should there be std testing before marriage?

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  1. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

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    the state of oklahoma is trying or passed a law to require std testing before marriage and they will decide if u can get married.

    overall....would it be good to require std testing before marriage?
     
    goodlove, Mar 3, 2015
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  2. RaiderLL

    RaiderLL Well-Known Member

    Y. E. S. Honestly no matter how many people your partner has slept with, they could still have an STI. All it takes is ONE encounter with ONE individual. People deserve to know what they've been exposed to and the history of the one they're preparing to commit their life to. Some STIs are for life. People should know what they're being exposed to, then they can proceed as they see fit. If they were smart they would've gotten screened before engaging in sexual activity. Those types are few and far between unfortunately.
     
    RaiderLL, Mar 3, 2015
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  3. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    fools would be mad as all get out if they found out if their mate had a std and didnt saying anything until they are at the courthouse
     
    goodlove, Mar 3, 2015
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  4. RaiderLL

    RaiderLL Well-Known Member

    Every day we see pts testing positive for STIs...do they tell their partners? We give them antibiotics for their partners...but so they share the info?? If not that dude is moving to the next spreading GC or CT to the next unsuspecting girl. That should be the least of their worries when it involves STIs though. Mandate testing.
     
    RaiderLL, Mar 3, 2015
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  5. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    lol.

    fools go commando if they want.
    women need to look out too. im telling you here are some ruthless dudes out there. people dont care.
     
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    goodlove, Mar 3, 2015
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  6. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    People should be tested before marriage (which means when they decide to start having sex before they even get to the point of considering marriage), before they decide to forgo protection, and anyone who is sexually active should be tested on a regular basis to be sure they aren't infecting anyone and haven't been infected by someone. There are a lot of people with STDs and don't even know it, and some reason a lot of them are too stupid to realize they aren't immune to them. There are too many irresponsible people out there not practicing safe sex that people would be fools not to protect themselves and not be tested on a regular basis.

    I remember a comment made by a dude who said he refused to wear condoms and said he wasn't worried about things like HIV because according to him he could "look at a woman and tell if she was clean". The scary thing is a lot of people are guilty of that type of ignorant thinking, and the fools need to realize that no sexually active person is immune to that shit.
     
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  7. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    there are some dumb fools out there. i heard dudes say u cant get std thru a blow job

     
    goodlove, Mar 3, 2015
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  8. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    Its a bit too late to do it before marriage. My bet is most people in a long term relationship have had unprotected sex, long before marriage. IMO, that should take place when and if you decide to have unprotected sex with your long term partner, not before an arbitrary ceremony that seldom these days mean you didn't have unprotected sex right before you had that ceremony. Sheesh.

    If I am sexually active, I take an still test every year, just to be safe, even if it is protected sex
     
    FG, Mar 3, 2015
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  9. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    It's sad that there are people that stupid having sex and spreading stuff around.


    The sad thing about though is some people would probably never get tested if it wasn't some kind of requirement to get a marriage license. I know that requiring blood tests before marriage was pretty common way back when to check for various diseases (it may still be required in some states), and no doubt there were people infected who had no clue. Of course nowadays folks 'saving themselves' for marriage is not so common and neither is being married before having kids, so it's not as effective as it used to be to prevent partners and babies from being infected.

    It's too bad that more people aren't smart and responsible like those of us who get tested when we're sexually active.
     
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  10. APPIAH

    APPIAH Well-Known Member

    Should a law be passed forcing people to do that? NO :cool:
     
    APPIAH, Mar 3, 2015
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  11. K

    K Well-Known Member

    It's been a law in California for many years. Women are also tested when they become pregnant, I think possibly prior to delivery too.
     
    K, Mar 3, 2015
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  12. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    i think its good
     
    goodlove, Mar 3, 2015
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  13. RaiderLL

    RaiderLL Well-Known Member

    I got married here and wasn't required to get tested? Is it currently the law? Maybe it wasn't back when I got married or something.
     
    RaiderLL, Mar 3, 2015
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  14. wtarshi

    wtarshi Well-Known Member

    I think getting tested is a choice that we should make for ourselves.

    Me personally? I get tested and ask my partner to get tested if things are progressing to the point that unprotected sex is an option. I also get tested every 2 years when I have my papsmear and breast check.
     
    wtarshi, Mar 4, 2015
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  15. RaiderLL

    RaiderLL Well-Known Member

    Ditto. Was with one man for half my life and I still got tested regularly. It was a covered benefit so I always figured why the heck not.
     
    RaiderLL, Mar 4, 2015
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  16. K

    K Well-Known Member

    I got married in 1986 and 1991. As far as I know everyone I've known to get married has had it done.

    I just looked it up and it says it's not required now. No idea when it changed or how accurate that source is.

    Sorry about that.
     
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  17. K

    K Well-Known Member

    Very smart on your part! My best friend was with her husband for 27 years. Turned out he was cheating the last few years. She didn't know (and had never been tested) until they split. It was really overwhelming for her to go in and ask to be tested at that point in life.

    What amazes me is how many docs who can be difficult about getting it done. Sometimes they will ask really stupid questions and basically try to talk you out of it. It makes me think of those who are already uncomfortable asking about getting tested.
     
    K, Mar 4, 2015
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  18. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    In have a great phycisian I even do my women well exam with. She is Russian and completely straightforward. She will ask if you are sexually active every time and always ask all her patients regardless of age to include still tests with the yearly women well exam. I think she is awesome!
     
    FG, Mar 4, 2015
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  19. K

    K Well-Known Member


    That's the way it should be! I don't think anyone should have to deal with bs to get tested. It's not their business, just order the damn tests.
     
    K, Mar 4, 2015
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  20. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    Totally agree, this bs about not talking about sex with some docs could put some people at unessesary risk. Its a clinical health issue that shouldn't be an embarasement to discuss with your do be, damn autocorrect changing "sti" to "still" several times without me catching it. Lol
     
    FG, Mar 4, 2015
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