to the environments I find myself in.
All to say that I never had an issue where my girlfriends' family did not accept me because at the end of the day color doesnt matter, everything else does.

Maybe it's a european vs american way of thinking.

 

For me it was at age 5 or 6 and my first kiss was with a black girl lol and my first white girlfriendwas 16 and My first sex experience I was 23 with a white girl

 

I was six. I was competing with my Mexican friend for this one white girl's affections. At recess one day the three of us went behind this large storage shed on the playground far away from prying eyes and we took turns kissing her for the entire recess. In retrospect that was pretty gross but that is when I discovered the electric feeling of kissing a girl. She was giving me some tongue too, I thought that was weird. She opened up a whole new world for me. Last time I saw her she was working at a radio shack up the street. We made eye contact and didn't say anything but we both remembered it. awkward.

 

I had a major crush on this boy in elementary school. He happened to be black. I never saw his skin color. I loved his personality. That was when my interest in black men began.

 

perfect

 

I really don't know when I first started liking WW, I just gravitate more towards them.

 

7th grade. Her name was Carol. As for WW as a whole, I just find relationships work better with WW for me.

 

I remember when I realized I had a preference and I was internally ashamed. It was senior year of high school and I felt like a race traitor.