The Dating Questions Thread

Okay, this is for research purposes,, and I will answer what I ask, This is NOT about hookups etc,

1. When you are single do you date(not slept with ) more than one person? If NO go to question 4

Yes,

2. If yes to number 1 when do you narrow the field?

When there is someone I click with and could see myself getting intimate with.

3. If yes to number one, do you tell the people you are multi dating?
Yes, I asked. I assume they are too. I do not ask unless they intiate intimacy/B]

4. Why do you chose to go with one person at a time when you don't have a commitment?


5. After the first meeting, how long before you make contact again?

I always send a thank you text, if the person is not for me, I tell them right away. If I get no contact in 72 hours, I delete, except in unusual circumatances

 

1. When you are single do you date(not slept with ) more than one person? If NO go to question 4

I will talk with more than one person at a time. If I connected with them online I don't consider a meeting the same as dating.

2. If yes to number 1 when do you narrow the field?

When I click with someone (in person) and we have a discussion about continuing to see each other.

3. If yes to number one, do you tell the people you are multi dating?
Yes I'm very up front about things.

4. Why do you chose to go with one person at a time when you don't have a commitment?


5. After the first meeting, how long before you make contact again?

I also send a thank you text. If I'm interested, I say something about looking forward to seeing him again. If I'm not interested, I let him know

 

1. When you are single do you date(not slept with ) more than one person? If NO go to question 4

Yes

2. If yes to number 1 when do you narrow the field?

I was always narrowing the field. Casual dating was a constant process of adding and deleting until there was one who I really clicked with

3. If yes to number one, do you tell the people you are multi dating?

Not necessarily. I'd never lie though. If they asked, I'd be truthful. I figured everyone casually dated multiple people until finding one that was "right". If I'm not fucking him then I never thought it to be a big deal

4. Why do you chose to go with one person at a time when you don't have a commitment?


5. After the first meeting, how long before you make contact again?

I'd send a thank you text that same night (they always want to know you're home safe so I'd include my thank you in my "I'm home" text). Only one person did I ever actually stop on my way home to text him how much fun I had and how much I hoped we could do it again...and I'm marrying him :heart:

 

1. When you are single do you date(not slept with ) more than one person? If NO go to question 4

Yes

2. If yes to number 1 when do you narrow the field?

The field narrowed itself most of the time. It's like a team. Some players get cut, some players cut themselves.

3. If yes to number one, do you tell the people you are multi dating?

That depends on what you consider dating.

4. Why do you chose to go with one person at a time when you don't have a commitment?

N/A

5. After the first meeting, how long before you make contact again?

After the first "MEETING", it depends. If everything clicked, then probably the same day. If not, then there would probably be a mutual agreement that nothing would continue after that meeting.

 

1. I'm never single

2. Narrow? Lol try the opposite


3. No, I always tell women I haven't dated in a long ass time and they are the first and only one that got my attention haha haha haha works like a charm.



4. I don't



5. I don't, I leave that up to her to gauge how interested she truly is.

 

1. It depends on if I think she's someone I just want to have sex with, have repeated sex with or have a relationship with. Generally speaking, I try to focus all my energy/money on 1 woman.

2. If I'm dating woman A, casually and I just happen up on woman B. I would probably take woman B out and see how we vibe. I would never have two casual relationships going at the same time so if woman B just happened to be more what I was looking for then I would cut things loose with woman A (who'd already know that things were casual and not going to get serious).

3) Not until I think I might get serious with the 2nd person, but the 1st person already knows we won't be an item. She knows we are enjoying each other's company.

4) Money and the potential of being labeled a player or Ho. It's expensive to date one woman so dating two or more at the same time is the equivalent of a new car and insurance payment per month (like 400-500 bucks). The only way you can reduce that amount is if you've established a solid FWB base w/woman #1. Men who juggle 2+ women/mo are usually users and manipulators (or stupid with their money). They have mastered accounting for time and money.

I've never been the type to lie. My disclaimer to women pursuing a relationship with me is to never press for the truth if you don't really want to know it. When I come to be with a woman I come to relax and enjoy her company. My phone is not blowing up, I don't have passwords and I'm not dipping out of the way to sneak a phone call in. If my phone rings - it's business if I take it, family if I don't. We establish that trust right away. If she's hiding her phone, has the ringer off or is hiding in the bathroom to take calls...she potentially downgraded herself to Fuck buddy or nah. I don't share kitty unless I'm the one deciding to share it.

5) Sometimes within a few minutes. I need to make sure she made it home safely If she drove herself. If I really like her I will make contact w/i 24 hours. to me, waiting longer than 2 days means a guy really doesn't like her like that. I don't play hard to get. I'm actually looking/waiting for "her" and if she's not "her" then I need to get back out there.