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...and the ones who do tend to marry. Then those attributes must be focused on one woman. Not an insignificant adjustment.

 

This just in the world is unfair and towards people of non European decent especially news at 11.

 

I've said it here before and I'm saying it again.

I better learn to love cats because that's what's in store for me when I get older. I'm going to be the crazy woman with lots of cats.

I feel like Chandler from Friends:

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There aren't any decent single guys. There just aren't. Oh well. At least I'll have my cats to keep me company. :smt012

 

well i don't recommend you watch any of animal planets "too cute" programs with the puppies and kittens...now i want every breed...

actually i love animals so much i have decided to volunteer at a no kill shelter this year...it's a great way to contribute and meet new people that also like pets

hang in there bookie...stop looking and he will appear out of nowhere

 

Thanks, Lippy, but I'm done for awhile.

Over the last couple of days, I've come to the realization that I'm a horrible judge of character, apparently. Because since the breakup of my marriage I have been bamboozled on more than one occasion, and this last time, is the one that broke the camel's back.

I'm just done for awhile. I'm helpless against the men who are out there, because just when I think I know all of the warning signs a new one pops up that I'm unaware of but become a "victim" of and I'm done with it.

I'm done getting hurt and/or getting my hopes up that I actually found a decent single guy.

So the wall is going back up and who knows if it'll come back down at this point.

But I'll be okay. I'll just be the crazy dog lady. LOL.

 

You're not alone, Bookie. Far from it.

I will say this though: I do believe there are decent guys out there - I've met some. We just have different relationship goals or expectations. And some of them, while being nice guys, don't make it clear what they want. You think you're both on the same page only to find out you're really not. I've become a bit more adept at sniffing out the bs'ers or the up-to-no-good guys and have met some nice guys. We just want different things.

 

Stop messing with all those Latino guys and give black dudes a shot. Who knows it might work out lol

 

Yup. Same here.
I'm just glad that I'm too busy thinking about it.
I'm single but I don't feel lonely.
Gotta find a new job until May and I want to do more short trips this year.
There is so much to do and see.
If it is meant to be, someone nice will pop up eventually.

 

You need to move to the states. Preferably to Pennsylvania. :mrgreen:
They say my area is a "little Germany"

 

Would love to be your neighbour :freehug:

 

Only if you promise not to put diapers down the toilet and mess up the sewer system. Otherwise, you'll have to live the next door down. :freehug:

 

Hahaha, I can easily promise that

 

I thought I was good at sniffing out the BSers. But I wasn't. And yeah, I know there are decent guys out there, but for some reason, I'm not attracting them to me.

I know it's a problem with me, but I haven't figured out what it is, so until I do, no more putting myself out there for anything.

Oh TDK, you crack me up.

I've been involved with 2 guys over the course of a few months (each separately). The first guy was black and we'd been down that road before, but about a month ago he tells me he thinks he's addicted to sex and can only think about having sex with me and that's it, so he doesn't want to hurt me and he willingly dropped out of my life.

The most recent guy I met when I wasn't looking to meet anyone, it just so happened that we started talking and our personalities meshed well. Then after a week (yes, only a week) he went home (he allegedly moved to the Chicago area 6 months ago) for the holidays and to take his kids on vacation. The last time I saw him, the 23rd, he gave himself an "out" to not contact me whilst he was vacationing with his kids and I haven't heard from him since.

As soon as he said: you know when I'm with my kids I don't really pay attention to anything else, so I likely won't be texting you, etc, I knew what that meant, and I haven't heard a peep from him since. Not even a happy new year text.

So, the super nice, decent, fun personality guy that I met when I wasn't putting myself out there to begin with, pulled the disappearing act.

After this last one, I'm just done until I can figure out what I'm doing wrong.

 

Don't assume it's you, Bookie. I've had similar issues as well as my two single friends. There are times that we are absolutely flummoxed because things seemed great - lighthearted, funny, easy communication and then....poof! And this was before we've even met!! It may be something you are doing, but don't assume it's always or often your fault.

Maybe I should ask why do you believe it's a problem with you?

 

i agree with ches... sure i won´t say we all do something wrong from time to time, but that brings up the questions, why we are not being told. (if so)
over the last 1,5 years i´ve seen things like that happening, to me, to friends of mine and just people i know. can´t say that all this women are bad tho, i think the only "mistake" about them was, that they actually wanted to get in a serious relationship.
and after all i think that´s the point. at least in my surrendings men do not want to get into something serious, for what reason ever.

 

I don't know what the problem is, all I can do is look at my past relationships and every last one of them, the men didn't want to commit to me. I even dated a guy for 6 months and he up and decided to end it with me, but never told me. He just started ignoring me. That's how he "told" me we were through. After 6 months. I come to find out that he started dating another girl like 15 years younger than him not long after our relationship was over (or maybe even during) and now they're engaged.

So clearly, the problem is something I'm saying or not saying or doing or not doing that is scaring men away.

I can attest to the fact that men my age who are now divorced don't really have an interest in getting into a serious relationship because they want to see what all is out there. So, yeah, wanting a serious relationship is something that's apparently holding me back.

 

What I was stunned over was that it was in Nairobi.

 

Is it wrong to compare quitting smoking to quitting masturbation?

Better yet, why is it so difficult for people to stop smoking altogether? I never anything in-depth regarding the chemical components in smoking, but what causes it to be addictive?

I'm thinking too hard now...

 

Ladies,
For one thing, l know that going through the holidays season alone exascabates the problem, but to give your self the most security, you have to stick to the age-old principal of putting the bastard through the mill.... You have to look for a certain trait in a man's character EARLY. ............before you start falling emotionally, and before you give him your sweetness (preferably in the proper context),.....for those honeys who subscribe to and live by the booty-call, then it should be clear to you that you have compromised and cannot expect any security in that Dog-eat Dog world.....

 

This was actually the first year where I didn't feel lonely during the holidays.

What is that certain trait because that's apparently what I'm lacking - the knowledge of that trait that will help me navigate the sh*tty world of dating easier. LOL.