Single men in DC spend an average of $177 on first date

Nailed it.

 

I know I had to call it out though.

 

You know...there is that saying too about how women (especially younger women) fall in love with a man's potential.

 

That's why I now prefer older women, they've been through the idealistic BS and have figured it out.

He can potentially get a job, or he can potentially sit atop the leaderboards for Battlefield on XBox. Roll the dice...

 

of course I did sweets!

I tell you....when I first did the online thing I would go to Starbucks. I'm not even a coffee drinker and at one point I sortof liked the smell of coffee, but I could do without that burnt coffee smell there. I got sick of going there and realized....there are places I like to go to. Like you mentioned, I'm going to go there whether it's a date or not. So why not go there on a date? I mean that is part of getting to know someone, going to places you actually enjoy going to.

I happen to like to walk around Old Sacramento and go sit by the water. If things are going well, I may want to go to eat....where I go depends on what sounds good at that moment. I don't want to have to sit and think about how much it costs and what it means. I find all that to be bs.

Because someone seems fine going to Starbucks or McD's or wherever doesn't mean they are going to be good with someone who has nothing, does nothing, etc.

Hell yah I have standards. Guess what, so does EVERY single person out there. It doesn't mean one is better than another.

 

To me, its less pressure if it's not such an affair. Has nothing to do with the man. I dont want an expensive first date. I find it can be really awkward if the chemistry you had over e- mail and phone does not translate to the real world. That is why I don't want a dinner as a firstvdats, so I don't have to crawl out of the bathroom window:-D

 

I don't necessarily consider the first meeting a date. If we really hit it off, it could become a spontaneous date... but the first in-person meeting is just that., a "Hi, it's great to finally meet you in person" meeting.

 

Yah forget that potential crap. I want to know what's going on right now.

I've done the raising a man in a relationship thing, no need to do it again.

I will say that I appreciate it if he's fallen hard and built things back up in some sort of way. It makes me feel like he's able to handle things if they get bad. I figure if I've been able to (with all I've dealt with) than they should be able to also.

 

Yah see again - that's not a first date to me. That's a meet and greet.

To me a first date is...you know this person face to face in person already. You know there's chemistry there.

 

Same.

 

Whaaaaaaaa???????????? Hello there

You Americans and your damn dating definitions. Lol. To me, a first date is just that, the first time you meet. What is it then if you go for coffee? A pre date? A 0 date? How is that not a date, but a dinner is? Is it the cost that defines if its a first date? To me a first date is when you meet formthe first time to test out if the chemistry is there and get to know eachother in person. Im not sure how a coffee or a dinner chages that, do you get to know each other better if it costs more?....sigh..... I cant even. I been here 20 years and i still don't get your dating parameters, makes zero sense to me

I really don't mean to offend but I think the american dating thing is really weird. Give me a flowchart damn it!!!:mrgreen:

 

Well see, some of us were dating before online dating was the way people connected. (Some of us still are too). So typically you would have met the person somewhere and spent some time talking and maybe exchanged numbers and then talked on the phone and agree to go out.

Even on dating sites that ask about what you like for a first date, often people will put something about how a first date is different than a first meeting.

With the whole online thing, people will "meet" online (some even say they have a relationship with a person and yet they haven't even met in person) and may even talk to each other for a very long time before actually meeting in person.

I'm not into all that. To me, the net is a way to connect only. We exchange a couple of emails/chats and then do a quick meet and greet in person rather quickly. If things go well we may extend it into more of a date, but often I have things set so I need to be somewhere. After the meet and greet thing then I would know if I wanted to actually go on a "real date" with the man or not.

I think that this particular article, or ones like it, are talking about "real dates". It's a date where the people have seen each other face to face and know they are interested in something with the other.

Does that help?

 

Lol
Well, since I am 50, I sure belong to that group. I'm simply wasnt raised in this culture, you can explain it until the cows come home I still don't get it. This is very american and a lot of us foreigners will never understand it. It has nothing to do with explaining it. We just don't get the whole thing. Seems like splitting hairs to me. Dont take it the wrong way, its a culture thing. I will stick to my definition of a first date being the first time one meets in person the first time, makes way more sense

 

This all day long! My sister from another mister

 

Sorry

Ok so I'm trying to understand, if you knew someone from work...or some place where you interact with them face to face and you already know that you have real chemistry then you decide to go out. To you, the date would be the same as if you talked to someone online and have never met them in person?

 

Good question
I probably would still prefer a low pressure atmosphere. A coffee, just the two of us, outside work. Or an ice cream in the park, or a drink.. And I guess it would still be a first date for me as it would be the fist time we are out together, only the two of us, for the first time outside work

 

Ok I see.

To me going to lunch or dinner isn't a pressure situation. I don't think there are more expectations or more pressure if we go out to eat. If I know the man and I'm comfortable enough to go out with him then it doesn't matter if it's to dinner or doing something else.

 

I completely see what you are saying but its not for me, I guess. It would be a long ass, boring post about the culture I grew up in, in Scandinavia, but I know not a few Americans who do agree on it.

I remember when I got here in 94 trying to figure out the code of dating when my american girlfriends were talking about it:smt017. Literally. Lol

 

lol @ you playing naive.



Supplementing women with charity meals who offer you nothing but an pretty face, big tits and phat azz in 2015??? We off that.

Straight Netlix/Redbox and chinese take out if we aren't serious.

:smt005