Online Dating????

Been there many times. My brother and step mom live there. Great city.

 

I absolutely know what you're talking about. I've found the same thing with some of the guys in my age bracket. As someone fresh out of a very long term relationship/marriage, I certainly can appreciate the idea of not wanting to jump right back into another one...it's kind of fun just hanging out and meeting new people. Thankfully the guys I've met with this mentality have been up front about it...nothing shittier than being told he wants a relationship only to later learn that he really just wanted sex.

 

Intelligent men I must say.

 

thanks for sharing your story Its lovely to actually hear one from the other side.
when I mentioned I was on a dating site, and I was meeting some guy, most people were all ''god are you crazy?? you're going to get killed! only morons go on sites like that!'' I was like ''erm.....hello!!!'' haha, but then there were others like you, who said it was a wonderful idea, and they either knew people who had met that way, or knew someone who had.
Ok, you didn't do the dating site thing, but its still pretty much the same.
I DID do the dating site thing, and I agree about all those stupid questions. I took no notice of any of that, I just had a look around and eventually found someone that looked like a person I might want to get to know, and six months later we are still together. Its not the fairytale of the century, there are a lot of personal issues we have to deal with, including a forty mile distance, but at least its proved to me that no, meeting via a dating site isn't just for saddo lunatics that live in their grandparents attics lol.

 

Soooo true!

I do (or should say did) prefer to meet right off though when I was doing the online dating thing. Just a casual meet though in a public place. I did this because I found that people will often build things up in their minds and then find that it's not at all what they thought. Whether the person isn't how they represent themselves, or whatever. I hear of lots of people becoming attached/invested in someone who they've not been face to face with and rarely does that work out.

I also think the online dating thing worked much better several years go. Now it seems like most are "retired" (meaning unemployed or on disability), "helping their family member/caregiver" (living off a family member)....no job, no car, no place.

I have never had a man around my kids and I heard Steve Harvey say something recently about how he thought that was the wrong way to do it. We can waste a long time with someone and be very attached and then find out there's no way it's going to work with kids involved. I can somewhat relate to this because I found that men tend to not think about my having children when there is no involvement of the kids and quite frankly that's not representational of daily life. I'm not saying have anyone and everyone around the kids right off. I think there are more natural easy ways to do things to give an idea.

 

I encounter that a lot. If they'd just read the d*mn profile!!

Fixed.

 

Cats ain't thirsty like they were when they were younger and got some of you ladies mad. Older gentlemen learn all that simp behavior ain't necessary for keeping a woman around. Having your thirst quenched of women is one of the best freedoms a man can give himself.

 

Best post of your career son

 

you ol' romantics


sidenote: northy would drop everything if cher said yes and fanny off of the forum is probably pussy whipped within an inch of his life


carry on

 

YES! Mr. Tough Guy online is, I'm sure, wrapped around her pretty little finger irl. I'm onto him.

 

he so is.

just is.

 

I run tings lol

 

Pffffttttttt

 

Men, period, have found it unnecessary to have a relationship because there are enough women available to just have sex with.

 

I don't think this is true. In the past its been my choice not to be in a relationship. Not because the men I've met didn't want to be in one...the men did want a relationship. They do find it necessary (from my experience)

 

women are just the same.

 

That's just not going to happen! Or you may get the one who does and writes a long note and then sends something 5 mins later complaining that you haven't answered him yet.

Unfortunately, this is probably true. The lazy comment is as well. I remember several years ago when an older man who was a friend of mine told me that he doesn't have to do anything because there are so many women around now. He could be a complete ass and there were still women around.

I figure it's a gift when people show how they are like that. It makes it much easier to weed them out. Thankfully there are those with much better character.

 

Like finding a needle in a haystack. Or a unicorn.

 

It's funny, the same things you're saying about men, men are saying about women.

 

no I'm sorry but this isn't true. Some men just want sex. Some women just want sex.
Just like some men want relationships, as do some women.