To the white women: What's your black male preference?

I started this thread to find out what type of black men do white women go for the most, if at all. Here are your choices, ladies. Be upfront with your answers, OK?



Thuggish/Ghetto

Preppy/College-oriented

Contemporary/Urban


Slightly effeminate

Very Effeminate (ha, ha)

Traditional (meaning elderly, porch sitting, oldies music liking, fatherly types)



Player types (suave, sophisticated men)

Ghetto player types (suave, sophisticated types, mixed in with thuggish tendencies)



Suburban

Rustic/Bumpkin

Foreigners (African, Jamaican, South American,etc.)

Not sure

I think I'll stick to white men now (ha, ha)

 

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I like the honest, dependable, hardworking, blue collar, Muslim or Christian (just not fundamentalists). I also like a man who is secure in his manhood and isnt always on the defensive or combatitive about it. I also like men who really likes women, and I am not talking about likes looking at women, but rather one who enjoys their company and their womanhoods. I also want him to be social conscious and about more than making money or what rims are on his car.

 

Hmm.

I think anyone who is intelligent, witty, kind and has similar values/morals regardless of their outward demeanor would probably be pretty interesting.

Bumpkin. Hmmm Bumpkin. Doesn't sound very flattering at all...not very adult somehow...maybe I'd give that one a miss, but you never can tell.

:wink:

 

A mix of: Preppy/College-oriented and Contemporary/Urban

 

Well I'm a studious geek with a fun side, so all my men tend to reflect that whatever colour they are.

 

No real type preference I have outside of a typically date black men... they have all been different.

More important than any of the superficial stuff is his character.

 

The superficial stuff is an inherit part of character in all of us, black, white, male or female.

 

Ghetto player types. I like a BM who is classy and can dress up and be comfortable for the right occasion, but I've gotta feel protected if the need be, so he's gotta be a little "ghetto". I also like a smooth talker, but one who knows how to interact with any group of people in any culture or situation without feeling intimidated. My pet peeve is a man who likes to initiate or get into fights, but I gotta admit, I need a man who I feel can hold his own and take control if that situation arises.

 

Man...sounds just like me... 8)

 

blondeblonde... what is feel protected?? just cause he's a thug he can protect you....you know how many guys i know who fits the type of ghetto type black man your looking that is dead now..... trying to be hard and gangtsa in the club in front of his woman and then get shot to death... unless your dating JESUS HIMSELF NO MAN CAN PROTECT U FROM HARM..... HEY BUT EACH HIS/HER OWN

 

it's the 21st century and women still need to "feel protected"? what about the police? LOL. definitely a slap in the face to feminists advocating "equality" and "fairness" between the sexes. maybe you just can't deny biology, and i have to somewhat respect the fact the jerk-chasing nut-cases at least are in-tune with their natural instincts.

LOL.

 

Maybe it's just a woman's natural instinct to feel like she needs a man that will step in and at least SEEM intimidating to another man if he's disrespectful to her...I don't know, maybe it's just me. I'm not really the feminist kind, more of the traditional lady with traditional morals and the belief that a man and a woman both have certain responsibilities in life, one of which for a man is the general instinct to protect his girl. Just my opinion.

 

I know this thread belongs to the females but let me add something. 8) My style would be slightly difficult to make a conclusion on but i'd have to say its a mix between preppy/college oriented, contemporary/urban, player/suave and Foreign. I'd explain so dont panic. :wink: Well, i am extremely college-oriented so i can be like the ideal college kid from the East Coast but then on another day, i can dress in an urban sense you know Timbs, jeans, hats, throwbacks and all that. I wear all that indoors and/or to go shopping though. I say foreign because i adhere to certain dogmas to living i picked up from my years living outside the U.S.A. Then i can be a suave sometimes especially when im out which for some reason attracts women and as you can well imagine, causes endless tirades from my fiancee. :lol: I hope that's clean and cut. 8)

 

I like multi-dimensional people.......dress up, dress down, dress scenester, go to the theatre, go fishing, go camping, see live music, do whatever you like to do...just be uniquely yourself. Probably because I'm that way -- everything is interesting to me in some capacity. Lots of layers.......

 

I was kinda curious about this, too. What kind of areas or places do you hang out in if you feel the need to be "protected" if the "situation arises?"

Most people go out as couples and do their thing without incident.

 

well i'd have to say that i'm initially (visually!) attracted to men that obviously have taken care of their bodies- they don't have to be taye diggs but show me that they care about their health, teeth, etc. i'll admit that most black men (all of the types you listed...) will get a second look from me but i guess i generally prefer the guys that are not ghetto/player types. even though i might be attracted to someone who falls in that category- i think that attraction is just temporary(kind of like forbidden b/c it's something that i would not normally go for)- so, i like men who are loving, responsible, hard-working (they don't have to make a lot of money, but show some ambition to be successful at whatever you are doing), laid back, it doesn't really matter to me if they're shy or outgoing as long as they are confident in themselves and we click. i wasn't sure what you meant by contemporary/urban but i really like warrick brown's character on CSI!!

 

What I meant by urban is, your average black male (mainly young) who isn't ghetto, but preppy, suburban, or country/rustic either, nor is a player type, etc, you know, a moderate man.

 

they are not as interested in us, they are more interested in the stereotype perhaps

 

well, i'm not attracted to the "stereotypes" but of course there are certain characteristics and physical traits i like in a man, black or white. i don't mean to offend anyone when i say this, but one reason i'm attracted to black men is i love their skin color- it's a trait i like- i suppose just as some people like red hair or blondes or pale skin or whatever.