Older black men

The thread about Scarlett Johansson's undying support of Barack Obama...and comments about Angelina Jolie and Julia Roberts "admiration" for Denzel made me think about something:

Do WW have a thing for older black men?

I'm not sure if I believe it....but I've always had this hunch that a sophisticated, handsome, educated 50-year old BM could pull a 25-35 yr. old WW with a little more ease than a much younger brotha.



Now when I speak of older black men I'm certainly not talking about the "Ol' Otis" type cat....if you're wondering what Ol' Otis means....click below


http://youtube.com/watch?v=z-w9CZW-1nk

 

The last man I dated before meeting Alex is 38 now. The age was not break-up reason.
I get along better with people who are 10 or more years older than me because due to the things I've been through I am quite mature for my age now.

 

With all the whining and insecurity among some of the 20-something men on this board it's no wonder a WW would go for some maturity.

 

:smt023 :smt023 . You are funny Karma. :lol: :lol: [/quote]

 

you ain't lyin'.
8)

 

I think you cant underestimate the value of confidence that age brings. Older men are generally more confident and settled in their lives. That is attractive to women.

 

I dont know,but denzel is one of the few 50+ celeb Black man(if not the only),whom seems to attract girls who are very younger than he is.Ive seen 17 yr olds talking about how "sexy" he is :lol: i think training day set it off for him,maybe something about the rugged,mean look.

 

Co-sign w/fly-girl.

Young dudes like myself will huff and puff, curse like sailors, and show off our biceps but that suave and debonaire mystique that older guys have trumps our faux bravado everytime.

We'd be better served spending less time in the weight-room and the local pub and more time in the library or art museum.

 

An insecure woman will date an older man because she knows he's past his prime and will not require her to be top notch looks wise; There are also the sugar suckers and the gold diggers that want a "daddy" to take care of them, sometimes not financially but socially, and mentaly. They know older black guys will drop at the toes of their white asses in any given day....

It has nothing to do with us young bucks....heck if you placed a group of young bucks and older guys in a room, and asked the women to take their pick, i can almost bet the left side of my brain ( IQ 130+) that the young ones will win......point blank

I mean,,im at the bars almost every night, and club hopping is an everyday thang fo me...i see that shit. The only women that would pick an older guy over a young guy is either fat....or shes "quiet".....or in one way or another "socially" depraved....or the types that tend to keep walls warm at the clubs- you know,,,the wall flowers...I seen that shit,,,,an older Morgan Freeman type dude will walk up to them, and whisper sweet nothings into their ears with his deep ass voice, and before you know it,,,they are walking away together..lol....

but ive never seen a cool girl date an older guy...im talking young fresh 18-24 yr o girls here (the type that we men love)),,,these girls wont date a 30+ guy...not even let him kiss her feet,.,,,,lol

 

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I've dated men older and younger than me. Right now I'm dating a bm who is about to turn 40, and this is the biggest age discrepancy I've had between a man my life (I'm 26).

I enjoy his maturity and experience. He is at the top of his career, so he is not work obsessed like some younger men I have dated. He puts my wants and needs before his, probably because he already has everything he wants and needs. He is one of the best lovers I have had, because he takes his time and is considerate of what I want (and he's shown me a thing or two I didn't know I wanted!) He is very confident in who he is, and that is extremely sexy.

There certainly are younger men who embody these qualities, but so rarely are they offered in a "cocktail" as they are with older men.

As for the negative aspects, well, he's older. He tires more easily than me. Because he's had more life experience, I sometimes feel like he's patronizing me when we discuss serious issues. He's been married and divorced, so if we ever get married, he will not be "new" to any of it. I've dated men my age and younger than me with fine, tight, and fit bodies. Altough my guy played college football, he's obviously not quite at the same fitness level as other men I've been with.

When you date anyone, you take the bad with the good. Me and my guy may last, and we may not. We could end it tomorrow, and I could go back to a man closer to my age if I choose to do so.

I strongly disagree with BlackMasterJay's statements about the kind of woman who would date an older man. There are plenty of hot, well-off women who actively seek the company of older men; think Calista Flockhart, Catherine Zeta-Jones, Katie Holmes, Beyonce, etc. You should research your position OUTSIDE of the club scene, which is notorious for awkward hook-ups and insecure people.

 

i think your idea of "older" requires a walker and false teeth. older for alot of women can simply mean 10-15yrs older. i've never dated a man that was that (10+) much older than me, but i do prefer to date men who ARE older. men who are older than me (i would say over 30), are more likely to have it together. chances are he's not going to feel the need to curse like a sailor all the time, he'll be able to carry on a conversation, he'll have a better idea of what he wants in life, and not to mention he'll be more mature overall. my husband is older than me, but i've dated men that were younger. most dudes in their early 20s aren't comfortable enough with themselves to be comfortable with a woman who has an IQ that doesn't start with a decimal. alot of those guys (NOT all) are out chasin' tail, and hoping to nail as many bootys as possible. i don't play that way.

so, your comment about women who date older men must be "fat", "insecure", or "quiet"....i say it's quite the opposite.

 

Mine is 129! I'm almost almost up there with you!
My man is 39, ten years older than me... I agree with csbean on many points. I'm completely happy with him. He's older but I'm not a spring chicken myself.

 

I never knew my IQ

then again, with all of the controversy surrounding the validity (cultural biases, etc) of IQ tests, i don't think I need to know it.

besides, a simple number can't replace a reputation..

a reputation placed upon you by the people you've encountered throughout life...

if your IQ is 150, but your reputation is that of a dipstick

well...

 

I don't put much value in IQ tests either.

There's always a wide range in the score you could possibly get. The lowest score I've had was a 115 and the highest has been 147.

The majority of my scores seemed to fall between 128 and 136....with those two numbers as markers...I'll select a number equidistant between scores and say my IQ is 132.

I saw a 1-hr. special about I.Q. on the Discovery Channel....they talked about how IQ tests were biased and typically favored only one type of brain. They got a group of 7 or 8 people that were highly accomplished in particular fields and used a series of IQ tests that measured not only the standard fare of mathematical and spatial abilities but measured coordination...along with other skills that are rarely thought of as important.

 

Thats only the "left side" of the brain sweety
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Actually i was tested by certified psychologists. Once at the age of about 11-12......and again, during my freshman year in uni, cuz my dad thought i was "losing it"..,,,,lmao..and I was

Both scores were similar....higher level on some part,,,,and average on other parts.

I was asked to solve problems typical of those administered on standardized aptitude tests,,, ravens matrices etc……. 95% of the problems were solvable on the basis of information provided on the test…..and the solutions to the mathematical and spatial reasoning section required no higher mathematic education , I think I scored very high on that one……..The memory section was biased on the basis that it required "complete alertness" at that specific time, so if you weren’t alert during the test (having a bad day) your results would not be valid…..thats like judging the performance of an injured 100m athlete (not fair)….i scored way higher than average on that one (I got a decent memory)…the completion of each question had a time limit of about 20 seconds….. The questions on verbal section of the test were solvable primarily on the basis of specific previous knowledge (or how well you know the dictionary), questions such as those tested "verbal IQ", which did in fact vary with age and former knowledge making it biased against a certain group of people (foreigners)….i scored average on that part….meh

So yeah,,i think IQ testing, or testing of any cognitive capacity should lie primary on the reasoning section, and not particularly on "knowledge" retrieved from books etc. Knowledge can be obtained; IQ on the other hand is genetic.

Later

 

hmmm....interesting to say the least….you must be a genius……Do you have a personal professional psychologist of something??,…Cuz that would be interesting….cuz the average person has never taken a monitored professional cognitive-ability test. Some took it in school, but you have to pay a certain price for the school to reveal your actual IQ……and if you take the mensa test they don’t give you the IQ score either, they just tell you whether you qualified or not…….. ……

but you must be a genius stilll,,,132 puts you somewhere in the 98th percentile,,,,meaning if you walked into walmart right now, chances are you'd be the smartest in the joint...........crezy eh?

 

I detect a sense of sarcasm 8)

I've taken several random online tests....another reason why I don't put much weight in the scores. The wide range in scores helped me see that IQ tests are vague and it's hard to judge exactly what they measure. Most IQ tests ask the same type of questions but the difficulty of those questions vary quite a bit.

An honest assesment of my intellect....I'm not sure that I'm a genius.....If a genius was a Bugatti Veyron (fastest car in the world)....I'd be a nice $90,000 Mercedes Benz or a Ferrari Spyder.

 

Well you can go on www.tickle.com and take a free IQ test just to see what it is, then make your own conclusions. It's kinda like the SAT.

 

I hope so. I a58 and I am certainly not "Ol Otis"

 

I Resemble That!

A bit surprised to see this post here, but just let me say "I resemble that."
Honestly, I get hit on by many younger women ... I dare not to take advantage of it; it's a question of free time. I am always very polite.