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If you are very ill, when will you let it be known?

Adults - family and friends
Your Kids if you have any.

Or would you tell them?

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Seriously I'll? Define.

 

Yes, I would.

I'd tell my mom.

 

Hhhmmm. Anything that would be the following:
1. Change your quality of life
Or
2. Death in 2 yrs or less.

Something like that. I dont know. Like cancer or MS

But when do you tell them? If you decide to tell do you do it asap or what?

If its cureable would you tell? If you had a heart condition . I know im being vague but just asking in general.

 

I'm not really close enough to any of my family where I feel any need to tell them.

I have several friends who are like my family, but I'd likely just cut off contact with them and maybe leave a letter or some shit. I hate being the center of attention.

Morbid ass subject.

 

Morbid....? Thats part of life. If you get sick you tell someone. Right?

If you had a child ..then when is it the right time to tell them if you knew you was about to pass?

 

Morbid, yes....but sounds like you're preparing yourself for you final hours. Is this your way to release your message to the world?

 

I would tell the older people in my immediate family. I don't feel the need to tell my extended family until it is absolutely necessary. Medical issues are sensitive.

 

I have a 12 year old daughter. If I became seriously ill, I would have to tell her pretty quickly, as her life would definitely change.

So I would also have to tell her father and my immediate family very quickly. I would also tell my best friend. Obviously, my job would have to know as well.

Other than that, I would let the chips fall where they may and tell the rest of my friends as I see fit.

Agreed. My extended family are a-holes, so they can find out when they go to my wake.

As for what Jaisee said, I think it's important that you tell people who are closest to you, because support is extremely important in those types of circumstances.

 

I would wait for several tests first then tell my immediate fam. I have good friend i would tell. Thenn my ex and last my daughter.

All in within 24 hrs.

To me telling a kid your on your way put wpuld be hard

 

Rep added.

 

Thank you! It's very much appreciated.

That's very true what you said. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels that way.

 

You're welcome Bookie. You're not the only one that feels that way. Sometimes blood can be your worst enemy.

 

I wouldn't tell anyone, I would if I had kids. Now, no need to add grief to relatives. I'll keep it to myself

 

I would keep it for myself.. As fast as people know you are sick (even if it's not a terminal illness), they start being sorry about you, and it's the worst thing.. I would like to enjoy my life till the last minute, and don't want anybody to be unhappy about my illness. Of course if I had children, somebody must know, because it's important for their future.. I think i would say for my partner, because he has right to choose to be with me or not when ugly face of ilness will show.. I had bad family history related with health, so yep I wount tell my family bad news..

 

I would definitely tell my immediate family, and leave it up to them to tell others (such their children, and so on). I'd also tell relatives, and friends in which we have a close relationship.

If I were married with underaged children... I'd decide with my spouse how we would approach the task of informing the children.

 

Been there. Done that.

Our lives are not solely about ourselves. It's also about everyone who loves and cares for us. In other words, everyone one who is concerned about you is a part of you. Whether they be friends or family, they deserve to know. The sooner, the better.

I told everyone around me as soon as I was diagnosed. I broke it down for them in terms everyone could easily grasp. I encouraged them to ask as many questions as they needed. Then, after everyone understood what was going on, I went on about living my life. Some of them drifted away. Most of my friendships got stronger. No one treated me any differently. They were all grateful that I shared this with them.

I think not telling people who love you is terribly, terribly selfish. People who care for you will be heartbroken that you didn't feel you could confide in them. Of course, that may not be how you feel at all, but that's how they will process it.

 

So it's better to make feel them bad because you're ill? I understand that of course my family would like to know it.. But i prefer they have more nice moments, thinking I'm ok, then thinking that I'm going to die or something.

 

Yes, versus them not finding out until you're dead or otherwise incapacitated. Finding out when it's too late hits people like a ton of bricks. They will, most likely, feel worse if you wait till the end.

 

Agreed.

If we're talking about a terminal illness, the people closest to you should know.