Online Dating????

I've had nothing but great experiences with women from Oregon. We're pretty much golden in those liberal areas.

Exactly. Meeting people in general is hard especially as adults. People are so damn guarded and allow assholes to shape them that they wall themselves off and convince themselves no good people exist when all they have to do is look in the mirror and say "If I'm a decent person there must be more. Nature doesn't make things in ones"

 

Possibility meaning?

 

yea...after college or even college age..<26...it aint so easy meeting people...well that you like that like you

 

This is possible, maybe you are this type of man, I know several men who feel best to remain single...at least for the moment or the next few yrs, ore maybe for your whole life

 

I DON'T BELIEVE YOU lol
I think women are wired differently. A great comedian use to say "Women a man they can fuck a thousand times and men want a thousand women they can fuck once"

It all comes down to what we regret. "Men regret all the pussy they could have fucked but didn't while women regret all the dicks they sucked and shouldn't have"- me

 

I did this for 17+ years (as the person who originally suggested the idea knows all too well), and Monday is the first time I have met someone that way. Really??? I've had 6 or 7 jobs, attended 4 or 5 different churches, went to my son's sporting events when he was younger, the library, grocery store, the mall, the bookstore, the gym, etc. I never met single men (of any race).

Went 12 (count 'em) years between the day my ex left our marriage til I put myself online and went on the first date since I was separated. That's bizarre, imo. My single friends have the same complaint: where do you go to meet a guy (esp if you're not into the bar scene)? They've both been single longer than I have, although in more relationships.

 

This, I often wonder why we complicate shit??

 

^this.

 

try an activity where there is a lot of men. My krav maga class has a shit ton of men so does crossfit and all those dudes are gainfully employed because that shit ain't cheap.

 

i.e. people who are living in a small town, their entire life..you know everybody there, with whom do you want to start a romance?

Or women with Kids.. a lot of them simply have no time for drinking coffee somewhere..it is time-consuming..let's be honest, you don't find someone attractive to you at every corner

sometimes people just need attention, someone they can talk to, so I think that's the main reason for online dating Websites

 

Because we're spoiled simpletons. When you look at nature you see how simple this shit is. I spent the last few days watching documentaries because I injured myself at work and when you watch the mating habits of other mammals the shit is so ridiculously simple and uncomplicated. Everything in mating is mirrored. You want a good looking fun intelligent person be a good looking fun intelligent person. Men need to stop hanging on to the notion of being pimps and "bagging" everything and women need to let go of the prince charming who will accept them no matter what package they come in and both sexes need to slow the fuck down and stop rushing shit. This ain't a damn sprint its a marathon.

 

rayer:rayer:

 

We don't have Crossfit around here & I have no clue what krav maga is. Even if we have it, I'm sidelined with a knee injury & I don't have the budget to join anything more expensive than Planet Fitness (with the geriatric set). Believe me, short of making a point to drive to Philly (and do what, exactly?), we are clueless in PA as to how to meet quality guys.

 

I understand.
Question: If they don't have time to physically venture out, how will they have time for a relationship?

 

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what exactly are you looking for?

 

I think time for a relationship is always possible, maybe a question of organisation..you know to live like a family is easier than alone, but the time to get to know each other, yeap, I think that's a main factor, why online dating doesn't work, mostly

 

Maybe it's different in San Diego compared to where you're at?? I have only been single for 7-8 months so I'm not sure if I'll end up going the online route, but right now I don't see the point...Ive found that men out here are typically pretty comfortable approaching women. They're not all winners, many turn out to be married unfortunately, but I meet them during everyday life...at the grocery store, at the flipping gas station lol, when I was buying a car last week, when I was moving into my new place last weekend...I just go about my business and whatever happens, happens. I really don't drink, and I have 2 little ones so I'm certainly not a party girl...if I'm going to meet someone it'll be when I'm out and about living my life! It's working out ok so far...no love connection yet but I've met a few very cool guys along the way. I can appreciate that it's not as easy for people in small towns, but out here in SD it's pretty simple.

 

Love, TDK.

 

Do you love you yet? I mean really love you and more importantly do you value you?