Online Dating????

Can I be your side-kick? It might help me. Lol

 

i need to go buy a cape now.. ohh wait Edna says no capes.

of course grasshoppa.

 

I wonder if some guys have trouble because they're lousy in bed and that rep is mainstream for them.

 

either that or lack of confidence. if anything... on this forum... some have issues with how they see themselves or how others see them.

 

I told you...we need to hold classes. Teach some of these lonely dudes how easy it can be (all while being completely honest about their intentions)! We'd be able to retire early and potentially save the human race (we seriously may go extinct if we were reliant upon some of these men).

Hmmm, interesting. The women here have said it a thousand times...confidence is key. For whatever reason (maybe you're right) some dudes really lack it.

 

But too much can be overkill. There's a fine line between confidence and cockiness.

 

Well,, I'm great at both. Y'all can carry on. Lol

 

This :smt023

 

this is true...

 

You're absolutely right. The guys I'm attracted to tend to be a tad on the cocky side...by no means are they dicks, but they're perfectly aware and confident in what they bring to the table and they tend to hide their slight cockiness in humor. I would rather him be a hair on the cocky side, than a hair on the lack-of-confidence side. I don't really deal well with people who lack confidence...I tend to want to shake them and snap them out of it. I truly believe everyone deserves the very best, and it irks me when people don't see that same value in themselves.

 

I think what I like to see is a glimpse of uncertainty now and then. When a guy is soooo confident (leaning towards cockiness), it's like he allows no room for compliments or admiration. He's already in love with himself!! Do I add anything to his life?! Maybe the right word is vulnerability. I don't want to see it to exploit it, just to know he's human. His feelings can get hurt, he wants to be admired, he wants/needs something that I have to give. Does that make sense?

 

Makes perfect sense to me.
Nothing worse than you trying to compliment a man and he responds with something like "that's what all women say about me" or some bs like that. Unless it's meant to be a joke.

 

Totally makes sense. I can certainly appreciate a level of vulnerability, and I definitely need to know/feel like I add something to his life. The men I've known who fall right over that line of confidence/cockiness made me feel MUCH more important/valued than the man I dated who lacked a good amount of confidence. It's just been my experience that the more confident men actually put more effort into me/us. The one who lacked confidence didn't feel like he deserved happiness, and I got tired of hearing his insecurities about our relationship. I can only prove so much that "I'm in this", if he doesn't believe me it's a huge turn off.

I use the term cocky very loosely though. These men take compliments very politely...if they made smart remarks like Unique mentioned, that'd be the last compliment they got from me!

 

These 3 women given up info, you guys better take notes lol

 

Sounds very cocky in text. I'm not that, but I'm a confident guy 97% of the time.

 

they dont hear it. they confuse being a leader with being a dictator/boss

 

Ok - you're right. Would it be appropriate to ask for a criminal background check from my partner before dating that person? Does that make sense or am I just being annoying?

 

Do I come across as though I lack confidence?

 

What kind of chicks are you picking up, Mikey?

 

r u trying to date hoodrats or a professional woman