What Is Your Denition Of A Good Man.

What Is Your Definition Of A Good Man.

I just got done reading Goodlove's thread about bm's feelings towards bw and in the thread it was mentioned about the shortage of good men. What is your definition of a good man. Remember how I like it brutal honesty no fluff. What do you need from us to be happy.

 

a good man to me would have the following qualities/abilities:

honesty. needs to be delivered in a gentle manner, not slap me in the face with a wet fish kind of honesty
communication
expression
strength
Intelligence, not booksmart intelligence, but emotional intelligence
Great sense of humour is essential
Passionate about his beliefs
Sweet
Happy within himself and with his life
Self Pride

 

Many men have good qualities, manners; are reliable, polite, self-confident, strong- are fabulous in their communication, smart. But what I think , what you want to know is, what is attractive to us- what makes him unique and not to forget anymore...

I assume, at least for me, it´s a mix. Being smart, but nor too intelligent.
Reliable, but not a guy, who follows you everywhere and you can send around.
Self-confident, but not so much that you feel like "nothing" next to him.
A fabulous communicator, but not in the way that he is the only one, who talks.

A great man is for me, if he can give me the freedom I need, if he knows automatically, what makes me happy without any discussion and who is there for me,whenever I need him. A man I can look at and say- damn I am proud that he is mine.

 

Hmmm...good question.

Kind
Smart
Intelligent
Gentle, but not a push over.
Protective, but not possessive.
Good sense of humour (extremely important)
Hard working
Dedicated
Good morals
Polite
Has empathy for others.
Honest
Selfless enough that he is excepting and generous to others, but selfish enough that he doesn't forget to look after himself.

I can't think of anything else.

Really, the formula is unique for each man and the ideal that we might describe here, we probaby modify in real life. A good man might be forgiven for his occasional bad manners, for example.

 

sweet tarshi, may i ask what's the difference between communication and expression? would it be one is a response and the other is initiated? just curious...

 

to me communication is verbalising thoughts, where i view expression as having the ability to show what is in your heart.

 

I agree.
Actions can mean a lot more than words.

 

So is it ok if a man shows his love instead of saying it.

 

As long as he says it occasionally, yes. Saying "I love you" doesn't mean a whole lot if it's not backed up by the way you behave.

 

Absolutely. I've never been big on people who constantly tell you they love you, or expect that from you. It doesn't seem as genuine, like they're trying too hard or really insecure.

 

Good to know because that's something I never say and it's causes a lot of problems in the past.

 

Oh, you should say it occasionally. Hell, even once every few months is fine. LOL Women do need to hear the words out loud sometimes, just not all the time.

 

That's a topic for my therapist. Espy where you at? Lol

 

i agree with the 2 gorgeous ladies above completely

 

Right here sugar, what can I do for you?

 

Do you think not saying I love you could be a deal breaker?

 

Nope, doesn't actually bother me in the least. As long as I knew he loved me, I wouldn't care if he never said it out loud.

Couples who do that 'I love you' - 'I love you more' - 'No I love you more snookums' stuff make me ill. I'm always like 'you both suck, moving on now'.

 

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LOL! Perfect as usual Karma.

 

i love that episode of seinfeld, it's up there with the shrinkage episode for sure