Andrae, Andrae, Andrae. I said "there seems to be less men every year"...I didn't group all men in one generalized category. But, I would stop before you use this forum as an example of men who don't think that way. There are enough men on here voicing their opinions about never wanting to get married, about how monogamy is not natural and men "need" variety, etc. As there are also men who want the same things as many of the women. However, like I said, there seems to be less men as the years go by who want that forever type of relationship with one woman.
I was doing that for your benefit Trashi, I normally don't chime in on stuff like that. I let people vent ;-) lol
The good Lord knows that I hope that some of the attitudes of the men on this board are not representative of the male population as a whole. I tend to see men that want to commit and have loving relationship in my real life. The things that I have read on this board about some of the men's views on women have been really shocking to me, and I try to just dismiss them as being attitudes of the individual as opposed to the attitudes of the whole male gender. They're out there, Ms. Bookie. I know that they are. You just have to find them. I believe that the glass is still half-full.
I sincerely hope that a lot of what the men have said on this board about not wanting to get married, etc is all just smoke and mirrors and that most of them aren't like that in real-life. However, like I've said before, in my real-life, I'm running into men who don't want to settle down. I thought it would be easier to date at this age, but apparently, this is the age for men to have a mid-life crisis or whatever and don't want to be tied down with one woman. I was not and still not prepared for this way of thinking. LOL. Oh well. When I'm meant to find the guy for me, I will. I have to continue to hold out hope that he's out there. :smt023
We've all been single, young, bitter and spouted off about the opposite sex so I hope your assessement of some of the guys on this board is right. I really hate to think that they truly believe that way. I'm sure that the age thing plays a big part in attitudes, especially if there have been divorces and children involved for the men. I think that is one of the main reasons that we are seeing a bigger trend of cougars these days. I also wonder how much demographics plays on these attitudes. Since I live in the Bible belt and a small town, it may be the reason that I see more men wanting long lasting committed relationships. Even some of the divorce men that I have dated in the past were ready to jump back on the marriage wagon even if it hadn't been that long since their divorce. I'm just rambling now, but the psychology of why people act the way the do really intrigues me. You are right though. You will find someone when it is the right time. You just have to stay positive until it does happen. :smt023
I'm just saying there are a lot of good fat men who are totally overlooked in favor of the tall muscular alpha males who usually prove to be unreliable. So all I'm saying is give fat guys a chance they usually have good hearts(figuritively of course)
Ummm to be honest somewhere on the less healthy side of inshape. I workout for times a week and have pretty good arms legs and chest but I'm rocking a bit of a chubby four pack these days but luckily I have confidence and pretty good style so it evens out a bit.
I know there are. The same thing applies to big women. Four pack or not; you're still cute & loveable as hell.
I would say that at least half of the men I've dated in my life have fallen into the bigger category. I don't date muscular alpha male types. It's either super skinny guys or slightly heavier guys. You are lucky. That's not the mentality that I'm running across. First they tell me they're looking for a LTR and then they change their minds and don't want to be tied down and just want to have fun. Oh well. I guess they just aren't the ones for me.
