Self Confidence & Presentation

Self Confidence & Presentation:

I am a professional Black Man in LA.

At first I was scared to go to a mostly white club because I feared that the white chics their exclusively liked White Guys. And certain Black Men that I know around the LA social scene also informed me of this fact.
However, this “fact� is just another assumption and a false barrier.

I always wanted to view and date White Women that preferred White Culture because I don’t like White Women that mostly congregate with Blacks or Black Women. To much of that foul and ignorant attitude rubs off on these White Women, who most likely have issues of their own. And of course the aforementioned statement is a generalization.

On New Year’s Eve, 2005, I went with my friend (Yes a White Guy, actually part Spanish) to a White Rock Club in LA. Women find my friend attractive, he is one of those dark type of White Guys. Let’s call me friend “T�. I do like some Rock music and if there is a good drummer or guitarist I can actually enjoy some parts of the music.

Nonetheless, we met some of T’s Asian and White Male friends at the club. T’s friends were nice and they were there with some White Chics. We were all hanging around their table, talking and having drinks.
I always dress up because no matter what:
“Chics like suits!� When chics see a nice suit they think money and get happy.

I invited another Black Dude that is Light-skinned and he is a professional as well as I am. I am Brown and both of us had bald fades.

We were clearly Black Men, no Michael Jackson alterations.

So there we were, a large crowd at the Back of a small LA Club making noise on New Years Eve.

And at this point my White friend and I started to walk around and to my amazement, we successfully:
Flirted, intermingled, danced, made out and drank with some hot to mediocre White chics, in a nearly all White Club in LA, on New Year’s Eve.


T and I dominated that night and we both had a great time.
Granted the music was not Wu-Tang or Biggie in the mid-nineties but who is that good these days?
Most Rap, I cannot stand at this point, except Kanye West at times.

And yes, some White Guys were tripping, but so what?
We were pulling chics left and right and everyone noticed us.
White guys were putting their hands on their chics’ ass to claim them, as if that’s going to help.
In the end it is up to the Chic.

The simple fact is if you are the man, Black or White.
You are the Man, period.
And Black Guys are super nova hot at this point.
The above statements were not always true but more and more, they are true.

Simply stated:
Some White Women at White clubs don’t necessarily dislike Black Men they just like their culture.
Of course if you enter a foreign situation with a ghetto, greasy and/or ignorant attitude and presentation, most likely you are going to get an unfavorable reply.
On the other hand, if you can make yourself Universally Accepted there is no need to wait for White Women to come to you. You can go to them just remember the old Axiom:
“When in Rome do as the Romans�

If you only check out the White Chics that are open enough to leave their immediate surroundings you are only exposing yourself to a certain percentage of eligible White Women. And remember, who is to same you are not the Black Guy that opens a hot White Chics eyes. Have some self-confidence man!! All the best.

DD

 

Good that you had a good time on NYE.

 

Its a living and thanks.
You live in Europe?

 

Dirtydaddy, I hear you loud and clear. I don't mind going into white clubs myself because those are the types of white women I like, not the ghetto white girls.

And I agree, a nicely dressed black man can pull in some fine white women who you'd only think would be with a white guy. Last year, I met a preppie sorority girl who I dated for 3 months. And this girl was fine!

When she brought me back to the sorority, she surprised some of the other girls because I don't even think they knew she had the hots for some chocolate. And of course, those girls who never seemed to give me the time of day before were all touching me up and down to get my attention...once they saw me with her.

It can be done.

 

I regret not getting with white chics in college.
It was not as accepted when I went to college and there was a lot of social pressure to stick with your own.
I am sure I missed out on a lot.
Funny thing, now I am noticing that some hot white chics are now coming to Black clubs. It is just much more accepted now.
If you are in college now you are lucky.
And yes it can be done, thats why you cannot listen to the the "can't" people.

 

Yes.
I also had a good NYE. 8)