Online Dating????

ah yes but it was your decision to let her do that, so you can't pick and choose when she does it

 

No, she just gives her pronouncement. Doesn't need to be solicited! Lol!

 

oh hell, she's your mother, thats part of her job
my mum was just the same really, and it drove me mad, but of course now she's gone I miss her telling me where I'm going wrong as well as everything else lol. I can't say I ever listened, haha, but yeah, she kept trying x

 

My current wife and I met online albeit it not a dating site like e-harmony or match.com. We met on a forum/communal based website like this one, so I think that may have helped to alleviate the pressure of "meeting" someone
per se'. When I first met her she had been single for a couple of months, and needless to say didn't want anything to do with me, which was cool. I eventually got the hint, and moved on. A few months later I'm making some changes to my profile, and I appear on her friends list,so I march to her page like a douche and ask her what the deal was, and why she decided to be my friend all of a sudden (Stupid I know). She explained that while she found me attractive she needed some extra time to deal with things in her personal life, and now was in a better place to pursue "friendships". I found her honesty to be refreshing, and we began a friendship that transcended cyberspace and international borders (I'm American, she's Canadian). I don't think I would have found a relationship as fulfilling on a site like e-harmony. Hundreds of parameters to find you the perfect mate? What kind of sick joke is that? Relationships are meant to be unpredictable, they change, and evolve. Would I do it again? Only if it was with her.

 

Great story my dude. Where do you guys live now?

 

We live in a city called Windsor right on the U.S./Canadian Border.

 

Wonderful story! You look lovely together!

 

Thank you very much!

 

Windsor, Ontario. You're not far from Detroit. Welcome.

 

i can understand every point of that. thats why Im scared to date. if i marry a whoman and she could turn out to be the most evil woman for my child. cant have that

dating is hard enuff not just online) but when you have a child you must think of them first

 

Thank you! I'm actually from Detroit, and whenever i'm feeling a little down I walk down to the river and stare at the skyline. lol

 

u guys look like a lovely couple

 

Such a beautiful story and the last two lines of your post say everything we need to know about your love for her! So sweet! :smt049:smt049:smt049

 

*sigh* :smt049
I think there is no better way than to start with a friendship.
Thanks for sharing your story. Stories like that seem to be rare but I'm glad they do exist.

 

Thank you guys for the kind words. @RaiderLL I REALLY had to work hard for this one,not just in terms of courtship, but just navigating throughout our relationship, and I think in doing so I actually found what love truly is. @Unique I firmly believe that had we met in a more conventional I would have messed it up. I would have probably come on too aggressive, and pushed her away immediately. I'm glad I was given the opportunity to take things slowly, and get to know her before really establishing a relationship. It has made our bond so much stronger.

 

Co-sign with everyone else. Beautiful story! You sound both blessed to have found each other. :smt023

 

This! I think so often we put such an emphasis on the physical aspect of a relationship that we fail to value and really grow the emotional aspect of it. I think a foundation of friendship truly creates the strongest relationships, and I'm happy to see that it worked out so well for you both. :smt049

 

Try telling the average guy that...

 

Haha I feel you...that's why I don't do average

Honestly, I've been just as guilty as some men of focusing more on the physical aspects of a new relationship, but now I try to make a conscious effort to put more stock in the emotional side of things (I've never been the emotional, clingy, all lovey dovey type, so focusing on the emotional aspect actually takes effort on my part). Finding a friend first, lover second is my goal. I'll let you know how it works out lol.

 

I don't wish to do average either, but you know what I'm talking about. I'm just appalled at what I'm finding even in my age bracket. My only guess is that most guys have been in long term relationships and now their idea of a "relationship" is a steady sex companion rather than a true partnership. They still get to sleep by themselves, they don't have to "talk" to anyone and they can leave the toilet seat up.