Physical connection vs Intellectual connection.

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"Nothing to believe in anymore......."

 

Oh yeah, I just needed a kiss your foot to make up fantasy.

 

So you just gonna go back in forth between the two of us

 

I said marriage was overrated, not that I didnt believe in it.... Who am I kidding everybody on here has hella e curshes on here or ppl they flirt with on the reg.

 

See this is a great example of how different people view pros and cons Tam, you see this as a con, but it's way at the top of the pro column for me! :smt045

 

E booty overload lol... Yea I basically just cosigned other peoples shag list instead of wirting my own. I did add 2 people that I didnt see on the other list I cosigned, and that was you and Cb. I can calm your hormones down if you wouldnt be a scaredy cat . Yea I def miss Tarshi, I miss her humor and presence on here.

 

well if you ever never need a friendly release, look no further :smt077

 

I actually believe marriage can be a wonderful thing for the right people, I am not one of the right people, and I know that. But if you have 2 people who love and respect each other, and they share common goals, and similar coping skills, I think it works. When you don't have any of those things, you're screwed! Having been married for 20 years, I also saw first hand what happens when people grow in opposite directions, or one matures and the other doesn't. Then little differences become huge differences and before you know it you're on one side of the Grand Canyon and they're on the other. So honestly at this point I find the concept of promising to love and commit to one person for the remainder of your life, when you have no idea who they will be in 5 or 10 or 15 years, to be somewhat asinine. That's not to say that I'm pissing on the institution of marriage, just that I'm never doing that again if I have any say in the matter. I took my vows seriously and I lived with a man for 20 years that I couldn't love and didn't actually even like much by the end, and I assumed I was duty bound to stay with him forever whether I liked it or not. Having been granted an early parole from that life sentence, I'm just not binding myself to someone like that again. I would never go into a relationship holding anyone else accountable for my Ex's mistakes, nor would I approach one with anything less than 100% commitment, but I want the ability to just part amicably and each of us go our separate ways should we determine that's for the best, without needing a lawyer and it costing me a small fortune. I could easily see myself committed to a long-term relationship, as long as marriage is just off the table and we both know that. But for other people, I think it can be great, and if that's what you want then I hope you find it.

 

Totally off topic but I was doing a crossword puzzle and the word 'canyon' totally escaped my brain but you made me remember. Thanks. Haha, yes I do love a good crossword, arrow word and sudoku puzzle.

 

LOL! My mother is a crossword fiend, she's like a walking dictionary because of it.

Thanks Tam, but at the moment I really don't want anything, I like the solitude and the not having to listen to someone read off a list of my faults on a daily basis. But you know I find that when you aren't looking for something it often finds you. So we'll see...