Online Dating????

Discussion in 'How To Meet White Women and Black Men' started by william2382, Jul 7, 2013.

  1. Unique4ever

    Unique4ever Well-Known Member

    I know that I shouldn't take it seriously and I promised myself I wouldn't.
    It's just that none of the guys who sent me a message were even close to being my type :(
    And finding a black guy on that page seems to be like looking for the famous needle in the haystack.
    After being registered there for 11 days, this guy was the first I considered meeting IRL.

    Well, his loss. He doesn't know what he is missing.
     
  2. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    Theyll be countless others.
     
  3. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    put up a new profile picture...add a few more pictures to your album...men are visual...add pictures of activities that you like to do as well...if you like to bike...put up a picture of your bike and then beside it say...my bike is looking for a new friend to ride with us...

    he will be back but sometimes men like to mull things over a bit...don't keep looking at his profile...it will show how many times you looked...might seem anxious...play it cool...never respond to him right away...be busy the first time he suggests you get together and suggest another day
     
  4. Unique4ever

    Unique4ever Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the great advice. I think the bike idea is really cute.
    I really don't think I'm made for those kind of childish games.
    I think they are totally exhausting.
    I know there are men out there who feel the same.
     
  5. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    unfortunately you are dealing with men online and not IRL...it may seem like a game but it really is more about availability...personally I think women try too hard online and watch their email they way they watch their phone for text messages...don't be too over anxious...you already said that you noticed that he came back to look at your profile and I can only imagine you were tapping your foot waiting for him to send you a message...he didn't which then brought you here to make a post to ask why? that tells me that you want this to happen really fast....if you know there are men out there that feel the same...keep in mind feeling the same and actions don't always match...you are going to need a ton of patience! good luck! I wish your pond was bigger and filled with fish;)
     
  6. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    Nah, just be yourself instead of playing games. The whole waiting game is for children.
     
  7. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    how would you know? you are posting about a different woman every damn day...it sounds like a very small dating pool of one for her...which means that he probably has a larger dating pool...he gets to play it cool and she pounces it's all over...you can call it a game...I prefer to call it strategy...to me looking for a man is like looking for a new job/career...I plan to keep it for awhile:p
     
  8. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    Unique play it as a BOSS, call the shots and do as you please when YOU want to instead of having an workers point of view on dating :p
     
  9. Unique4ever

    Unique4ever Well-Known Member

    Yeah, I think I had my fare share of playing games.
    I want to have a good time and not always second guess myself.
    All this "I like you, but I won't tell you before you told me that you like me" seems so much like highschool level.

    The guy in question is out of consideration now but I was interested in hearing the male opinion on his behaviour.

    It's very sad that I'm so limited because of my preference for black men, but that won't make me chase anyone.

    If you are interested, make your move and be yourself.
    A guy that is playing stupid games or play a role will get nowhere with me.

    I will give this attempt another month or so, but it seems that this dating site sucks.
    I only joined because someone else suggested it to me. I didn't keep in mind that she doesn't have the same preference in men ;)
     
  10. satyr

    satyr New Member

    Possible cheat sheet.

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  11. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    Well in your situation, he's just not that attracted to you even tho he complimented you. He would of continued to stay in touch with you if he was interested.... Like an job you applied for after interview, the company will call you back if they want ya. Even if he's the most socially awkward guy in the world, he'd least make an embarrassing attempt to keep the conversation rolling.

    Honestly online dating is no different from real life except you get more personal with people far more quicker... if they decided to fill out their profile lol.
     
  12. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    To sum it up, dress to impress online. Put up fun interesting photos, make your profile fun and inviting but with just enough info that the reader gets an idea of who you are.
     
  13. FRESH

    FRESH New Member

    I think you should approach the online aspect, as just that, one aspect, one layer of your potential date pool. I would keep that avenue open and try others if you haven't.

    I like to meet women all over, I haven't done the online thing, but plan to. As well as other avenues. I wanted to try out one of those social clubs that goes out and does activities.
     
  14. Unique4ever

    Unique4ever Well-Known Member

    Yeah I know.
    I just wish he would not have complimented me in that case.
    That confused me.
    I stopped responding to guys that I don't consider a possible date.
    I used to respond to everyone (if the message was friendly and nothing sexual) just to be polite.
    I soon realized that the guys will automatically assume that I like them, just because I responded.
    Sometimes it was hard to get rid of them after that. They kept sending message after message even after I told them (in a polite way) that I don't want to meet them.

    I learned my lesson now. If I'm not attracted, I just don't respond anymore.
    I still feel like an arrogant bitch because of that, but it's better than making them feel wanted just to crash their hopes later.
     
  15. satyr

    satyr New Member

    You don't owe anything to anyone that you're not interested in.
     
  16. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    I used to feel like you as well and played mr nice guy responding to all messages to be polite but I don't do that anymore. Since people are scared to tell someone that they aren't interested I'd rather you ignore me then leading me on giving me false hope that I have a chance with you.
     
  17. Ches

    Ches Well-Known Member

    If I don't feel an attraction to someone who contacts me, I just simply say "I don't feel that we're a match, but thank you for writing." If he took the time to write a message, I feel I can at least be courteous enough to respond.
     
  18. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Interesting video even though it basically reconfirms an idea I've been playing with.
    Personally I think the biggest problem with online dating is too many people treat it like shopping
     
  19. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    This I agree with. Rejection is hard enough without someone making you feel invisible.
    But online dating is like any other dating its not about finding a match its about marketing. The best marketed product always gets the most buyers.
     
  20. Unique4ever

    Unique4ever Well-Known Member

    I can't do this anymore.
    Had too many guys trying to convince me otherwise.
    Asking questions why I feel this way, or even responding with something spiteful.
     

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