trepidation barriers of meeting ww/bm: whats the syndrome ?

goodlove · Jun 15, 2010

Espy said: ↑

I think people ask that question for a number of reasons, and not merely the reason you specified. However, regardless of the reason for the question, there's really only one way to get past it and that's to just get out there and meet people.
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do you remember the name of the girl who was a longtime member and she was going to africa for six months to see her husband ?

has she come back yet ?

archangel · Jun 15, 2010

goodlove said: ↑

do you remember the name of the girl who was a longtime member and she was going to africa for six months to see her husband ?

has she come back yet ?
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I think it was mari something. I haven't heard back from her in a while.

Espy · Jun 15, 2010

goodlove said: ↑

do you remember the name of the girl who was a longtime member and she was going to africa for six months to see her husband ?

has she come back yet ?
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That's Sin Mari and I believe she's due to return in September.

goodlove · Jun 15, 2010

Espy said: ↑

That's Sin Mari and I believe she's due to return in September.
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cool. Im looking forward to her return so she can tell us all the wonderful stories she has

BlackMasterJay · Jun 16, 2010

scott1618 said: ↑

The key is approaching politely and confidently like a man regardless of race. If any woman has an issue with a gentleman politely approaching her and she makes it about race then you don't want her and she doesn't deserve you anyway.
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Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho

Liquid Swords · Jun 16, 2010

BlackMasterJay said: ↑

Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho
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LMAO

Espy · Jun 16, 2010

BlackMasterJay said: ↑

Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho
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:smt043:smt043:smt043

JordanC · Jun 16, 2010

BlackMasterJay said: ↑

Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho
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You are bad. :smt042

christine dubois · Jun 16, 2010

BlackMasterJay said: ↑

Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho
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Honestly- that bullshit of- "you don`t want me , because I am black" is soo old, so used..:smt021

but you brought it on the table as someting funny...so it`s excused..

goodlove · Jun 16, 2010

BlackMasterJay said: ↑

Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho
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that is tooooo hilarous. Im gonna do it !!!!

Raul Sinclair · Jun 16, 2010

BlackMasterJay said: ↑

Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho
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:smt043:smt043:smt043

goodlove · Jun 24, 2010

Raul Sinclair said: ↑

:smt043:smt043:smt043
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LOL

goodlove · Jul 10, 2010

BlackMasterJay said: ↑

Interesting.

However, here is how you should approach:

1.Smile sheepishly, ensuring you produce unique facial contortions causing you to resemble montgomery burns. While youre doing this, do not hesitate to grind your palms together whilst saying *excellent*

2. Your initial ice breaker should ALWAYS be *hey are you racist*. Ofcourse, she will say *no*, which will pave way for you to say, *if youre not racist you should go out with me eh*. Trap her.

3. Make sure she sees your bulging stiffy (this could be obtained by wearing those skinny Lenny Kravitz jeans)

4. other important mysterious stuff matter as well, like raising your eyebrows repetitively in rhymmic fashion while grinning just a little and licking your lips

^^You do that and you will get em weminz fa sho
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Not the skinny jeans . LOL

goodlove · Jul 10, 2010

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here is an article on meeting someone from yahoo.com:

4 simple steps to meeting someone
By Laura Gilbert

You know the type: the average-looking guy who can meet someone new while out buying light bulbs, or the rather plain Jane who comes home from a dental appointment with the name and number of a potential suitor. We set out to discover just what makes these people so adept at meeting others so you can try their best pick-up tips. Here are the four steps to follow when you see someone you’d like to meet and get to know better.

Step #1: Smile and wave
Don’t be afraid to use gestures that say, “I’d like to chat with you” — whether that means a smile, a nod, a wave or just eyebrows raised in expectation. Laura Lewis, 27, from River Falls, WI, recently spent much of her lunch hour in a long line at a bank. But instead of getting annoyed, she got a number from the cute guy standing behind her. “We were checking each other out the whole time we stood there,” she explains, “and just as I finished at the teller, I gave him a big, big smile. He gave me a cute little ‘hi there’ wave, so I busied myself rearranging my wallet until he was free to talk.”
How to practice it: Even though it may seem bold, smiling at strangers is the top way to let them know it’s safe to break through. Try it on everyone and anyone: the bored workers at the post office, a harried mother in front of you at the checkout aisle, or even the toddler sitting in her cart. As you get used to being a smiler, you’ll start doing it naturally — including at the people you most want to meet.
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Step #2: Be the one who speaks first
Anyone can talk back to someone, but real people-meeters know the trick is starting a chat out of the blue. Susan RoAne, author of How to Create Your Own Luck and What Do I Say Next?, says the secret lies in seeing the world around you as full of opportunities to talk versus waiting to be addressed by someone else.
How to do it: In order to break the ice with people you want to date, it helps to start with people you’d normally never speak to — say, the married guy in another department at work or a grandma at the bus stop. Since you’re not worried about whether they’ll shoot you down, you can truly be yourself and get used to talking to perfect strangers. “You have to get comfortable doing it, or you’ll hesitate when you see someone in particular who you want to talk to,” says RoAne. “If you have to think about what to say or feel self-conscious, you’ll hesitate and the moment will be gone.”

Step #3: Work your chit-chat charm
OK, what the heck should you talk about? The experts advise finding something that you two share — that could easily be something in your environment, like the weather or the huge new billboard that went up across the street. Or it could be something in the world around you, like a big verdict that was announced on the news earlier in the day or the fact that the next day is officially the longest day of the year.
How to practice it: Work on having an opinion or asking for the other person’s view of things rather than just throwing a remark out there. So if you’re in the cereal aisle, don’t mutter to yourself, “Wow, expensive...” Turn to the object of your affection and say, “Wow, can you believe it? Almost six dollars for this! Is it just this brand or are they all so pricey?” Similarly, if you’re in line for lunch and the folks behind the deli counter are taking their time, don’t just say, “Gee, this line is moving so slowly.” Instead, try to get some playful banter going by saying, “I’ll bet you a little bag of chips that we’re not out of here by 1 p.m.” The idea is to open the door to a chat rather than just tossing out an observation.

Step #4: Then... stop talking!
Bill Keith, 29, from Hudson, OH, has a knack for charming everyone around him. He says his secret is knowing when to stop yapping and start listening. “People aren’t used to having other people really listen to them, so that’s how I win a lot of people over,” he says. So whether he’s remarking about an old Madonna song that just came on the supermarket muzak (which is how he met his best friend) or asking someone at Starbucks which shaker has cocoa and which has cinnamon and whether really makes a difference, Keith opens the door to a chat and then shuts his mouth. His new acquaintance walks away feeling connected since Keith lavished on some personal attention.
How to practice it: Next time you start a conversation, make an effort to ask the person you’re chatting with at least three questions before making another observation of your own. That will get you in the groove of letting the other person open up to you... and it shows your level of appreciation for what someone else has to say. And when people feel appreciated, chances are, they’ll want to continue that conversation.

Freelance writer Laura Gilbert has contributed to Cosmopolitan, Maxim, and The Modern Humorist. She admits that she meets most of her friends — and too many of her dates — at work.
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there is an added barrier for IR possiblities....lets be honest here for a bm trying to meet a ww at a store or a resteraunt would be tuff because of the racial barrier. there are trepidations for men as it is because you dont want to get shot down but for a bm is the added of the race issue. IT COULD BE WHAT I CALL the EMMETT TILL syndrome.
how can a bro get pass the trepidation and how can a ww help so we can hook up ?
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Yall have to be a tad bit patient when a guy come on and say how do I meet a ww ?

It does take guts to approach a woman of any race ...same race or not (especially another race and given the history). we are talking str8 up walk up. it would possibly be easier if the situation was where you were in constant contact of the person you are interested in.

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