what are your personal "red flags" when dating?

War/life-style. I was a Marine Corps wife for ten years and it is nothing I ever want to deal with again.

 

Ah. That's rough. Thanks for the reply.

 

i felt a little bad with that LOL... I haven't been in more than 6 foreign countries but because I just didn't have the money/possibilities to do that. I would feel bad if that was a reason for a man to think I'm not a good date :-S

Not chriticizing your standards, of course...just a thought.





About me:

ONE BIG HUGE RED FLAG is when they say "I'll call you tonight" and they call 5 days after with all sorts of excuses. FAIL
In general when they disappear for days because they were "busy with work" and stuff it's gonna be a red flag. They're gonna make you feel like you are the obsessive one but the reality is just that they don't like you.

When they say "I don't have real plans, what happens happens" ---- they just want to fuck you.

 

Is telling this to ladies a fashion or something around here?
When a woman say something that men here don't agree with, they strumentalize the fact that she's single to say that posting like she does is the main reason for her being single.

:smt071

 

I guess I'll throw in mine...

- Racist, uses the n- word (I'm with you Tam on this)

- No job.

- No car or license (You can't live in this area and not have a car...you just can't).
- Vain (You can usually tell this pretty quickly).

- Refuses to take responsibility for himself. Always has a reason why he didn't get this job or that job. (Again, Tam...lol)

- Shows posessive/jealous tendencies. (If you're paying attention, this will come out rather soon, too).

- No ambition.

- Can't speak English. Swears constantly. Subject-verb agreement is impossible.
- to go with the above...if the word "mines" ever escapes his lips, and it's not referring to the caves in the earth that miners enter....NO.

- Children. Period.

 

Yeah, and after going through an abusive relationship, I just prefer not to have that happen again.

 

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If a woman had these qualities, she'd be considered a catch. :smt042

 

Does not make six figure
Never been a prom queen
Never won Miss America Pageant
Does not drink excessively
Does not think Foot ball is a religion
Does not like recreational drugs
Does not like anal on the 1st date
Does not like toting gun
Does not like going to shooting range
Does not like to vaccum naked
Does not want me answering pages or checking msgs in middle of sex
Does not like to get up early cook breakfast and bring it to bed while I catch up with NFL highlight
Does not drive frantically to my company to give me a quicke during my lunch break.
Thinks her opinion matter.


That's it for now, lol

 

She can't make more money than me.
A nice ass is a must.
She better not cut her hair either bald or really short, or I'm leaving.
She better not be clingy and let a nigga have his space.
She can't be texting or calling me all day errday.
She can't be asking me questions like where I been at if I come in late.



That is all.

 

LMAO! I'm so with you on this!

I see you have very high standards

 

Playing games
Elusive
Secretive
Consistently undependable
Inconsiderate
Cocky, my shit don't stink syndrome
One set of rules for him, another for me
Poor hygiene
Velcro
Possessive
Recreational drugs
Excessive drinking

 

I don't know, I wouldn't consider "poor hygene" a red flag.... more like a HELL NO!

 

haha, speakka da truth!
All of mine was prolly a "hell no" in my book

 

So you're saying all that stuff constitutes a "real woman"?