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Exactly!

 

At my Girl Scout meeting last night, the mother of one of my girls pulled me aside and told me that she was recently diagnosed with Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma.

She has 3 daughters, ranging in age from 1st grade to 6th grade.

She told me that her and her husband are not going to mention the "C" word to them. They are afraid of what other kids might say to them, like, oh your Mom is dying, etc.

She said the doctors told her there is a 90% chance of survival.

I guess they have a point about not wanting to use the "C" word in front of their kids....

 

Bump

 

I would probably tell most of my Family and some of my close Cousins, I know people don't like the idea of adding grief to family members when they are alive.

But....

In my opinion, knowing someone is sick and preparing yourself for the worst is part of the grieving process and you see families that have supported each other from day one, dealing with the loss and what it all means from the outset.
Financially it makes sense also and also when children are involved it needs to be open.
If I was sick, I would like to help make arrangements and make sure my loved ones wouldn't be lumbered with all of the stress and hassle that goes with it.

By not mentioning it you aren't saving anyone any grief, just letting them get hit by a train emotionally when you eventually go on your way.

 

The first two people to know would be my best friend...because the health care system here requires phone numbers, they won't give results through email... and I can't talk on the phone, so I had to give my best friend's number as my contact.

And my boyfriend. I turn to him for everything... he can usually make me feel better

Then my parents + sister, closer friends, family members last

 

I would just tell my two best buds and an attorney. The attorney to take care of my finances and get my son his insurance payment and my friends so that they could reach out to my son and play a surrogate uncle role as he grows up and reaches adulthood and graduates from university.

Plus, my buddies get to split up my comic book, book and music collection.

 

I agree with Samson.

 

I really don't know, how my reaction would be. Of course I understand what people say about confidence to your family. Telling not is definitly like a punch into their faces or at least they could feel pretty unimportant, as soon as they can see that you are sick and this point of time will be there sometimes and you've never told them something about it. On the other hand I am not sure, whether I want to suffer and let my beloved people see it. I was always thinking, when I get the diagnosis and I have no chance, I take my most important things and go to a lonely place..but, what if you need help? It has something to do with a "romantic" way to leave the world, but out of experience I know that there is nothing nice, beautiful or romantic when you get deadly sick. So my answer is, I don't know, even when I have a plan,,, can I handle to smile at my beloved people, play like an actor and be depressed at the same time? I doubt it