Physical connection vs Intellectual connection.

Which would you say draws you to people more (it can be friends wise or mate wise). Id say with friends its strictly intellect that draws me to the friends I have and or sense of humor. For relationships, the best way of putting it is by using the analogy of a car salesman and a hopeful buyer. I might like the car (relationship) the salesman (girl) is offering but if the saleman doesnt have the gift of gab and charm to draw me in to buy (give the relationship a chance) . Then I will just admire the car from afar and move onto the best vehicle (relationship package for me). In a gist, I can honestly say looks draw me in, but character/intellect keeps me around.

 

Yep. You can't see intellect and character from across the room. Both physical attraction and intellectual connection are important.

 

Physical doesn't draw me to people, and in fact is one of the last things I tend to notice. The personality will either get my attention or not. If it does, then the person is attractive to me, regardless of what they look like. What most people would consider to be a physically attractive person, with an unattractive personality is just unattractive to me period. I guess I'd say that I have to get a good feel for the person before I can determine whether I'm drawn to them. As such I've never experienced instant attraction to anyone.

 

True, but alot of people dont have a problem sacrificing one for the other. Example: Guys who have trophy wives that are vacuous on an exponential scale. Then you have those who would rather have someone who can play chess (match them intellectually) with them, over someone who could play a simple game of checkers (match them physically) with them.

 

I prefer smart bitches.

 

The way a woman looks gets my attention and will allow me to approach her but its not what connects me to her. The shape of her ass, and the fall of her breasts might make my noodle stiffen but there can be no real connection if I can't connect with who she is.

 

What draws me to people are vibes.

 

Men: The physical captures my attention and their intelligence keeps me


Friends: Intelligence is what I bond with, but more so someone who is down-to-Earth

 

You nearly took the words out of my mouth. Physical appearance draws my attention, but wit, charm and humor maintain my interest.

 

Having read all of your answers.

In terms of relationship we all agree... Now what about for strictly a booty call? Do you just need them to have the look you like or do you need some non-physical chemistry? Ive heard girls say shit like they'll give it up to a dude as long as he doesnt say something too stupid. Ive also heard a couple guys express the same thing.

 

Physical attraction can make me notice them, but if they don't have shit to say, I'm ADD on them and don't give a shit. Intellect keeps me talking to someone. If a person is cool as hell, then I'll stick around.

 

Both.

 

Physical connection should be completely irrelevant in friendships, in my opinion. I have met people who claim that they only have 'attractive friends' which is absolute BS in my eyes considering that it's the qualities of the person that you should value in the friendship, not the fact that they make your social circle look better.

It's very important for both my friends and partner to be on a similar level of intellect to me. I'm not saying I only hang out with PhD students, but I can guarantee that I will not get along well with someone who asks if the capital of Brazil is Rio Ferdinand.
Looks draw the majority of people in, but it's the personality and intellect that makes me want to get to know them more and connect with them more.

I'm not a booty call/one night stand kind of person. I don't find it gratifying sexually or emotionally. There's only really been one guy who I was in a kind of on and off 'lets try and be friends but everytime we see each other we end up ripping each other's close off' and even then, the guy was very smart. Incredibly smart. I'd end up at his house for days and we'd just talk and talk, which was one of the reasons I had to end all contact with him for a while because our intellectual connection was starting to become just as strong as the physical one and since we couldn't have been in a relationship at that time, the whole casual thing suddenly wasn't becoming casual anymore.
I imagine for people that enjoy casual sex/one night stands, intellectual connection isn't really relevant since they aren't exactly looking for someone to discuss Stephen Hawkings Grand Design with.

 

:smt038

 

Not even for me :smt090

:smt081... I really like your answer btw.

 

Of course I consider what we have a relationship . Im just saying hypothetically speaking, you wouldnt let me hit based solely on a booty call. Am I not cute enough Tami...

 

A Mix of Both

As long as we have eyes and our perceptions of beauty, we'll continue to look upon the physical appearance and attributes of others on our first encounter. Anyone that tells you that they strictly look for intellect are only fooling themselves, because I seriously doubt that one can overlook bad hygiene and features which may not be desired. Even with people who looks to the intellectual side, there's always a slight shred of physical appeal as well.

Intellect comes at the most instant when you two are exchanging conversations with one another and the attraction there can be triggered through how well one carry themselves.