should there be std testing before marriage?

I got married in 2005 so it must've changed somewhere along the way there! Was it just HIV that was reqd or was it a full STI screening? Interesting...I'll read up on why/when the law was revoked...thanks for the info!

 

Interesting thing, personally I'm ok with testing but the tricky part is the privacy part. God forbid you do have something and you and your partner break up because of it. What assurances do you have that the person won't tell other people. Now something very personal and private becomes gossip because inquiring minds are going to want to know why a relationship ended.
I'm thankful I don't have to make that decision

 

Should people get tested? If they choose to.
Should law require it? Fuck no.

 

yeah. its a slippery slope but its a darn if u dont or dont

 

the problem is there are people who will not let u know they have a std.

 

What's a good relationship / marriage without trust issues?

Also, as FG said., if you're waiting until marriage to test, it's probably already too late.

 

Then its on us to make sure they get tested and provide a test. Two of my last three girlfriends would not take off a single article of clothing before there was a test taken. It needed to be within a certain amount of time and needed to see the negatives on it. Not gonna lie that shit is nerve racking and plain scary. I've been wreckless in the past and even when you're in a committed relationship there are absolutely no guarantees your partner isn't cheating. People can be so selfish and fucked up so its all a crap shoot.

 

cant disagree with either one of u. its crazy in any view cause someone us disrespecting their commitments.

yall remember the pastor who knew he had aids was sleeping with everyone in the church and if im not mistakened he was married. the people he slept some were married

 

Damn that's fucking foul. But see what I mean how can anyone really be safe these days?

 

If you're a lady in the church and you're sleeping with a married pastor of god, are you really surprised when you find out that this stand up guy has AIDS or HIV or whatever?

 

Sad but true

 

yep

 

I think it was a full panel, but it wasn't just stds. At the time AIDS had just really broke and it was huge fear/concern in California especially. But I remember people having to get the blood tests before that point too.

I was just reading an article stating that most states used to require blood testing in the early 1900s and it was for several things: sickle cell, syphillis, Tay-Sachs, rubella, etc (depending on the state) Some did HIV for a period of time. Most stopped doing blood testing as vaccines were developed and/or diseases could be treated with antibiotics and it was felt that blood testing was outdated.


Here's a pretty good article:

http://www.intelihealth.com/article/the-truth-about-premarital-blood-testing?hd=Medical

 

If we go down the road of "std testing before marriage" you might as well throw in automatic paternity testing (when children are born to married couples).

 

i think u should take a paternity test the day a child is born too

 

I don't disagree. If you've got nada to hide, what's the problem with routine paternity testing? Jmo.

 

exactly. it would solve a lot of problems.

it should be a law to make people do so

 

I only do arranged marriages so now worries over here.

 

The biggest problem isn't with married couples and paternity.

The thing is too that it doesn't matter when it comes to married couples (in many states). If the child is born in a marriage then it's protected by that marriage and legally that couple's child. You need to get those laws changed first.

 

Hell we could just do DNA testing for everyone at birth and have a required registry so that when the next generation is born and tested they can be checked against the registry and connected.

Yep it's always helpful to get the government more involved in our lives.