The lies and the betrayal reaches to the core of one's gut. I would want a man to TELL me before-hand, because that way we might agree to an open relationship, whereby we still provided other wonderful fulfillments to each other along with having sex together. I say this because as I get older, companionship, stability, friendship and having my back from my man is starting to be more important to me than monogamous sex 'or else' ultimatum. A man who is loyal sexually but lacking in other aspects isn't the best situation to be in either. Of course I can say this now because I am not in love (who knows, I might change my mind) but I feel as I get older (wiser?), I am picking my deal breakers much more carefully.
