There Has To Be A Reason

You misinterpreted the statistics. It said 15% cohabit with non-Black women, which means 15% live with non-Black women together. And 10% marry out of their race, which means 10% marry non-Black women. Simply putting 15% and 10% together doesn't get you 25% because of the conditions. It gets tricky here. How much of the 10% category is also part of the 15% category? The majority are if not all, because married people live together. You're looking at 15% open to interracially dating and some percentage under 15% open to dating white women, because not all Black men who interracially date like white women.

 

Well I would say keep looking :lol:

It's all good Boss, I think you and I agreed that we just don't agree or understand each other when it comes to this topic so yeah I concur with Nilan...
Time for a new topic

 

And another thing ... Stop watching Oprah!

 

Well it's not a life long search. Just something to chat about, because when I go to bed this won't be on my mind. But while I'm here I might as well be passionate about it.

 

why, b/c she made me get the statistics all wrong? lol.

 

No, I think a lot of people could've made the same mistake. It's not about that ... it's just that Oprah is a rich idiot.

 

my reason is the same as the reason a black man would be attracted to a black woman. it is my choice, it is my comfort, it is who i relate to most and it is who i am attracted to

some are attracted to one type and others another type

 

A lot of things you say make a lot of sense, but I completely disagree with you here.

 

Since when do you guys start believing American statistics on interracial dating. First of all, it is estimated (not exact). Secondly, I am sure the general bias against Interracial marriage manifests itself in the stats. In other words, I have no doubt that the number of black and white couples is much higher than the current estimates wants us to believe. The point being that if the numbers are smaller, people will feel more hesitant about going down that path. The contrary however encourages IR. I don't think some people are ready for that.

The same thing happens when newspapers give estimates of minority members in America. Using common sense and a little bit of math, it is obvious that there are more minority members than stated in statistics.


Finally, it is possible for one to have preference for another race while still in love with ones people or culture. I am Nigerian and love (emphasis on love) many aspects of my culture. Yet, I would date a white woman. Why? I don't know....and I don't really care.

Also, I have realized that having a preference has nothing to do with what kind of woman you actually end up with. While I would say I have a slight preference for white women(usually under the pretext of "all things being equal. This however is never the case in reality), the last 2 women I have been fascinated with weren't white (well, still aren't). I don't think the theory of people like what they can't get holds in my case. I've always had options when it comes to women.

I would also presume that attraction isn't a static thing. In other words, your life experience can make you more likely to do perform certain actions. Given that you continue to live, there is no guarantee that a new predisposition won't arise. It could then be said that attraction evolves.

 

Since when did it matter whether or not someone has or has no preference in a site like this anyway?

And, this thread is useless, since Who's The Boss is just dancing around what everyone who disagrees with him says, simply because he can't accept the answers given to him. Asking a question about there being a reason, when there are numerous posts in this site, stating different reasons from each individual, is a complete waste of everyone's time in here.....

along with the fact that people who make topics like these, see nothing wrong with being 'exclusively' attracted to, OR having a preference for those within their 'own race', but will argue otherwise if it's the other way around... :roll:


but, wait, that can't be racist, because if their skin color is the same, then it automatically isn't. :roll:

 

It's also naive to disagree with this.

 

Why? all of the white wome that I personally know have dated black men becasue they want to, not becasue they could not get a white guy.

 

The world isn't limited to the ones you only know, that's why.

 

I love you, SardonicGenie(no Spongebob). I just love your style, brotha. I also have to credit my fellow Nigerian brotha Infiniti. He was right on the money.

 

Regardless what the real numbers are, the fact remains that we are a tiny minority compared to the number of people who are dating IntraRacial, and thats the point I was trying to make.

Let me put it pluntly:

It irks me if people make us - the tiny minority - and not the vast majority of IntraRacial daters - responsible for all ills of IntraRacial couples and relationships. Not only are we responsible for the downfall of Black/Black and White/white families and relationships, we are also responsible for single mother homes, unfaithful men, perverted sexual practices, poverty and what have you ...

And now we should even sign responsible for people unable to find a "same race" mate and should practice "developing aid" in our bedrooms, punishing our significant others for their preferences and kick them out of our lives until other people have someone to spend their time with, since they obviously can't find one in the big huge IntraRacial dating pool?

Sorry, but enough is enough.

 

Ahh, its good to see that Sardonic knows all white women in this world, isn't it?
But afterall, he doesn't have to, since we all know that melanin provides black men with the

rayer: "third eye" rayer:

he knows exactly whats going on in other peoples mind, even if they state otherwise, and it's really time that we accept that white women don't have a clue about anything anyway and should just chill with our comments.

It's good that Sardonic isn't just dancing around what everyone who disagrees with him says, simply because he can't accept the answers given to him, isn't it? :wink:

Some people ... a waste of time .... :smt025

 

Yeah, I guess I'm a racist because my journey through life hasn't presented me with an opportunity of "dating" a white woman. That is so silly. You probably thought that was funny yourself.

And like it or not Oprah's show is not the only one to support those statistics. That's not the first time I seen those same exact numbers man. So ulterior motives or not, I do see correlation.

 

Yeah, like those who repeat what others say back to them in their own posts as a way of calling themselves correcting them somehow...

and, just so you know, I wasn't talking about you, or all white women in the world for that matter. I was only talking to bosox and about her, regarding HER comment, but I guess since you know me and other people in the world so much better than I do somehow, you can speak for all the white women in the world, right? :roll:

After all, you are one, so that makes you a guru on the mindset of all white women I guess .....


Along with thinking that you can speak for all black men as well, which is indicated in most of your posts...

and, more melanin may not give me a 'third eye', but in your case, it surely gives me much more common sense, and much better reading comprehension.

 

Actually no, but I was giving an example of how people who come up with these 'reasonings' think about IR.

Who cares about Oprah?

 

wait, now i see what you mean. I meant that the 15% of black males co-habitating with white women were not married but just shacking up. i'm sure there is data to support it somewhere online.