What Is It About Older Black Men?

Somebody please tell me why so many white women are into older black men? What they have that younger black men do not have? Come on ladies give the younger brothers a chance. I have several friends roughhly my age about 24 and are having to compete with these older brothers who are sweeping up the women. Is the thug image the reason why white women are going after older black men.

 

Well now what do you consider "older"?

I happen to be mid to late 30's, and it has always been my experience that many women look for confident maturity, sense of direction, and financial stability in men, because many women are thinking long term relationship. Traits generally found in older men. These traits appeal to both older, and younger women. I do date both. And since young women usually mature faster than young men, they often need a man somewhat older than themselves, in order to even up the maturity factor. Or so I'm told. But that doesn't mean younger guys don't get much play as well, because they do. As a younger man, I did. It's just there are more relationship minded women, or at least women looking for a man who'll treat them decently, than women looking for a boy toy, so if it is not already the case, then you may wanna try to appeal to the LTR in women, and represent where they most look to be interested, in a mature, stable, relationship minded, and sensibly attired manner. Just be ready to be in a ltr at the end of the day.

 

The older brothers i refer to are in the age group of late thirties on up. I have heard that the age group most preferred are 40's. I guess as you said it must be maturity and income. Some of the black men in this area are in the high tech business and are making good incomes in that age group. Curious that these men are not already married rather than hunting.

 

Why get married, when the world is your oyster? These BM are considered a rare prize to both black, and WW, and take advantage of it. Think about it, by the time most BM hit their mid 20's they are either in jail, unemployed, or gay. Not many eligible BM to choose from, by the time we should be at our best. Many of these guys were perhaps married before, and are now post divorce, established, and all ready to enjoy life being a rare commodity.

Trust me, I know... :wink:

 

What may be more curious is the men in that age group looking to very young women. Maybe that's why they are where they are at.

I would agree with some of what rinnaye said...however I think that if men in their 40's are well established and really looking for serious relationships...they probably aren't going to be out prowling for early 20's, unless they are rather insecure.

 

LOL Rinnaye - "mid to late 30's"? don't you know how old you are :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

 

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It was so funny...I didn't catch that at first!

And sorry I don't agree that established BM in that age group are a rare prize. There are many out there. We've had that discussion before. I guess it's really more a matter of what they are wanting.

There are those who are wanting to play and are probably more apt to go looking to the younger women. Those who have grown up - probably not so much.

 

I was once a grown up, and then I got divorced...

 

oh man they need that smiley that's on it's side laughing it's ass off!

I should have said something about those who are men rather than guys.

Come on though you know damned well if you were looking for a real relationship - you probably aren't going to be looking to a 22 year old.

 

I agree!

Men don't want young women for a ltr in most cases, I tried it with a 19 year old, and it was kind of strange, so I raised my cut off to 27-28 year olds. Have since broke my own rule, and am now talking to a 24 year old, sorry, but I can't help myself. But to your other point, I think there is an eligible black man shortage, and what I mean by eligible, is over 6 figures, house(s), and not gay. I hear it all the time from women, and am treated as such.

 

I think a great deal of that is attitude...mind set. There are many desperate people out there in general. There are tons of successful men out there talking about how difficult it is to find a woman that they would really be interested in. There are many women talking about the same thing.

I think it has to do with the law of attraction. If you believe that there is a "man shortage" then you probably are going to find one. I think there are many great men in the world. And I've found evidence of this.

My guess is that you feel pretty good about yourself and therefore attract more women. Or, you are out there really on the hunt and so you are facing a greater number. Basically a numbers game.

Now my question would be, do you really want to be attracting women who are coming from a desperate place though? (not saying that's the case - but to hear people talking about how they can't find a decent man/woman isn't a huge turn on for me)

I'm not doubting your experience at all. I've heard it from male friends I have. However, there are also women out there experiencing the same thing you are...which I guess would make them also a rare prize.

 

As for me, I prefer them because they are my age range and I like being with someone who understands what I have lived thru and can appreciate the things that I do (such as some 70s funk).

And I am not looking for a 6 figure man, I just want one who has a work ethic and can support his own self. I would much prefer one who is blue collar and can work around the house.

 

"Rare Prize" is a rather strong phrase, so I'll just say very eligible. But I don't have to be on the hunt, I really do think it's in overall appearance, not in the handsome category, but in the look that exudes middle aged, and distinguished category. A father type image, and how many women don't want a man like their dad? It can be in a grocery store with my kids, or gas station, but I often get "the come talk to me stare", and I think it has to do with looking like a provider, I guess.

 

fly girl,

Are you in your 20's, or 30's? It looks like 20's if that's you in your avatar, but I'm confused, when you say you prefer "them", do you mean "them" as in older, or younger men?

And why not go for a 6 figure man, it's one thing to have someone who'll love you, and be just barely making ends meet, and it's another thing to have a man who'll love you, and be able to do all the fine things with you that you may deserve, and enjoy doing.

 

LOL - ok it was your phrase

Um nope no interest in a man like my father. Nor do most women I know care to find one.

But I get what you are saying. Absolutely, there is something really attractive about a man who is a caring father. (or someone we perceive as such) I think it's more than the provider thing...it has to do with the sensitivity factor too.

 

Sure, when I'm out with my kids, I get hit on the most, but even without them, I must have a look of being a dad, or something, because most of the women I date are usually younger, and eventually want to move in with me, and start the family thing, while many of the older women I date tend to get scared, and insecure about having a relationship, for fear of being hurt, so it's not all my fault I'm still dating, and still dating younger women.

 

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That's so fucked up but then again, you said it.

 

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