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A female sex expert (white woman) by the name of Susan Crain Bakos expresses her personal feelings about black men> "I want black men. They want me. We look at one another and exchange a visible frisson of sexual energy in the lingering glances. And our attraction is based on race. We are not those couples " who happen to fall in love' with someone of a different race or more purposefully come together, but out of some greater sense of interracial understanding and respect. Not as politically-correct men and women do seek one another now. Men advertise: ebony seeks ivory. Women write: seeking tall, dark and handsome. Very dark. We are not the same people who say that race is not important. It is important. It is important to us. We have race-specific desires."
Athough I disagree with her on her comment that "we're after the sex"she does make some valid points about our attraction to black men. Yes, sexual attraction is a factor, as it is with any relationship; I love the black man's raw sex appeal, natural athleticism, shiny, smooth, extremely dark skin! mmmm they are the complete package! That they are generally very well endowed is an added bonus!
In my case, the saying: once yoou've had black, you8 never go back, is definitely true. I am strongly attracted to muscular, ruggedly handsome, extremely dark-skinned black men(i'm currently dating one.)Admittedly, I had a complete change of heart-used to hate black men because I believed the negative stereo-types and I had a racist mentality- before I started dating black men. Now I desire only black men. In my opinion, they are Incredibly HOT!!! :smt007

 

She also says " black skin is thick and lush and sensuous to the touch, like satin and velvet made flesh. There's only one patch of skin on a white man's body that remotely compares to every inch of a black man's skin.
The first time I caressed a black man's skin, it felt like a luxury I should not be able to afford. I craved it more strongly than Carrie Bradshaw craved Manolo Blachnick shoes. That phrase, "Once you go black, you never go back" is all about the feeling of the skin."
That explains why I am so enthusiastic about making love with a black man!

 

Welcome to the boards!

That article has been discussed on this board at least once.

http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=4299&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

I will agree on some of what she states b/c the feel of my man's skin is addictive and sooooo good! I have certainly developed a fetish for touching him! :twisted:

 

well you're doing black men a favour now that you changed your mentality about them because of having slept with one . Welcome to the boards !!! :smt038 :smt038 :smt038

 

I have a feeling that most of us probably had negative attitudes towards BM at one time or another. Society reinforces these negative stereotypes. I know I had. Luckily for me, circumstances meant that I met many BM, so it was only a matter of time before I was dating. And yes, "once you go black, you dont go back", is true for me too.

 

I would not say that I've had negative feelings for bm at all - I was raised in the middle of an agricultural state that is primarily white and cannot remember having a conscious thought about whether I 'liked' bm or not until high school.

In HS I was a jock and the bm I would read/think about were all athletes - so that is the stereo-type that I bought into. Until I was finally able to be around a diversified social scene I would say my feelings would be characterized, at the worst, as being uncertain. Age and experience can be very enlightening if you let them!

 

i didn't grow up having negative feelings for bm...in fact i remember growing up watching the wide world of sports and just being infatuated with how beautiful the black men were...this was long before i started dating...i was just a little girl...

 

Yes, I was definitely talking about a postive stereo-type as far as the attributes of strength and grace.

My man gets asked all the time if he's a professional athlete, which bugs him. He thinks (and is no doubt right, most of the time) that the ww who ask him that assume the only reason he would be on vacation at a nice place or in a nice club is b/c he gets money from sports. I tell him that is the price he pays for having a beautiful body! :wink:

 

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Yes, I was definitely talking about a postive stereo-type as far as the attributes of strength and grace.

My man gets asked all the time if he's a professional athlete, which bugs him. He thinks (and is no doubt right, most of the time) that the ww who ask him that assume the only reason he would be on vacation at a nice place or in a nice club is b/c he gets money from sports. I tell him that is the price he pays for having a beautiful body! :wink:[/quote]
I find that black men truly are the complete package! Everything about them turns me on! When I had my first relationship with a black man(this yr last January) I regretted the fact that I never considered dating a black man before; due to my racist feelings which were embedded in my consciousness by my family members as well as peers. That is, until I found a new group of female friends who were more free-spirited, courageous and passionate. They're into black men BIG TIME!! & they convinced me that I have to try a black man on for size. They were sure that I would love the experience; and they were right!
The black men I have met so far are so incredibly sweet, verrrry attractive, articulate, loving and Soooooo Damn SEXY!!!!
I can now proudly say that I am one of the white women who date black men exclusively! & I fully inted to make up for lost time by dating a variety of black men before I marry one in the future.
I was astonished to find out a few weeks ago that 1 Italian woman(gorgeous brunette in her 30s) is happily married to a very sexy Caribbean man; they have 2 beautiful children.
If this is any indication, I truly believe that there will be an ever-increasing # of white women who will desire a relationship with a black man. In fact, it has become quite common in Toronto, Canada. I hope more people will learn to accept it. Then, everyone here will have cause to celebrate!!! :smt038

 

I see :lol: :lol:

Welcome to the boards though.

You might wanna post your pictures please, but that is if you want to.

 

Welcome to the boards. Are you from Italy or from the States?

 

Whilst having had negative attitudes, I would never have been racist. I think a lot has to do with the ideas prevalent in society - white society. For me too, it was my girlfriends who encouraged me to date a fellow black student, who was from Ghana. He changed my attitude to Bm, and I date BM exclusively now. I agree that more and more young women are dating BM.Im not surprised! ! :lol:

 

Not meeeeeee....my parents made me colour blind with a liberal upbringing...my first crush was Andi Peters, a black TV presenter, I was five years old :lol:

 

[quote="ItalianLadyI find that black men truly are the complete package!
The black men I have met so far are so incredibly sweet, verrrry attractive, articulate, loving and Soooooo Damn SEXY!!!!
I can now proudly say that I am one of the white women who date black men exclusively! & I fully inted to make up for lost time by dating a variety of black men before I marry one in the future. [/quote]

I'm really glad you came to a place in life where your are able to free you mind and while it's great that you are willing to date bm, I would just caution you not to go to the opposite end of the spectrum and jump to the conclusion that all bm are as wonderful as the bm with whom you've had positive experiences.

Just be careful that you aren't letting your guard down and making the assumption that ALL bm are sweet and loving etc... EVERY man you meet and think about dating should have to prove those things to you. I would caution that if you give a man (or woman) credit for having some kind of trait you are looking for, without you really taking a look at what that individual offers on their own merits, you might have a rude awakening down the road.

Case in point, my man is amazing - but his dad is an irresponsible and lazy man with no integrity and a moral compass staight out of Pirates of the Caribbean. If you were to meet his father and just assume he is like his son, you would end up in a bad place.

Be happy Italianlady - but don't be naive! There are lots of good bm out there, but just like every other group of people, each person has to be taken on his own merits.

 

Hello italian lady my name is Reginald i am a single male my ethnicity is black american nice to meet you

 

Yes, I was definitely talking about a postive stereo-type as far as the attributes of strength and grace.

My man gets asked all the time if he's a professional athlete, which bugs him. He thinks (and is no doubt right, most of the time) that the ww who ask him that assume the only reason he would be on vacation at a nice place or in a nice club is b/c he gets money from sports. I tell him that is the price he pays for having a beautiful body! :wink:[/quote]
I find that black men truly are the complete package! Everything about them turns me on! When I had my first relationship with a black man(this yr last January) I regretted the fact that I never considered dating a black man before; due to my racist feelings which were embedded in my consciousness by my family members as well as peers. That is, until I found a new group of female friends who were more free-spirited, courageous and passionate. They're into black men BIG TIME!! & they convinced me that I have to try a black man on for size. They were sure that I would love the experience; and they were right!
The black men I have met so far are so incredibly sweet, verrrry attractive, articulate, loving and Soooooo Damn SEXY!!!!
I can now proudly say that I am one of the white women who date black men exclusively! & I fully inted to make up for lost time by dating a variety of black men before I marry one in the future.
I was astonished to find out a few weeks ago that 1 Italian woman(gorgeous brunette in her 30s) is happily married to a very sexy Caribbean man; they have 2 beautiful children.
If this is any indication, I truly believe that there will be an ever-increasing # of white women who will desire a relationship with a black man. In fact, it has become quite common in Toronto, Canada. I hope more people will learn to accept it. Then, everyone here will have cause to celebrate!!! :smt038 [/quote]

I have a friend from Toronto who has a white gf and he tells me how the brothas up there are going for white women big-time! A recent poll says Canadians are far more accepting on average of IR relationships than Americans. I love living in the U.S. but I believe our Canadian brothas are in the right place!