What first attracted you to white women?

For me, I growing up never actually saw them as women that I would date because in my neighborhood and in my family, it was seen as almost asking to be killed if you were a BM. (I lived in a predominantly black neighborhood, but it was still seen as dangerous for a BM to do it in terms of livelihood.) I always did however see some white women as attractive on screen, i.e. Charlotte from Sex and the City or Scarlett Johannsen, etc. but to make a long story short, white women were always considered forbidden. Plus, it pissed black girls off a lot when they saw a seemingly upstanding BM with a WW. When you add in the fact that I think I always had a natural tendency to be attracted to women who looked like me, WW were off limits entirely...until recently.

Recently, I met a WW accidentally while working....I was not thinking about dating her initially but I talked to her at length and I realized that we had some things in common and she was very nice. I struggled with asking her out initially not because I wasn't attracted to her, but because of the fear of what was in her subconscious...(I know that some BM can relate to this...(I wondered if she were racist, even though she seemed nice and of course you don't want to ask someone out who would just as soon call you the N word.) But it turns out the more I talked to her, that she clearly wasn't racist. I actually even questioned myself as to why I was attracted to her because I had NEVER been attracted to a WW the way I was to her in MY ENTIRE LIFE and I'm in my twenties. Ultimately, we went and had a couple of casual lunches...It didn't turn into anything serious, (she wasn't single, she just wanted a friend...LOL) but it was a learning experience for me. I realized that the apprehension that I had in terms of dating WW was made of bullshit and that most of the myths and crap that I had been fed while growing up was just another way to keep human beings apart from each other. I remember someone else posted an interesting message about how the KKK worked so hard to terrify people into separating. They knew the nature of the human spirit. Once people mixed together, after a while, they wouldn't see race and we would have an inate ability to like one another. This woman that I shared a couple of casual lunches with taught me a lot. She was a pleasure spending time with. And in a lot of ways, even more so than SOME black women that I have been with. I don't choose to shun dating women of my own race, but no longer will I exclude women of other races either.

And I am glad that DC seems to be more open than I thought to dating other races....

I hope some other guys share their stories as well.......

 

Once I got past my racial hangups it kind of came natural.

For me women are women.

I don't really have a story to tell but having options is nice.... 8)

 

The Attraction/What First Attracted You to.......

I grew up in the Midwest, and while there wasn't any exact moment in time, I do recall developing my first physical attraction to a white girl when I was around 7 years old.
As my sexuality expanded, it became apparent I was headed that way on up to the very moment as I post. My parents showed an ongoing moderate disapproval as I grew up, and it wasn't until my later high school years that I began to bloom with full self expression.
The area I attended high school in was clearly rife with racial boundaries you didn't cross publicly.I can recall having crushes on white girls who befriended me, but wouldn't allow the relationship to go any further.I attended a Polytechnic in England briefly, and found lots of liberation there.
After college, the only real issue was finding quality relationships moreso than just "willing participants." Adulthood allows for multiple opportunities for "encounters," but the novelty portion of this lifestyle has long since worn away and now my ideal is a relationship to based on that same mutual interracial attraction, but for the relationship to mature and transcend past that.
My post rambled because your question brought back memories.Thanks so much.

 

As a child, me and a boyhood friend used to like this girl in our same class. We flirted with her and we let her know we liked her. Her grandmother didn't like that at all and discouraged her from pursuing anything other than a friendship.

I do think about her every now and then. Also, my kindigarten teacher was the first woman I had been attracted to. She helped me see my potential and looked out for me. She died a few years later, she will always have a place in my heart.

 

Well for me my attraction goes back to my school years. I remember a girl I knew from the first grade that I use to flirt with and she'd flirt back at me. It was an memory that stuck with me as I grew up and struggled with my feelings on white girls. I remember being a 13 yr old in 1994 and telling myself I'd never date a white girl after the whole OJ thing went down. Well 1999 comes around and after finishing a long 4 yrs of high school I meet a girl from a little town in Iowa not too far from me and the rest is history.