Switch The Movie and The BAD IDEA

I dont have a laundry list either, I am simply looking for someone that adores me and want to be with me, just as I want to be able to return that. I think games is off putting and I dont want anything to do wit it. LA is a rough town to be single in - too many shallow people with agendas.

Im a hopeless optimist and I believe it will happen.. for both of us. I think my ship has sailed when it comes to children, I mean, Im not even close to a good relationship. But IF I would be so blessed, Im jumping on it!

 

Did you really say your ship has sailed with children? Especially after I think JordanC went on this diatribe about older women having children.

My only concern and I believe its an honest concern is to have children with somebody in their late 30's, early 40's and have all sorts of mild birth defects to very serious ones. As I have said before, my cousin had 5 children, mostly back to back, but I believe the last one was born when she was in her late 30's and has downs syndrome.

I would be devastated to say the least.

I don't think I need to say any more because I get a sense of something and don't want to say anything hurtful.

Good Luck on your journey FG

 

I think it was me that went on a diatribe about older women having children - or we both were? I mean the ship has sailed -as in Im not even close to being in a relationship that would lead to having children.

True, Downs syndrom and other birth-defects occur at a higher rate in late 30s and up.

Good luck to you too DJ.

 

I have a friend from high school. Beauty queen looks and seemingly perfect life. She got married straight out of high school to her sweetheart. Had and a baby at 21..........baby has downs syndrome. So shit happens whenever. You just deal with what God gives you. Dj4 you think you are going to have pass is your bride if under the age of 35 or whatever your magical number is. Think about it. You better get a soft spot in your heart to accept what God gives you.

 

I know that - I assume DJ knows that... I just said the rate goes up as we grow older.
I wasnt gonna get into it w DJ about that, seems pointless.

 

I know. :smt045

Dj I feel when you talk these things you have almost a naiveness about it all. You have a fairytale in your head and all things will follow your fairytale. You focus on things that probably aren't important. You probably might have met who you call your bride and maybe you are overlooking her because she doesn't meet all your fairytale criteria.

 

Yep my Mums ex Business partners Granchild was Downs syndrome and the babys mom had only just turned twenty when she had him, he's a cute kid though and they manage admirably, I've seen them in town and he's a well loved kid, God obviously had a plan and put him where he would be loved the most.
Those that think younger is a sure bet are just kidding themselves.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner. Bob tell her what she has won. It's an all expense paid getaway weekend with the man of your dreams, Lenny Kravitz. Enjoy!!!!

 

Keep the faith and stick to your standards DJ4, you will be rewarded and much happier in the end when you do find the right woman. It can and I believe it will happen for you. Just keep working to better yourself, the more successful you are the more options you will have.:smt023

 

A single mother can’t teach a boy to be a man, but she can teach him everything she knows about a woman’s inner-psyche so that little boy will be able to deal with women much better once he’s older.

 

Tony, do you think it handicaps him when dealing with other men though?

 

No I don’t. I say this because a man is gonna be a man regardless. It all depends on whether he is an alpha or a beta, and does he have the mental-toughness required to survive in this jungle that we call society?


Bottom line when it comes down to it every man should be able to ask himself this question when faced with adversity:


“Are you man enough?”

 

Thank you Tony! It occurred to me belatedly that it might seem like a rude thing to ask, thank you for not taking it that way. Personally I agree with you, but I wanted the male perspective.

 

Umm I'm Black I think that's enough punishment.

How ever I make errors when I post but you're really going to have to clear up this last bit -

I'm not quite sure what direction your coming from accept to say that "Hey I'm in my mid to late 30's, I'm not worthless", when I never said that. You are not a man, do you have brothers? The tide has shifted in Western Culture and there's almost a feeling of selfishness if you want to have children. At the extreme end are those that feel you having children impacts the world population adding to the problem so to speak (Overpopulation).

As for Magic Number(s) is there such a thing? I never mentioned a number because one doesn't exist.

All I know is my present situation means I'm left with precious few options.

This is not a case of if given Lemons you make Lemonade.

I always like the fact you think I'm stupid and that birth defects happen to seemingly health young women too, NO SHIT. I still however think it is not a crap shoot like you seem to think it is.

 

There are far more negatives in our culture for being a Single Mother than in others. What the movie depicts is the current trend of the "Sex In The City" crowd getting IVR. They have the financial status to do this without having a man, that's my problem. This just another task in leaving the planet better than I found it and this is a negative trend, especially with the all the vitriol against men in America.

Also don't buy into that nonsense, a child is better off with both parents full stop.

 

Not worried, concerned but not worried.