The Absent Black Father Myth—Debunked By CDC

Actually, this is something I would do. Almost did. But we chose another option. But, if the mother is willing, I'd stay with someone I didn't like for the sake of the child. As long as there isn't a lot of arguing and we can be mature and self sacrificing about things, it can work. But, just like the, "keep it in your pants" advice, it's easier said than done.

But, I would, at the very least, give things a very serious and committed try. Once you have a child, your life ceases to be about you. It becomes about your ability to provide the very best you can for him or her. Everything you are or need, is in service of parenting that offspring. And, that's how it should be.

People can judge all they want to. But, the reality is Issues like this have no easy solutions.

 

That's considered "quality time". Unfortunately, our society doesn't place importance on parenting our children.

 

There are so many people who have children for all sorts of odd (often selfish) reasons, and either don't really consider all that's involved, or actually think they can have children and it doesn't change/impact their life in a significant way.

It used to be common place that parents sacrificed for their children. It seems to me that often now, those who are about doing for their children are focused on things rather than values.

I heard something the other day - "it's not about what you leave to your children, it's about what you leave in your children".

Parents have to spend time with their children and really be there for them modeling the values and behaviors that are needed to build character.

 

I had parents who did that. It's not healthy kids notice fam. Kids are little sponges they notice everything

 

Personally I feel one Fatherless child is one too many. In my children's neighborhood, many of there Father's are no where to be found. On top of that, a lot of guys don't spend no real quality time with there children. They rather spend time smoking, drinking, and fucking random women then with there own children... And once they do spend time with there children, they want everyone to bow to there feet like they did something special.

Even I can improve greatly as a Father.

 

for the most part i agree with everything yall are saying.

its real ugly to see those kids out there rioting and*only one parent came out there and grab their child (im sure there are reasons but one parent and not one man at that)

 

trust me....people dont realize whats important untill it taken from them.
people dont operate on the fact that time is limited

i wouldnt be so hard on your dad. trust me ...im sure hes thinking on how he couldve done things better. he probably thought about working hard and putting you in the best environment he could.

at least he had someone waiting for you at home...a lot of kids dont have that.

 

its foul to be the outside parent . my daughter lives an hour away. all i have is fone convo with her everyday. i go down and see her often.

the good thing is my ex and i are cool.

 

This is really important. We have so many people doing this and they aren't going to realize it until it's way too late. People are breaking their backs working crazy hours going on about making sure their kids have this or that. I have yet to meet anyone who is saying they wish they would have given (or received) more things on their death bed. They almost always say they wish they would have realized what was most important and spent more time with their loved ones.

 

can you guys at least do video chat??

 

that would be cool but its not the same as being in person.

 

exactly....people get caught up with stuff. adults sometimes with good intention woulddo that and others do it to put food on the table.