Should you reveal your past? How much?

Agreed.

I don't lie about that stuff. I'll reveal when asked, but I won't disclose it on my own. I feel no need to do that. But, I'm certainly not ashamed of my past.

 

Don't you get silly too.

 

I can respect that.

 

Glad I got a laugh out of you.

 

I gotta ask the obvious question..."How do you know how generous women are being with their bodies and why would you care what someone has done before they met you?"

(What...are you the "moral police?")

You will only get the most truthful answer if you ask them, and then the question has to be asked, "Why are you obsessed with asking all these women how many partners they've had?"

What they choose to do with their bodies is their personal choice. Just worry about the woman your with and whether or not she's telling you the truth.

 

If you have to ask the question, "how much should I reveal?" then you probably need to start talking. You'll feel much better when you lay it out on the table....if the person can't deal with your past...move on to someone that can.

I do agree....when you have more skeletons/partners in your closet (especially for women) there is a tendency to be gun-shy about giving up all of that info.....however......

if you have no problem laying down with 20, 30 or 40 men/women...then you shouldn't have a problem telling your soulmate what you've done. If you don't want to be judged that way...keep the pants zipped and the legs closed.

The question should be asked...."If my man/woman had a past like mine would I want them to tell me?"

 

Agreed!

There shouldn't be a "Do as I say, not as I do" policy in regards to that.

 

It's not just what you say, it's also how it's said. For example, how one speaks about the orgies they participated in tells volumes. Or how a person speaks about being a virgin tells volumes too. When the facts are put on the table in a considerate way, if your mate accepts who you were & what you did in the past and/or who you are today & what you want to do in the future, then you might very well have found a "keeper." If not, then you know you made an honest effort and it's time to move on.

 

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Why include your past into your future?
Besides many people want to forget about the Dark past of failed relationships and how many people thy slept with...i dont think you should revel anything unless your past actions would indirectly affect your future! :wink:

 

Re: Screwing losers

Reverse psychology? "What's the 411 hon?" "What's the 411 hon?" "I got it goin' on!" "Hey yo I got it goin' on!" Matter of fact here's an ebook about that. http://www.datingdynamics.com/FreeExcerpt.htm

 

I think we have to examine what is an Alpha vs. Beta when talking about human beings.

In the animal kingdom...the biggest, toughest, meanest and most sexually active males are generally the Alphas but amongst humans....because of our relative intelligence...value many things other than those qualities.

Alpha males...perhaps.... have the most partners but having a lot of sexual partners doesn't mean you are spreading your seed for future generations...(certainly not now with the introduction of various forms of birth control). Often the betas have fewer partners but they can be more willing to settle down and begin a family since they have less options in the dating world. If passing your genes is the goal....running the streets with lots of women isn't necessarily the quickest way to get there.


Mike Tyson or Bill Gates???

One is an alpha and the other is a beta....but which is which??? Do we judge manhood on one's ability to attract mates....one's physical dominance....or one's ability to use their mind to find work/create work/business etc....and support a family.

In other words.....

if Alpha Smith had 50 sex partners (during lifetime), two children, was single and made $25,000/year and Beta Jones had 3 sex partners(during lifetime), six children, was married and made $250,000/year....who is really the "dominant male?"

 

Should you reveal your past?

I don`t think so. The focus should be on the present. As long as the 2 persons are honest to each other the past is not relevant. The number of previous relationships can be misleading and shouldn`t count. For example, some people would consider sex without penetration as no sex. Remember Bill Clinton? Would several 1 night stands count the same as several regular relationships? What about short relationships vs long relationships. We could go on and on so the best thing is not to talk about the past.

 

The only time people are afraid to to reveal their past is when they've done some things that they aren't proud of....being sexually free is fine but if you aren't willing to own up to your past....then you aren't really "free."