what do white women love about black men?

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You're preference?

 

oh yes, has been since i was younger lol

 

First of all. I love white women. Now a WW I knew through a friend of mine was after me for a while(I had a girlfriend at the time) told me because I asked her "why was she into me" and she said because she saw how I treated women with respect and she thought that was so sexy(I guess she must have had some DickHeads in her lifetime). She told me she loved my lips my wavy hair and that I had a good aura about me. I'm not going to lie, she had me smiling. So to make a long story short, as soon as I broke up with my old girlfriend(it just wasn't working out anyway) she was right there waiting for me. I think WW just want to be loved and they see the BM as person for the job.

 

i have more than once seen ww say they get treated alot better by bm

 

There is a kind of respect I get from BM that I don't get from WM. I don't mean to say that WM aren't respectful - it's hard to word this right - it's more like the....texture? of the respect is different.

Maybe it has to do with the fact that in our culture, white men are at the top of the totem pole, and regardless of how aware they are of their privilege, it's still there in operation, so even when they treat you like an equal, there's an underlying tone of "look how cool I am, I treat you as though you were an equal." Which of course is an entirely different thing than really seeing you that way.

 

See, that's funny. I've had different experiences. I've been treated like crap by both wm AND bm, and like a queen by, again, both wm and bm. I don't see a huge difference based on culture. What I see is a difference in the individual. Which has nothing to do with colour or culture.

 

Yes. Exactly.

 

same here very true, i guess it just depends on the persons exp, but iam suprised at how many ww i have seen say it

 

I think it's crazy for any man to treat his woman any different than he would treats his mother. It's all about RESPECT.

 

You're assuming that all men treat their mothers well...

And you're also assuming that he's not a mama's boy, either, in which case, perfect! BUT...if I have to move a nipple out of the way to make out with my man cause he's so plastered to her that he's still nursing...I'll pass.

How about a general 'treat people with respect'? lol

 

Agreed.

Not all men treat their mothers well. It's a nice fantasy to think that they do, but it's not the truth.

 

Well said Sin. I have almost no experience of BW except for a one night stand. All my positive and negative experiences with women have been with WW and few mixed race ones so I can't lump them into the same category. There's good and bad everywhere.

 

It's subversive sexism much like subversive racism. There's a feeling of look how well I treated you even though I didn't have to. Another reason why I didn't want to watch that horseshit "The Help"

 

You really have a huge issue with that whole mama's boy thing huh. Is that shit that frequent?

 

Well said, and why I didn't see The Help as well

 

You'd be amazed how difficult it was to find a guy who:

a. Didn't have the alarm sounding on their biological clocks
b. wasn't a sexist jackass
c. wasn't still sucking at the breast for his meals.

It's pretty common. I'm all for having an adult, happy relationship with your family. The kind of relationship were boundaries are set, maintained and respected. I have dated guys where I found out that mom was still doing his laundry, or he wouldn't have food in the house except lucky charms because his mom would bring him dinner every single night. Like, dude? You're old enough to live on your own, you're old enough to cook a freakin' grilled cheese.

The issue is that people often can't find the happy medium with their families, especially with it comes to guys and their moms. They think nothing to giving mom a key so she can come in and pick up the place when she wants, or just pop in without calling or knocking. That's a huge red flag for me. If you are an adult, be one.

For instance, the current BF talks to his mother, and he cares about her, and would help her if she ever needed it...but he is his own man. He moved across the country from her because that's what he wanted to do. He would love to go back to his home state at some point, because he loved it there, and he likes his family, but that's not in the cards for right now and he's not worried about it. He does go visit his family a few times a year though, and he looks forward to it and enjoys it. I can respect that a LOT more than a man who clings to mommy's apron strings complaining that he can't go anywhere because he can't leave her like it's the first day of pre-K. For ME, that kind of person is sends up red flags.

BUT, it could be where I've lived (both in the south and up north), but there are far more mama's boys than there aren't it seems, sometimes.

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Shit I guess I'll be alone for a looooonnnnnggg time then lol.
My mom has a key to my place because a few years back I got an infection in my leg and it had to be removed and was bed ridden for a few weeks. My mom is a nurse so she insisted on being the one to change my bandage and clean the wound which was awesome because at the time my insurance didn't cover a home health aide and i would have had to pay that out of pocket. Since then I let her keep the key in case I lost it or if I had a long week of double shifts she'd stock the fridge for me. I always considered stuff like that helping out.She has shown up unannounced a couple of times but we have a good enough relationship where I tell her to stop and she stops. She doesn't insist on doing things I don't want. I didn't know adulthood meant taking on the world by yourself. I guess if I ever need a down payment on place I should probably just save up for it on my own instead of borrowing from my parents.
Several of you keep making that claim if someone isn't willing to leave their family to live somewhere else it's a sign of immaturity yet if you were to meet someone in another country that you fell "in love" with that's romantic? Interesting pov.

 

I did. My mother never had a key to my house - in case of loss, etc, I could call a locksmith. The only way a man ever had a key to my place was if we were living together.

And people who show up unannounced? I don't answer the door.

 

I guess it goes back to the immigrant thing. Family is always welcomed.
And even though you had to pay for your house yourself I doubt most of us wouldn't say no to the help from our parents much like your son didn't say no for help with his education that you paid for.

You know what I meant.