What makes YOU approach a women?

We have vocalized about what black men find attractive in white women(or women in general), where they like to be flirted with, how they like to fuck and all the other things that go along with interacting with women..........

But what makes you as a person appraoch a women. What things do you look for? What is it the makes you step up to the plate and spit words? How do you get their attention? How has your skills played out?

I am not talking about pick up lines, we been there already.....I am not talking about her thick cakes and thighs....Do you listen to her talk? Step aside and watch her interact?

 

Well besides from looks I look at how presentable a person is, how do they dress too slutty is always a red flag if this is how they walk around how many men has she been with. Also when she talks what does she talk about if she only talks about her problems/drama then I know she has too much drama in her life. She doesn't ahve to be smart but I like a woman whose cultured and has maybe read books, seen some different types of movies, travelled places, studied things, has an interesting profession or hobby etc. Also women who cuss a lot big turn off

 

That you'll never know.

 

I guess for every situation it's different. For me certain things will make me NOT approach someone. If she's with friends, if she looks like she's upset or in a bad mood, if she's on her cell phone, if she's ugly, if she's with a guy (who may or may not be her man), etc. all signs NOT to approach for me. One thing that may make me go in for the kill is if she seems lost or confused or not from around here. I'll also approach if she gives me that certain "look" (you know the look i'm talking about).

 

Nothing in particular, I just have to find her attractive.

 

Pretty much.

 

Well considering that I really jsut learn to be confident in myself two years ago, I would ahve to say that the answer is a sense of adventure. something about a woman . the curosity factor, the way he personality is and the fact of just want to know if I do approach her where it would lead.

No Ill admit i get rejected a lot. Im still learning how to communicate with women better, but there are also plenty of times when I get great conversation and even move (not in that too sexual way I wish ) . But for me I use to not approach a woman for the fear of the unknown. now I do it for the sense of the unknown and the adventure of conversing with a lady

 

Just has to 'feel' right.

Usually it doesn't.

 

I second that. I love the personal challenge of the approach. It is, indeed, an adventure into the unkown.

 

I admire that! I am DEATHLY afraid of rejection.

People are cruel and that is why so many are afraid. Try being a big woman for just one day. See how much rejection you receive.

(Tonivegas, I am not directing this towards you! Lol! It just came out!)

 

I understand. I used to be, actually I still am somewhat, an introverted person. It took some maturation and forced interaction on my part to break out of my shell. As far as rejection goes, I don't mind it as much anymore. My goal now is to get rejected as many times as possible, no joke. To me, rejection is an inevitable consequence of progress since doing nothing results in achieving nothing. The only time that it kind of did bother me was recently when I calmly approached this one girl at a lounge, smiled and asked her to dance. She reacted towards me as if I was instantly growing another head. I mean, a simple "no thanks" would have sufficed. Of course such dramatic reactions are rare and I just try not to dwell on it too long. I know it sounds lame but, as I always say, what do you do when you fall off the horse... you get back on. :smt080

 

You are awesome! That was very inspirational. That's great that you've built up your confidence to get past.being an introvert. Rejection is never easy, but looking at it the way you do helps me to realize it's not the end of the world. Normally I deal with it like a pro until I have a moment when I'm alone and think about it. Thanks for your response. It was very insightful!

 

I don't approach women, can't deal with the rejection.

 

Not lame, not at all. I say good on ya and keep working on it. Its good to be able to take rejection..
I should know. I'm one of those girls nobody ever hits on, so I'm used to doing all the work myself. And well, yeah. The occasional No has never killed anyone.

 

You're just like I was (and still am, to some extent)

I always had that problem. I didn't consider myself attractive and I didn't have confidence in my abilities. It was hard for me to approach a woman. I would almost never make the first move. The fear of rejection was so overwhelming for me that I would never bring up my feelings about the girl to her. Hence, I would never know if she felt the same way about me. I've gotten better at it over the years, but the anxiety's still there a little

 

That my friend is the reason why I do it also.

also fo those afraid check out this link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Litany_against_fear

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain. [1]


These are powerful words to get over your fears remember them whenever your afraid

 

Dune was an amazing book.

 

This is why I've never approached a guy, I seriously could not deal with it. I know that sounds a bit sad but it would upset me. I wouldn't say I have particularly low self esteem but I'm just totally afraid of rejection.

I just wait for the guy to speak to me, hoping that he does. If he doesn't then I don't get hurt.

 

Hi ,

I beleive everyone has their own thing that attract them to females , on my side i will be more attracted to an open-minded person , attentive and
a good listener.

There is one forum member here who fit all these qualities , but unfortunately she is taken

 

Maghalil I like your hair on your avatar It's really cool.