The Lost Art of Conversation

Since i have been in the current relationship with my partner i notice how challenging it has been for me to be forced to explain myself when we are in deep conversations. I'm finding myself trying to be a better communicator with my friend and partner. It has been said that conversation is a lost art. I have never been a good conversationalist, but this lady i have is challenging me in ways to see the world and myself in ways i have never experience before.

 

good job tiger

Conversation, and favors, are the deposits that keep our relationship account in the black (pun intended).

 

God, the guy I'm seeing has found this website :lol:

(no but seriously, he said this to me a few days ago...)

I don't think conversation is a lost art. I've been debating with my friends since uni - or before? But then I went to a goooood college, and then law school, so not a normal circle of friends, I guess....! Hell, all we do half the time is sit around in bars getting drunk and being witty :lol:

 

joliemarie, you are a woman with high standards. And, yes that can be intimidating to many men. Would that affect my relationship with a woman, yes an intelligent woman like yourself. Yes. I still remember my early dating when i was intimidated by women who knew so much more than i. It did make me feel uncomfortable in not being able to hang with her or them. It forced me to become aware. They say women are the better half of a man. I do not disagree with at all. They force us to change for the better in most cases.

 

Joliemarie isn't into clubbing...ok...not into ANY sports...that's a sin...doesn't like to dance...that's a MORTAL SIN!! But well if you can have a good conversation...

But yes, conversation is an art...and truthfully, I find that many, too many women are not very good at it...and in my humble opinion it is because many or most women wait for the men to "engage", to direct the conversation, to take the initiative...

Of course, many men are also awkward when it comes to conversation, bcoz they always have in mind one and only one thing...

Unfortunately, many men ignore the fun part of taking little steps in the conversation, baiting her with some witty or tricky questions, every now and then a falsely naive question to uncover some fun little half-secrets...Aaaah, conversation is a delicious art, YESSSS!

 

Conversations.

:? If I can't hold an intelligent conversation with the person I am interested in, what's the point?

 

Haha - that does sound like the guy I'm dating now... :lol:

I dunno, on the face of it i might have read more books than him or might be able to make a reference and he wouldn't get it. But he is really naturally smart and perceptive, witty, and a brilliant listener, and you can't really rival that for a good conversation!

 

I like MB's point about brilliant listeners. That is a skill in itself. Ever talk to someone and realize about an hour later they were not actually processing anything you were saying - more like they pasted an interested look on thier face while you were speaking but were obviously just inside thier own head the whole time wondering what you look like naked?

 

Haha!

There is also something about someone who asks very searching questions, and remembers what you have said in other conversations. It's very flattering.

 

I've never had any problems talking to the ladies. Part of it is just being interested in something to the point where you can talk beyond the superficial.