Question?.White folk preference for dark, dark Black partner

Dark skin is beautiful. It runs in my man's family. Like the really really dark beautiful chocolate skin. It looks so pure and perfect and soft. I annoy him sometimes because I'll just start rubbing his arm for no reason and he'll be like "wow, find something you like?". lol

 

The Attraction......Skin Tone Preferences....

-Excerpted from Blue Starlight.


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Re: The Attraction/Skin Tone

I know what you mean. I've noticed some women who go for biracial (black/white) or light skinned black men. I'm sure for some it's just simply what they prefer. But I've also asked some and have heard things like - they can have the "best of both worlds" that way. Or, that they can expand into what they are interested in and still fit in some sociatel standards. I guess the whole "passing" thing. But then I've also heard for some it's a trendy thing or about experimenting and maybe they aren't comfortable with experimenting with a "full black man".

BTW - nice to see the comment about Mediterranean women

"Darkness" is such a subjective thing. What one person considers to be dark another considers to be light. I know in the same day I can hear how my daughter is sooooo dark or rather light and I know she didn't change any in that day. (I adopted her - both of her birthparents are black)

I am more attracted to darker American black men. You definitely know that they are black. But I don't fit into the whole idea of going for darkest possible...just as I wouldn't fit with the whole as light as possible idea (since I have dark hair, eyes, and light/medium olive skin).

I agree that the contrast is very erotic. The texture of skin can really do it for me too.

 

As a darker blackman, I, too, find the contrast in color between a dark and white skin very erotic. The contrast makes for a more vivid imagery in those moments when I close my eyes and paint a picture of making love to a woman. It is just easier to recreate a picture in my mind - white against black and black against pink.

 

Well, I'll preface by saying...at the end of the day, it's all about personality...and looks have very little to do with it.

But from a purely appearance based point of view. The blacker the better...And i think, it's simply because I'm quite fair and it's so different to me.

I found this photo while looking for examples of "the blacker the better". I don't know why, but it kind of makes me laugh...

Hopefully this is within the rules of the forum. I haven't read them
http://www.dasblauelicht.net/Afric52.jpg

 

I know that this is not representative, but i've noticed that a lot of American white women would prefer a black man who's not so dark, but European women seem to indulge in the "darker the berry, sweeter the juice" mantra.

On the issue of skin contrast, i do not think it should be the most important thing but it's very erotic indeed. Personally, most of the (white) girls i've dated were often very fair my friends would think they were from Scandinavia or Eastern Europe :lol:.

 

I don't have a preference either way, it's the whole package that wins me over

 

dark skin

As a dark skin man i never thought my skin was attractive until i started dating white women.I was always the dark skin guy who always had to struggle to get a black girl to go out with me.Some of them even told me they would never consider dating a dark skin guy.Growing up in such a society i had low self-esteem and wanted to be like my friends who had a light skin,but no more.I am more comfortable with my skin than ever before.Thanks to white women.

 

dark skin

As a dark skin man i never thought my skin was attractive until i started dating white women.I was always the dark skin guy who always had to struggle to get a black girl to go out with me.Some of them even told me they would never consider dating a dark skin guy.Growing up in such a society i had low self-esteem and wanted to be like my friends who had a light skin,but no more.I am more comfortable with my skin than ever before.Thanks to white women.

 

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I was thinking of starting a post like this one but it was done already so; man you sound like a commercial for bad skin and ww is the cure. :lol:


I think thats pretty sad when people think validation or being comfortable with your skin color should come from another person. If someone does not like your skin color, It doesn't make you less of a person, it makes them less of a person. If someone does, it doesn't make you acceptable in society. Your selfworth makes you acceptable. I say that because being a bm, with lighter skin, black folks don't like me cause I'm not black enough, in the corporate wolrld, white folks don't like me cause I'm too black. So I have to work way too hard to survive in both, as I am not accepted in either. Now in reading these posts I am learning that most ww on this site prefer darker skinned guys. That's cool, but it makes me wonder why such a contrast. It was not just on here, but in everything I have seen elsewhere. So I stopped wondering and have learned to be me, you either love it or leave it alone.

What I find funny is that ww are attracted to me when I am clean shaven, bw like me with a full beard! :lol:

 

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I hadn't noticed there is an actual preference for 'darker' skinned guys - but I think that the women here certainly appreciate both darker and lighter skinned men. We love all the brothas!! :lol:

Pictures of ww and bm can be hot simply b/c of the contrast, and the higher the contrast the more visually stunning it can be. But the hottest contrast I've ever seen was in my own relationship, and my ex was dark, but not to the end of the spectrum by any means - and I'm not super pale. I think even if there is a preference for darker men in a picture, a woman won't necessarily have to have that in real life to be fully satisfied.

 

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From an artistic stand point I can see the value.

Thanks for the clarification

 

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I'm a little comfused. Out of curiosity: Are you any darker than Botswanans usually are? Or did you just happen to grow up in a mixed neighbourhood/ attend mixed schools?

 

Hey, Bisco!

It's interesting that you say that. Until I started dating my bf - he's from Zim - I never even realised there were "light" and "dark" skinned black men - stupid...I know..

Now I've seen his friends, I can notice a difference...
He says he's quite light, and I guess he is and he's always making (what I consider to be) rudish comments about "dark" people. He often makes the correlation between being "dark" and being from a ghetto. It seems that in African society, darker is "uglier"....I kind of think it's the same as having a tan here is considered better than being really white.

I find it really weird and a little sad. I actually prefer REALLY dark skin...although personality obviously is way more important. I don't see a "dark" black person and think anything, because I'm not socially conditioned to that...it means nothing to me.

So, the point is...I now understand what you're saying and I think it's really horrible and I'm glad you've realised that being dark is a blessing. Because, in reality, being really dark is actually quite a special thing. Of all the people in the world, being really dark would surely be a minority, and a little rare?!? And rare things are always more valuable and desirable!!!

And if there's one thing I've learnt from this relationship and this forum....never assume what anyone finds attractive. Just love yourself, and others will appreciate you!

 

thanks for understanding the truth is blacks don't want to admit that they discriminate one another,whenever you bring up the subject you are accused of self hatred.Good for you for giving dark skin men a chance they deserve it

 

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well here in BOTSWANA people are generally light skin or have a brown skin.If you are dark like me people just assume that you are an outsider like you come from other African countries.Its the same even in America if you are dark blacks are likely to assume that you are from Africa

 

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I know what colour people generally have in Botswana (and pretty much the rest of Southern Africa) that's why I asked

 

Don't forget that the first leader of Botswanna Dr.Kharma had a White wife.

 

Bisco (and others)

This is the kind of skin colour I think is really just amazingly beautiful. I love all black skin - but this is just...wow...

(yes, I realise these are women...no comments needed, thanks! )

http://www.muzarp.poznan.pl/muzeum/images/Afryka/500/nuba_mtn72_1.JPG

Horses for courses, hey!?
There's someone out there for everyone!