Both! In this case when I think "intellectual" I also think character and to have something in common to talk about. Social skills, not downright stupid and a nice body and you got one happy Angelika!
Ever had the intellectual attraction with someone you could not get aroused physically for? Many of the most brilliant women I have become friends with have been women I was just not aroused by physically. It sucks, because you have this woman you could talk to for hours on end, but you just can't get turned on by her.
Largely true but it depends on what kind of relationship you're looking for at any particular point. I realize that you said that you don't get sexually involved with a man outside of a relationship but, as you know, it's different for everyone. I wholeheartedly believe that there are those of us who really mean it when we say that looks don't matter, it's what's inside that counts the most. Those are the type of people who will ease into real, meaningful conversation with anyone who seems, to them, worthy of engaging in a nice tête-à-tête with a possible eye toward getting to know the person better. Although I can respect the honesty and position of those who harbor personal beliefs that looks do matter and that they matter a lot, I don't believe that it's right nor is it fair for any of us to 100% discount someone based solely on the superficial; however, it's done everyday and will continue to go on. In my younger days, I wouldn't hesitate to go after a pretty airhead, not caring very much whether or not she could hold her breath longer than an intelligent conversation . As I got older (read "acquired more sensibilty!"), other qualities caught up to the horse in the lead. Don't get me wrong, looks still do matter to me, they just don't carry the same gravitas that they once did.
Do big ass titties count as physical connection? if so, then put me down for physical connection. .. ... Just kidding, I'm an ass man.
True. But as long as we have eyes, I don't think you can ever fully discount looks. It would be nice if we could, but I'm not sure it's possible. Lol
For me an intelligent woman is a big turn on for me so she has to be seriously fugly if i cant be aroused by her. I dont know if i am making sense
You're making perfect sense, Appiah. It has happened to me a couple of times. Most of my very close female friends fall into this category. I get so ticked off because I keep thinking "why can't I just be with her and everything would be great" lol. But if it's not there, it's just not. You know what I mean?
Without the physical attraction, everything else is worthless. With it, the intellectual connection is just as important. But physical attraction is all important, yup. Unfortunately while I'd sleep with the vast majority of women between 18 and 40, the pool of women I'd actually date is much, much, much smaller. To the point of non-existence.
