should I agree to a makeover/matchmaker?

..a longtime female friend, "Lisa" (not real name)who i used to have a crush on, recently got married.. through conversation, it was accidentally revealed that I really have never dated, despite being over 25..

...so Lisa gets an idea.. I need a makeover!

:smt107

she (along with some of her female friends) wants to help me put together a new wardrobe, new haircut, etc.
she wants me to write up some basic bio information about myself, and what i'm looking for in a date.. from there, i'd set up some kind of listing on one of the dating websites; she's willing to help me in 'screening' people for any possible responses..

as much as my anxieties are buzzing, I must confess to being intrigued, though I know I shouldn't expect this to be a magic bullet..

thoughts, kind peeps?

:smt010

 

I think it's a good idea! because there are so many ways to meet someone special for you! and the dating web sites are one of those ways! I think there is nothing wrong with trying something new, that you probably have never done! anyway, it's not gonna turn out to be something bad, but an experience, which is always a good thing! Good luck!

 

Gotta love women with their ideas. :lol: I'm sure Lisa means well but just because someone hasn't dated much doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them. There are actually people out there who are selective, value quality above quantity and don't find it necessary to imitate rabbits during the mating season.

Only if YOU want to change something about the way you look or approach dating, you could give it a try just for fun. Chances are after the makeover you'll look at yourself like WTF. Trust me, I've had girls try to give me a makeover because they thought I lacked style, yet from men I got an entirely different reaction. :wink:

 

It's okay to get a sort of "makeover" but only if YOU really want to change something about yourself. Don't let others make you spend money on clothes and whatnot if you don't feel completely uncomfortable in that "style".

There's someone out there for everyone. But first and foremost, be comfortable with who you are, because one, it won't last; and two, you won't be your true self when meeting someone and it will probably backfire on you.

But, have them help you out with your online profile and have them help you screen out the "bad seeds", but don't make a radical change unless you want to do it, and unless you will feel 100% secure and comfortable with the change. Trust me, when you aren't comfortable with who you are, people will pick up on it.

 

first date/meeting ideas?

i'm just started email correspondence with someone--

she wants to know what my 'ideal' date/outing might be like

i need brainstorming tips, for ideas, something simple, where we could talk out in the open, not necessarily a whole lot of noise.. i know a movie is out--bad idea--

coffee shop? is a museum too much?

can someone help?

 

Re: first date/meeting ideas?

Well, if this is just a "meet and greet", then you want to do something simple. A coffee shop would be an ideal place. Good cozy chairs, open area, with lots of people, and a fairly quiet atmosphere.

A museum or a zoo would work. It's also a public place, open area, lots of walking and talking and opportunities for conversation. If you run out of things to say, you could always come up with some witty remark about whatever it is that you're looking at, at the time.

I don't know. Just some suggestions! :lol:

 

If you are open to a change you should try it.But tell her what kind of changes you would not be open for.If you become someone you dont want to be the ladies will notice.

 

Not a fan of online dating but it just might work for you.

I would recommend a lunch date at a cafe.

 

Re: first date/meeting ideas?

Co-sign!

And notice what Bookworm suggested is inexpensive. Hypestyle, if first dates can be compared to job interviews, just remember that you're interviewing her as well. If she doesn't meet your minimum qualifications, bring in the next candidate.