The REAL reason BM and WW are attracted to each other

Law of opposites

Marx and Engels started with the observation that everything in existence is a combination or unity of opposites. For example, electricity is characterized by a positive and negative charge and atoms consist of protons and electrons which are unified but are ultimately contradictory forces. Even humans through introspection find that they are a unity of opposite qualities. Masculinity and femininity, selfishness and altruism, humbleness and pride, etc. The Marxist conclusion being that everything "contains two mutually incompatible and exclusive but nevertheless equally essential and indispensable parts or aspects." The basic concept being that this unity of opposites in nature is the thing that makes each entity auto-dynamic and provides this constant motivation for movement and change. This idea was borrowed from Georg Wilhelm Hegel who said: "Contradiction in nature is the root of all motion and of all life."

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Eldridge Cleaver in his book Soul On Ice postulated that in American society, White women exemplified archetypical femininity and Black men were the masculine ideal. The attraction is inevitable.
He said this is why BM/WW couplings are still mildly taboo in today's society, because it's threatening to White male patriarchal society.

I tend to follow the P&J theory, we just taste good together!!:weedman:

 

That explains attraction but what about compatibility? I only ask because I always see/hear books, interviews, stories about the attraction behind IR dating but no one ever seems to get into the subject of the actual relationship.

 

I like the PB&J theory too. Some things are just good together.

 

When I find my soulmate I'll better understand and have an answer for you. I'm still trying to find "the one".

 

I always find that funny, there are plenty of women from all ethnic groups who are always open to dating a WM yet they complain at the sight of any women who shows interest in being with a BM.

I don't know if they're being greedy or what.

 

Because that part differs? And can't be broken down to a science? That's the only idea I can come up with. Not that I look into this subject often, I've had ideas however.

 

The relationship is just like any other. Just because you skin is a different color, doesn't mean that all of a sudden we are two people from a different planet. That's the whole point, we are not that different, so it's ok to date, your family isn't going to melt, nor should you get any "cool points" for it.

When you close the doors, the issues all boil down to the same things they do for same race/ethnic couplings; financials, family, social life, what to eat tonight. Maybe you have different perspectives because you generally have different backgrounds, but this could also prove true within the same race. This would be more of a environment, social, class, upbringing type of deal.

Although there may be some things that are inherent to our race/ethnicity, but nothing that should hold you back from IR relationship. I once had a girlfriend ask me, "why do you acknowledge most the older black people you see in passing" (but not as many older white in comparison). This was after a trip to the local mall. I had not noticed that i was doing it right off the back. Eventually after becoming self aware of it, I realized that I was brought up that way. I acknowledge my elders (in public), not say that white people don't, and I'm old enough to where that was instilled in me. Granted, I will acknowledge a fair amount of every race/ethnicity, it was noticeable obviously.

This female could never understand it, but she respected very much, and she always praised me for being a gentleman, especially in these days. You know your doing something right (or maybe wrong lol), when you hear through your parent(s) about yourself. Rant over.

 

I do see differences when I date WW as opposed to dating BW or any other kinds of women. I've also heard WW say they see differences when they date BM, so yes they do differ.

 

Honestly, it's the similarities between us (my husband and me) that attracted us, more than the differences. Yes, there was that kind of "exotic" attraction, but we are good together because we have similar tastes, humour, likes, dislikes, visions of the future etc. Hell, what started us talking was the discovery that we disliked the same people! :smt043