What brings me here (this site, and life in general)...

... is to understand as much as I can, and be understood. This is something words cannot tell a person, you just know the feeling when it's experienced.

So, my current situation... I am with someone, and there seems to be some differences that I'd like to know if it has to do with us in general, or us growing up with different color skin.

To put it out there... he's married, with a nice size family. Which lately, I'm thinking we may be coming to a halt, because this can only go so far. (One of my curses seems to be that I'm attracted to unavailable people.) I'm starting to think it'd be nice to wake up with someone instead of an empty bed.

A huge thing that we've been dealing with, is the fact he wants to have a child with me. Well aparently, it's not so huge of a deal for him, and he thinks the words, "I got you" brings me comfort. He doesn't pressure or anything, and don't get me wrong... I do want a (biracial) child, he is handsome, I trust he'd support.. BUT, I want a family myself (which he can't give me), and am super nervous about being a single mom.

So, this is TMI for an intro, but that's kinda my style.. I'm gonna have a look around, and hopefully meet new (understanding) new people.. btw, some general info about me is, I'm 33, (yes, white) female, living in Chicago, but I did just check that stuff off on my profile, so if there's more you'd like to know, feel free to ask . . . . Lady J

 

welcome ...is his wife black ? i'm doing research LOL

 

don't you think he is talking about child just to keep you near him? Usually they never leave family, no matter what they say.. If you OK to be the other one it's up to you.. But you know world is full of FREE handsome black man... but we all know, heart can be blind sometimes, no matter what brain talking.. and only god can judge us... i've been with wrong choices by myself , so understand you
anyway welcome to site :smt039

 

The knives definitely about to come out on this one. Get the popcorn ready

 

Lol in for the fuckery. Welcome

 

She is, but he also has a white baby mama.

 

Thanks for the welcome and understanding!! Yeah, I hear what you're saying, and I would never ask him to leave his fam. .. and about being the side chic, I'm not sure how I feel about that. Like I said, I'm really wanting a child, and he seems suitable to plant the seed, and support. However, this would be secret from his old lady, and I don't know how that would work.. I want my child to have an available father, not someone who can swing through every once in awhile. I have started to look around, but I still feel caught up with him, and miss out on new opportunities. Guess I'll just have to ride this out and see how it goes..

 

I'm hoping for a more peaceful outcome

 

oh girl, for me it took 2 years to leave person, who was ruining my life it's not easy to change something in your live, with feelings involved.. but always think about yourself first, what will be best for you, like really really best

 

Black wife, white baby mama and you tryina be white baby mama #2.

OK then

 

{passes out the popcorn}

 

Are you serving any refreshments with that popcorn!

 

Hater-aid lol (with a splash of Vodka)

 

:smt043:smt043 we are going to need more than a splash

 

Ok I'll bring the whole bottle

 

Lmao that's exactly how I look meandering through this site sometimes :smt043:smt043:smt043:smt043

 

You gonna partake of the Vodka bottle I am passing around too Raider? :smt096

 

Why yes, yes I will :mrgreen: I'm such a lightweight though lol. I rarely drink but I do love me some vodka

 

Here ya go!

 

More to the story than me tryina have any label with him. From the start, I knew our relationship was untraditional.