The Beauty of IR

I'm very sorry that happened to you C33. People can be very cruel and cowardly. I don't understand why those WW who dated those brothers you hanged with have nothing in common? I'm pleased you are able to rise above people who have nothing to do but,control and intimidate.

 

South from you GL near the Austrian border.

 

I think largely that they carried themselves differently. I think that the easiest way to explain would be the saying "acting black" which was used a lot back in the day, or "acting white"alternatively.

But a more appropriate would be a feigned attempt to "fit in".

People tend to identify more others they have similarities in a social setting.

As for me I became a bit reclusive, because by my third high school it was hard for me to walk away from great friendships and form new ones. It became especially difficult to find friends because I had a black boyfriend so the black girls didn't like me and the white girls didn't understand me.

I digress...

I don't mean to derail the original topic so this may be a completely different topic for another thread.

 

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Well ww who IR who meets obstacles needs to be discussed. I have mentioned this often that ww should discuss it.

 

Like i said..."ww will lose tgeir family. Thats scary"

 

That's not an across the board thing just like we don't see the nooses and shovels everytime we date a ww.

 

You didn't derail a thing please keep sharing. I think this kind of dialogue is really important.

 

Of course .... my goodness do it have to be noted on every statement. That not everyone will face that. That is what the woman is afraid of.

Do u really need a disclaimer?

 

No but the way you keep making that statement you act as if that it's inevitable

 

I understand but most of our convo should understood. Like not all cops are racist and or will shoot u when they pull u over.

But ill do better

 

It largely depends on the depth and willingness of people to truly empathize, listen and understand. If people could get past color and other insignificant factors that have absolutely nothing to do with their character, but instead focus on those things that actually matter... The wonderful traits that comprise the person they are, things that attracted our loved one to them in the first place and support the reason they are still together. How that person can positively contribute to their loved ones' life...

if they are happy and he/she treats them the way they deserve to be treated, then be happy for them!

And I do agree, these types of conversations are positive and enlightening. Sharing personal experiences, good or bad, add to relevant issues we should all be involved in.

 

Very very true. People should get pass race but it seems they will not.

This stuff needs to be discussed . I brought this up a few times but its good we are talking about it now.

 

To me if a ww wants to keep her IR secret then dont get mad. Shes doing it for a reason. One of which is racism ans possible lost of family. If u arent committed for the long haul then why should she go on a limb like that.

 

That's the only reason I might agree with you, especially if it's a young person and still somewhat dependent on family. But honestly, I don't think it's a good idea to hide your relationship. Why be in it if you can't be proud of the person you're with? I've straight up told my parents that they need to either accept my choices or live without my involvement in their life.

 

i can see your point, but for some people family is everything

I dated women and never brought her around the family cause i didnt see them as longterm

 

I have told my family the same thing. Whomever I choose to be my girlfriend or wife, I want them to respect my decision...and her. I never said anything negative about the people my brothers and sister dated. That was their own choice and I had no say in that whatsoever. But if I made an attempt, my family is the first to respond. Many times I have threatened to walk away from my family and not have a single thought. It is MY life. I have mentioned that I have met ww who did date interracially with bm. Others didn't do it because they were apprehensive about it. They were afraid of what would happen because of what their family and friends told them. Love requires courage and acceptance. I think the women that I known and loved over the years were very much afraid. They probably didn't expect to meet someone like me and they had developed some feelings toward me but it was not love nor lust. It was the kind of emotion reserved for friendship. I recall one of the houmates on MTV's The Real World was asked about interracial dating and she stated that she wasn't in favor of it because of family. It is a difficult thing to break from.

 

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