Online Dating????

Aww..thank you, you are so sweet :freehug:
All he had to do was keep the conversation flowing.
I also prefer to know someone a little better before I consider giving detailed private information or meeting irl.
He never responded anymore, so I don't think he was interested enough to know me better :smt102

 

Unique, I completely understand how you feel. The only way to do on line dating is to truly not give a shit, have no expectations, and if something good happens, then great. The problem is that's very hard to do. Once your think you may have made a connection you can't help feeling rejected. If you give up entirely there may still be a special person out there that you no longer will have the ability to meet. Only you can decide what to do. Just remember you're a beautiful woman who should be with someone worthy of you.

 

Maybe it's an American thing but I rarely meet/see men trying to control their women. Most men don't picture an ideal life through their women. There isn't some type of life long wish fulfillment being achieved once we meet a person we can be with long term. Or maybe its an age difference thing. I could be wrong.

 

I know what you mean, but Unique's situation was, well...unique. But not uncommon. But you're right, women probably envision more of an ideal.

 

I tolerate this in the early stages just to give her time to adjust to having someone new in her life. It seems quite normal early on. When you start to scale things back a bit, the women that really appreciate you will realize they were being a bit demanding as they adjust accordingly. The others......well they are the ones that probably see you as a product.

 

do women try to control habits? is that what you are saying? if a man has a habit that I see as a red flag or something undesirable then I wouldn't try to change him but rather skip over him

 

Pleny of dudes be strong arming they women.

 

well said.

 

That sounds more like an abusive relationship if someone is strong arming. Far different from nagging fam.

 

:freehug:
Thank you, I appreciate your kindness.
You think just like me. Every time I deleted a profile on a page, I thought "what if someone nice just wasn't online for a while and now I'm never gonna meet him" LOL

 

Haha, I like the way you worded this

 

Well some guys have a habit of playing golf. I have a habit of lifting weights, that could be considered a red flag I guess. Anyway....Just like when a kid gets a new toy its normal for the kid to play with the new toy more than the others for a while. Later the child will start to play with the new toy less as she/he plays with the older ones as well. So it seems to be perfectly normal for a woman want to control your habits in the earlier stages of a relationship, because everything is still new and she wants all of you that she can get. Thats why I am tolerant up until a certain point. After a while its ok to remind her that you are a grown as man and that there is enough time for her and golf. Things should start to mellow out from that point. If not I would just play golf while she kick rocks.

 

maybe she has hobbies as well...she might go scooter riding with a friend...go to the garden show...work in her garden...lunch with the ladies...garage sales on Saturday morning...walk her dog...take a class

what I am saying is that it is a 2-way street...if either person in the relationship is demanding 24/7 then that is a red flag

 

I love when women have plenty of hobbies. Makes her all the more interesting. :smt055


Yeah it is a two way street. The only thing I require is a trustworthy character. That's not something you can really demand, either she has it or she does not.

 

Consider it his loss and move on. I'd add some rep, but I need to spread some around.

 

I feel the same about men.
I love it when a men has his own life and doesn't expect me to be his personal entertainer and life guide.
I love to learn and try new things in life, so if a man has some hobbies, he might be able to teach me something new.
But I also wouldn't mind if he loves to do some things alone or with male friends.
That would give me the freedom to do the same.
I think it keeps the realtionship interesting, if you spend time with other people as well.
From my past experiences I can say: if you always stick together like glue, soon there will be nothing to talk about anymore.

 

I appreciate the intention :smt058

 

Yes!!!!! That's what I want in a man as well. :smt038 :smt060

For me, as long as his hobbies aren't all-consuming, I'm good. I'd especially like it if he'd invite me to join him in some of his hobbies. One of the great things about being in a relationship, is that (hopefully) your partner brings something new to the table. While I'm not a golfer, I'd watch golf tourneys on TV with him or, if he asked, attempt to hit some golf balls at the driving range with him.

I was with one guy (briefly, thank God), who LOVED football. Now, I like football too. But this guy started with Friday night HS football (his son plays), all day Saturday college ball and all day Sunday pro ball. And, if he didn't work Mon or Thurs night - football. And, other than himself, he wasn't passionate about anything else. *yawn*

 

This about women! All of it!! 100!!

 

so far no luck with online dating sites I'm on.. for several months, I've only been sending short, brief messages, nothing too heavy.. but alas, no one's interested.. oh well..