Some BM Still Intimidated by WW

You shy?

Since when? lol

 

ah, know this type of woman. thing is, does she believe herself what you have just described to us (prime, gorgeous, and ravishing)? in layman's terms, if she knows she could do better than what she has at the moment.

but yes, i agree, the fellas need to be more proactive about asking women out. too much worrying about losing face when asking someone out.

a few factors - it comes down to knowing one's type, what he/she (generally) looks for, and zeroing in/focusing on that in terms of attraction. this is something that i have learnt as i have gotten older.

ladies, question: are you all keen on flat out asking a man out (if the man isn't getting the hint - fellas don't always pick up the context clues)?

 

i agree. i always say go for it. whats the worst that could happen?
lol. sometimes i would miss the fact shes hitting on me. im like "doh"

 

Ha. So true.

 

Since1980,you had hit it on the head. If some American women had the guts to ask a man out there would be less complaints.

 

My old phone I lost days otherwise

 

Black Men are NOT intimidated by white women. Stop lying

Black men definitely aren't intimidated by White women. It's the most ridiculous unsupported premise I've ever heard. Black men don't come right out and ask White women out for many reasons and being intimidated and lacking courage are not among them. Top of the list we don't want to ask a white woman out have her freak out and overreact and suddenly we're staring down the barrel of a cop's gun just for asking this White woman out on a date. Yes it has happened so don't say it doesn't. Second what are we mind readers? How are we Black men suppose to know which white women are actually into Black men and which aren't? Third I don't want to be lied to if I ask out a White woman and she claims to have a man she doesn't have regardless of the reason. Fourth I don't want ask out a white woman and frankly be told "I don't date Black men" or worse "I don't date n%$&*(s!" Rejection is one thing but being told that would be humiliating and demeaning. Your post begs the question: Why can't a White woman ask out a Black man in 2016 or give him her phone number?" I see 10 white women a week I would want to ask out but you don't know who's into Black men, who isn't or if she has a man. Stop putting that whole burden on Black men. If you want to be with one stop playing old fashioned drama try some honesty open your mouth and ask him out. Plenty of brothers out here ready and willing to date White women.

 

How about simply asking a woman "Do you date interracially?" or "Do you date black men? That requires a simple yes or no. After that, any further conversation would be no different than talking to any other woman. Same risk of rejection for the same reasons you listed. There are still a good number of women who think it's too forward to ask a man out, even in 2016.

 

Or just simply smile and say hello. That usually works 9 out of 10 times. That in your face racist shit doesn't really happen when asking people out that's usually online. Simply just talking to people opens up opportunities you wouldn't otherwise know about. You're in Newark take the train to Hoboken and try it out.

 

This is every woman including black women.
What I find to be true is yes not every woman is open to black men you're right and the data supports that but the good thing about that is you weed out a shit ton of flakey women. And I also see if you make the effort to shift your social circle you'll meet more people. Granted we have to do more work than most but when has that not been the case. At least in this context you expand and develop interests rather than spending your life glued to dating apps like so many people. Not like they're any happier than you.

 

I don't really think it's easy for most guys I just think certain patterns present themselves more than others. Like yeah white men do better on dating sites because of the perception of whiteness its assumed all these guys are intelligent and high earning even though its far from the case. In certain bars in NY when you see a guy ordering scotch or bourbon regardless of race he's doing pretty good the same is conversely true for the guy who's drinking hypnotique at the bar. There's a ton of things that matter but again I am beginning to realize not being for everyone can work out in your favor it just requires people to be more patient and spend more time with themselves.

 

That's a personal problem.

 

Fam I challenge you to talk to five different women in three different places. I will do this challenge with you if you want but you need to shake out of this mindset. I am not saying you're not right in a lot of instances but the challenge now is to find a way to get through it and enjoy life.

 

Who assumes that? Lol. One look at a lot of profiles and you know neither is true, especially the first one.

 

Society, there's a premium on whiteness. Do you need links?

 

:smt043 :smt043

 

But "society" is not looking at profiles on dating sites. Women seeking a man are. Like I said, their profiles can debunk those notions pretty quickly.

 

Ches come on of course no one is saying 100% of the time just more often than not. And women seeking men are part of society. You think cultural biases don't color how people see a potential mate?

 

I think the biggest problem you may be having is your negativity. I'm not trying to insult you. It's just very apparent that you are a negative person. That might have something to do with your dating experiences. A confident man, no matter what his color, is most times very attractive. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a man, or a woman, who is always looking at things negatively.

 

All I'm saying is that it's a leap to say that white men do well because we assume them to be intelligent and high earners. Most are not and women know that.