what do white women love about black men?

Discussion in 'The Attraction Between White Women and Black Men' started by kenny_g, May 25, 2008.

  1. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    better yet, go outside and get one

    :p

    then you can tell him why you love him so much every day
     
  2. LA

    LA Well-Known Member

    You make me smile. :)
     
  3. Espy

    Espy New Member

    I agree that when someone joins and immediately starts in with stereotypes I tend to roll my eyes and wonder if they're just here to try to irritate, degrade, or push a negative agenda. Nearly always a more long-term poster will point out to them that this isn't what WWBM is about, and nearly always they are taken aback by the less than cordial reception they receive, and regular posters seem equally surprised that anyone who shows up spouting stereotypes and sex would actually expect a warm reception. But personally I think this issue is caused by WWBM itself.

    If you read this forum as a guest would, without knowing the history of any of the posters, I think you'll find that the sexual undertones aren't really undertones, they're more of a theme. I'm not talking about the locker rooms either, as those areas aren't open to guests. It permeates nearly every thread in every section at some point. The regular posters know each other fairly well, or at least they've managed to build a rapport with one another, and that familiarty leads to more personal comments, more fliriting, more joking, etc. But a guest or new member might not take into account that this takes place between people who have some history on the forum. So I think they often join and immediately start in with comments about BBC, cuckolding, and how amazing BM are in bed, and that's because that's what they've observed elsewhere on the forum so they either think that it's expected or that it's welcomed. Add to that what gets said in rep, people leaving their phone number and email addresses multiple times with requests to meet, and overt sexual comments, and I think it's not that far-fetched that people might assume that it's all about hooking up. Now that's not what it is to me, and I know other longer-term members would say the same, however I can see where someone new would get precisely that impression. In any social interaction I think people tend to take their cue on what's acceptable from those around them, so even if you walk into a room of strangers and they're all freely talking about sex, you would likely assume that's an accepted topic of conversation, and you might even feel like you should mirror their conversation to fit in. Not saying that's what I would do, or that's what everyone else might do, just that I can see the logic to that approach.


    I think that's actually what Rhinda was doing LB. I think the manner in which she stated it simply seemed like she was vilifying WM and objectifying BM, and maybe she was. If BM are nothing more than big dicks and stamina to her, then that's her perception. I think anyone who loves, or has loved a BM, would take exception to his worth being reduced to just his dick, in fact I'd be shocked if that wasn't the case. But again perhaps she just led with comments she felt were appropriate based upon what she's read on here. So I now tend to take new posters with a grain of salt when they don't appear to be starting off in the best manner. Over time if they stick around you get a better feel for them, maybe they do prove that it's all stereotypes and sex to them, or maybe they settle in and establish a raport of their own, or maybe they decide WWBM isn't what they'd hoped and they leave. What I do know is that the forum is what you make it, and there's something for almost everyone on here.

    Now personally, I tend to not reply to new posters that make me roll my eyes or raise my eyebrows, but I often leave comments in rep for them. My issue with Rhinda's posts is that you can celebrate your love of someone without degrading someone else. It's not blackmenwithbigdicks&whitewomenwhohatepinkdicks.com. I think when you try to compliment anyone by running someone else down, you miss the point entirely and your compliment just gets lost in the hatefulness. But again, that's just me, my perception and my opinion. With the exception of trolls, I would always suggest new people stick around and get to know folks better. Just because you start off kinda rocky, doesn't mean it won't improve once people get to know you better... look at Andrae for instance, he did not get a warm reception, but he's still here and well-liked. :D


     
  4. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    :smt043
     
  5. swirlman07

    swirlman07 Well-Known Member

    Wow, you learn something new every day. As a newer member I must admit a certain amount of surprise as I browsed then current and past topics to see so many sexually oriented themes, actually shocked would be more accurate. But, then, I was told recently that I was uptight so perhaps it's my own sensibility for discussion of certain subjects in "room of strangers".

    In any case I have grown to enjoy many of the more serious discussions of issues affected WW/BM relationships, and societal problems confronting WW and BM separately. I'll also admit that I have enjoyed "fraternizing" in the Men's Locker Room on occasion, and peeking in the Lady's Room as well.

    In general, I think there're a great bunch of people here, each of us with our own idiosyncrasies, and that's a good thing. It makes for a mix of ideas and interesting discussions. I hope that it continues.
     
  6. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    There will be no dick sucking tonight, gents

    :(
     
  7. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    This site surely knows how to attract them. I like to consider myself fairly open-minded, but when or how people just look at someones race as a dick on a stick, I can't comprehend, especially viewing BM that way.

    I know some guys find that flattering, but it's nice when your dick has a conscience, foresight and respect for the man attached to it.

    These women who come here with that frame of mind, remind of those people on Real Sex.
     
  8. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    EXACTLY!

    lol @ dicktate
     
  9. sarahgrace

    sarahgrace New Member

    i'm as attracted to black men as i am to white men--or asians, hispanics, and indians, for that matter. so no, i dont like BM any more than i like WM...but MY MAN is black; i like HIM better than any other man
     
  10. bodhesatva

    bodhesatva Well-Known Member

    This brings up an interesting point -- I've noticed a pretty wide spectrum of preferences here. They range from no prefence but happening to be dating a black guy (people like Sarah here), to people who probably prefer black men, but don't rule white men out (like me), to women who now exclusively date black men (I believe Tamstrong fits that description).

    As long as none of those preferences originate from racist tendencies -- and I don't think they do, really for any of us -- I think it's fine to have any preferences you want. When you strip the discussion of racist stereotypes, preferring black men isn't really any different than preferring brunettes for men; some men don't prefer brunettes at all, some prefer them strongly, some prefer them to the exclusion of everyone else. And those are all totally okay!
     
  11. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    I agree with everything that you said, but unfortunately, (this is nothing against your post, but more so in addition to) in our society, "our" union is questioned the most. We can't have just a preference, we have to have some underlying psychological baggage or a motive to like what we like and be with who we want to be with. Of course there are those who do, but for those of us who don't, we still have to bear the brunt of all the negativity and be the poster children for the couplings who aren't supposed to be together.
     
  12. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Preach sista preach, you are not allowed to take anymore breaks. You hear me?
     
  13. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    I've been going through some thangs, so it's hard to commit to being here...

    But that's sweet, I'll try and post more often....
     
  14. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    New Yorkers stick together like its 9/11 ya dig:cool:
     
  15. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    LOL!

    Amen to that!
     
  16. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    I have been saying that for a hot minute. It really perked my ears when I saw joy behar ask chelsea handler why she date black guys and howard stern did the same on KIm K. but you will never see any other demographic get the grilling like that
     
  17. Nerdy Girl

    Nerdy Girl New Member

    I agree, IB... it's so dehumanizing to view a man as nothing more than a big dick, and I've always strongly believed that you can't deny someone else's humanity without denying your own as well. It's pretty icky when someone comes on the forum and talks about black men as just big dicks (and then wonders why people are creeped out?).
     
  18. AnthonyB

    AnthonyB New Member

    White women really appreciate those small things my mom used to say women look for..they seems more supportive in your goals no matter what, where or how life's been for a brother And! sorry I have to go here! I believe that with white woman they don't.... when it comes to sex..they don't make you feel that you have to earn it!..that's only a few to start..but there are more..... http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/images/smilies/038.gif
     
    Last edited: Aug 3, 2011
  19. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Well you blew it with that last line. And you were doing so well, too. :smt043
     
  20. KarenJo

    KarenJo New Member


    Well, this is a deep topic....The 3 situations explained are mind blowing to say the least.....I happened to be young and nieve and fell in love with my husband first, and then realized he was black!! That is how blinding it was for me at first. One of the many differences I found in dating him versus white men, was his loyalty and strong connection to his family, (they all stick together) and he was passionate, not just about me and our relationship, but his job, his kids, his past....he truly was grateful for the life he had bc he knew how hard things were back in the day (the 60's). I do think white men take everything for granted, they are stuck in this "leave it to beaver" frame of mind of how family should be. They have no passion, for anything. And as far as my ex-white boyfriend goes, he still can't get past the fact I dated a black man after him, he still brings it up.....if he would quit worrying so much about what the black man has took from him, he might not be a raging alcoholic who can't function in a relationship. Just sayin'!
     

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