what do white women love about black men?

Hey CuriousDiana, how many times are you going to create new screen names and post bullshit? :smt108

It must be troll season, cause a lot of you are sprouting up everywhere lately.

 

I agree

 

Don't these people have anything better to do with their lives than roam the internet stirring up trouble?

This is getting beyond obnoxious. :roll:

 

I'm not sure who was or wasn't trolling in this thread because it looks like some posts were deleted and I don't want to sound like I'm siding with anyone who may have reared their head for the explicit purpose of being disruptive, but I do think that the sentiment that was expressed in the last couple of pages by Scott and Confusedbrit has some legitimacy. Some of the posts in this thread, like Italian lady's, were really cringe inspiring. I'm not trying to be "PC" or prudish, and I certainly don't want to appear as if I'm intent on shaming someone for being open about their preferences on this website, which is supposed to be a venue for nonjudgmental discussions about BM/WW relationships. Personally, I just get uneasy and suspicious about women who only seem to view black men to be suitable as walking dildos. I don't know. Maybe I'm the one with issues. I certainly haven't ruled out that possibility.

Not trying to stir up any shit. I had a couple of people jump down my throat and a response thread was started to one of my posts a few months ago when I tried to broach this topic, and I don't want a repeat of that.

Just my $0.02.

 

Dear, not only in America white guys are arogant...

 

Love ya black people

Surely there are many reasons. Well i'll site mines:
1. Black guys are generally phisiclly more beautiful
2.Black guys are generally more romantic, hearty and true
3.Once you've loved a black guy there is no way you'd be liking or be attracted by the whites....
4.White guys are dull. Hm, not guys only
5.White guys have long ago forgotten romantics
6.I'll be insulting to anybody if I continue....
7.Just love black guys!
8. All of teh above is not only in sexual aspect

 

Good call darling!

Now could you please round up all the trolls, and feed them to the buzzards.

 

Don't ya mean, feed them to the wolves? Or is the lions? Or could it be both? :lol:

 

I agree to some extent. It's not all about dick size. Because really, how much time are you spending having sex vs being with the person fully clothed?

 

I don't care how these trolls are devoured, but the use of buzzards would be slow, yet methodical, thus increasing the longevity, and misery of a painfully sure death.

 

I really hate to rain on your buzzard parade , but buzzards eat carrion - which means they only eat meat that's already dead. If you're looking for slow deaths, how about an army of red ants?? :lol:

 

It's Definately His Eyes!

I really liked what I saw here because everyone seems to be honest about their feelings. I think we have a right to preferences. I truly believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Therefore who is to say what is beautiful and what is not. I see me, and I know I am beautiful! I don't need a man to tell me, or show me, but I do love it when he looks at me with those beautiful eyes that say he is really enjoying the view.

It's true appreciation of the whole picture, don't get me wrong, I do NOT feel that he is trying to undress me with his eyes like many men have. I know he likes the way I think, and believe, he wants to know ME, he's not trying to change me. He respects me, he is hardworking almost driven, he is caring, he is wise far beyond me, he is smart (but not a smartelic), he doesn't play games, but he's very fun, he's real, honest to a fault, gentle yet strong, trustworthy, he's mature but not boring, he'll sacrifice his own comfort in a heartbeat for the right cause, and he is absolutely drop dead gorgeous, oh, and did I mention he happens to be black.

Yes, I love his black skin and his dark eyes, with all their expression of emotion, I love his thick lips, and wide nose, I love his strong muscles, and warm touch, but I didn't look for him, he found me, I didn't look for black or any other color, I tried to ignore him, but he was persistent and kind, never overstepping his hand, and always a gentleman. I love the way he gets nervous around me and tries not to say the wrong thing or the way he can't think straight, or even bites his nails when I say or do something unexpected, or the way he drew in his breath sharply when I tossed my hair. Why I effect him this way I don't know, but I love it. Why he likes me, I don't know, but I know he does, and that's what counts.

I grew up feeling very negatively about my own shape, I have always been full figured and short, so that makes my full figure look fuller. I am a size 14 petite as I am only 5' tall. I used to wish for a breast reduction. White guys were cruel and called me all kinds of names from "fatty" to "tub of lard". All this when I was a very healthy and active teen (at that time about a size 10) but I wanted to be a size 6 with no breasts or butt. (during the 70's when skinny was in)

So, I found a skinny Mexican who liked my figure and I married him, at 17. There weren't any black men to chose from! (Bad choice, but no one told me not to marry the first guy that came along.) I honestly think my feelings about myself set me up for a bad marriage. This is not to say all Mexican's make bad husbands.

Anyway through the years, and especially since my divorce, I have learned that I am beautiful, I think I look pretty good, I'm very comfortable with my shape. Sure I would still like to loose a some weight, but I am proud of the way God made me.

I find that more Black men and Hispanics (very few white men) tend to prefer women in my shape. So, is it not natural that I would be attracted also to them?

In short, Maybe I Love Him, because He first loved me! Is that so wrong? He sees me more beautifully than I see myself.

 

God bless you both...

You know, there is a quote by Tolstoy: "We always think that when someone loves us, it's because we're so wonderful. And we don't realize that it's the one who loves us who is wonderful."

 

Thanks, I like that quote, I've read a number of your posts, you seem like a very sensible person. I really am here more for the education. I have learned a lot.

 

No you are not crazy you are completely spot on and the ones that jumped down your throat simply fell into the category that you called out.

 

I dont believe I finally got through all of these post. Whew!

I have found in my experience that most black men treat me with a lot more respect than any white man did.

I love the color contrast.

I have found that black men make better lovers.

They listen better, and even hear what is being said.

But the respect thing. Yeah, that goes a long way with me.

 

It seems to me in that today's world where anything goes, people who are more traditional, sometimes end up feeling inadequate, unfit, or that they "have issues" as you said. However it's not necessary to feel that way.

I feel the exact same way as you about white women who view black men as walking dildoes - I don't like it. That's why I often end up fighting with trolls on this site and getting them banned, thanks to the webmaster. I get tired of reading that "most white women want black men for dick", "99% of white women want black men for dick" and all that type of garbage. Some do and some don't! Just like some black men who date white women are bootyhounds and some aren't. There are many white women on this site who are seriously involved with, married to, living with or have kids with black men, and they don't deserve to read this garbage when they log on to this site!

 

First off, Tinkerbell, that was a beautiful post about love, self-acceptance and happiness. I'm glad you have found someone who loves you as you are and gives you the freedom to love yourself, and therefore enjoy life rather than obsessing over imagined inadequacies. I have to say though that in general I have been so disappointed to read the reasons that women here give for being interested in black men. Almost every thread makes mention of sexual prowess/endowment and contrasting color as significant reasons. How can intrigue be reduced to an appendage and pigmentation! I fell in love with a black man 22 years ago because he was intelligent, kind funny, had a sunny disposition and positive outlook on life, and he happened to be black. Did I find him physically attractive? Yes, but there were so many factors that combined to create that initial spark. Black men, in my experience have been more assertive, outgoing, funloving etc. and those things pull me in their direction. Would I ONLY date black men? No. If I met a wonderful person of another race, I would explore that too. I guess I have a bit of a problem with women who only date black men and the best reason they can give is, "he has a big dick and he's good in bed". Black men have so much to offer, I hate to see their great qualities trivialized. Stepping off my soapbox now...:smt087

 

That's what happened to me! And yet trolls come to this site and flame me, saying that I've "experimented with brothers" and then went back to my own. So, pretty much, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. You date different races, then you're "experimenting". You date black men exclusively, then you're a slut who's addicted to black dick. If you're dating your own race, you can change thirty boyfriends in ten years and nobody will say a word. But if you're dating interracially, boy do you have some explaining to do.:roll:

 

I'm just glad to hear all of the reasons the WW here are giving for their love of BM.If you do a google or yahoo search and type in the the phrase "white women like black men" you will most likely end up seeing the phrase "why black men love white women" or "why black men are marrying white women"...it's offensive because we never take into account the fact that it's white women that are choosing these black men as well. You might date someone for a while because of his bedroom ability or his glimmering abs but long term relationships/marriages are built on more than that...the women on this thread are to be commended for showing everyone what IR love is all about.