Online Dating Experiment

Online Dating Experiment (CLOSED THREAD)

So I've been doing online dating for a while and my luck has been so-so. Today I decided to do an experiment to see how race affects online dating. I created an exact replica of my current profile except I attached a picture of a white guy no more attractive than me. I messaged the same women around my area (Long Island, NY) that I did with my real profile and OMG the results...

Here is my profile...

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Spillfan?cf=profile

Here is "Jamie"'s profile...

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/movietvfan1987?cf=visitors

Here's what happened so far. More women actually replied. More women made the first move and more women rated me 4 stars or more on that quickmatch thing. I'm going to leave it overnight to see what happens.

These results were expected. Most people tend to veer towards members of their own race but I didnt imagine it would be to this extent in New York.

Thoughts, fam?

NEVERMIND THREAD CLOSED!!!

 

DAPS on the experiment and awesome profile! I might steal your shit lol. In a way it makes me feel better about online dating.

 

please tell me you are not "catfishing" these women

 

Pretty interesting. I come across a lot of women who "strongly prefer" someone of their own racial/ethnic background, especially if they're from the South. The women who live in the South but come from other parts of the country (the Midwest, the East coast, etc.) don't seem to have those same hangups, at least not to the same degree as women born and raised in the South do.

Just one thing I noticed about your profiles, though...they both have the exact same language which looks really suspicious to anyone who would happen to be browsing both profiles. That may skew the responses you get from the women that you message. Also, I hope that you have the permission of the guy whose picture you used on the fake profile, as I've read stories as to where that may or may not be legal.

 

I created a profile on that site a while back to be able to browse what's out there, and I've only come across one bm that said he'd prefer someone from his own racial/ethnic background. I imagine it'd be pretty discouraging to read profile after profile of women indicating that they'd prefer to date within their own race. Clearly they just don't know what they're missing! Meh...more for me

On a side note...I was so surprised by the sheer volume of incredibly gorgeous bm that are on that site. I had many preconceived notions about online dating, but so far I've been proven quite wrong. It's not at all what I thought it was. Well...the number of guys on there just for sex is pretty close to what I'd imagined, but the rest has been a pleasant surprise.

I thought the same thing about the verbiage in both profiles btw, but for his little experiment it makes sense to keep it the same.

*Empire...your profile is very well done! It seems genuine and inviting, I'm sure you'll have better success with it soon!

 

No. They send my messages but I don't respond.

 

Thanks and go ahead!

 

Thank you!

 

I'm not using it with his permission but I'm deleting it tomorrow night.

 

:smt023good luck to you

 

Damn too bad I missed it. Sounded like an interesting experiment. A lady on TED did a similar experiment but looking for Jewish men.

 

Like real life dating online dating is infinitely easier for women which in turn makes it infinitely difficult for men. But what can you do I guess. Guess it means either men become alphas or do more real life approaches.

 

That's funny! To use your ammo: How long have you been a woman trying to date on line?
I suspect its fairly equally difficult to find real people of the oposite sex out there, for different reasons. But that does not mean its infinite easier for women. Getting laid; yes, dating for real; hell no.

And BTW, glad to see you on here after all that creepy crap!

 

Well by dating I meant actually meeting viable people who respond and have an interest in you and are willing to go out and meet. Not necessarily dating in terms of a developed relationship I should have been more clear. You're also correct in calling me out on how long have been dating as a woman online but through interactions with people I've helped as well as friends it seems like the problem most women have is narrowing down not actually getting responses. That seems to be the complaint of every guy who isn't a genetic lottery winner, very low response to output ratio.

Had a good conversation with a friend about the creepy shit, just no interaction with certain folk and no more pics of me or anything personal in my life which kind of sucks considering the intention of the site but oh well.

 

I agree with that, sure women get a hell of a lot more responses than men, but that isn't making it easier, just a different problem entirely. I don't think the problem for women is to weed it down, its to weed out the ulterior motives. Men get less responses, but also have to deal with other issues, ulterior motives, but entirely different ones that women get faced with.

Im really glad you choose to stay, you don't deserve that! He found me on Facebook, without me divulging my name and he also found my age before I let it be known. Not that I have anything to hide but it's evading people privacy, and creepy. Even if it's possible to do on line, you can find anything, it doesn't mean you should do it and I don't trust people that do that. It's creepy and low. Glad to see you stay, even though you can be annoying at times with your pigheaded self! Lol. But your family.

 

I just watched that Catfish show......that shit's a muthafucka.

 

I think it's like this online and irl. We have many more options, but like you said...we have to do a lot of weeding to find the guys who actually want to get to know more than our genitalia. Men certainly have less options, but how hard is it to sniff out a gold digging tramp? I can see her from a mile away, so it seems there's a lot less effort needed for men to weed out the crazy, than there is for women to do the same. Maybe it all evens out in the end, who knows. I do feel lucky to be on the female side of dating though. I have a pretty good nose for bs, so I can weed through the nonsense pretty quickly

Agreed. I'm very happy you're back TDK :freehug:

 

Weeding out gold diggers isn't the only problem for men and not as easy to detect when so much of the courting ritual requires men to financially support the relationship. Are problems do seem to be unique to our genders but there's no denying that women are the consumers and men are the product to be chosen or discarded initially. Women are obviously in the more advantageous position.

Thanks for the love fam

 

*yawn*

Many WW on these dating sites prefer to date within their own race and disqualify non whites? mind=blown

This is why much of online dating for me is a waste of time. If I'm going to be judged based on what looks good 'on paper' then I don't need it.

I know I outpace some of my white counterparts in my area but sometimes you encounter a lot of closed minded people who just disqualify you based on the color of your skin.

And people say that society is progressive. smh

EDIT: sorry not all WW obviously but it can be frustrating at times, especially certain regions of the US.

 

Cosign. So much for the bs that people are color blind huh lol