Okay, so dating a white girl whose family is kinda racist...

its sad the lengths alot of fathers will go to try and keep their white daughters away from black men

 

And we are the same way..except in reverse.

Well tell our sons to stay in the race...but not our daughters.

We gotta' keep massa' happy.

 

I've been in a similar situation, and it is an awkward, and unfortunately, untenable place to be in, especially if you love family.

 

I'm still wanting to see where Esoteric ends up with this. The racism issue is done to death, but it still comes up. I guess the most important thing is:

1. Her seriousness about the relationship

2. How the family acts later when you still invest in the relationship

3. Her sense of backbone

I've run into this before, and I've had notoriously difficult times in the midwest....so I would rather date an older woman in her 30s or so. Good luck, Esoteric.

 

I almost read the hole thread now and what I am thinking about is that why you people do not talk about the racist balck families who do not accept the white partner?

You know, my boyfriend is Nigerian and his family is not so happy that he is with a German girl. they would prefer an Edo girl too

 

I can't speak for the other Brothers on this, but my point of reference is as a black American man born and raised in America with at least 4 generations preceding me. My family and friends have never had a problem with any lady I've been involved with but if they did, I'm standing behind my lady and my choice of partner. Anybody who can't respect my lady, disrespects me and that can get ugly.

I only know a few Nigerians and while I try not to stereotype people, the Nigerians I've met I'm not impressed with or had bad experiences with.

It sounds like you have the same problem we have with the families of certain ethnic groups, but in reverse.

 

Ok I do not know any black American. Maybe they are different and thats good to hear :smt023
Nigerians as I get to know them are very proud of their country their culture etc. Once I was reading in a Nigerian Forum they even start fighting against each other. Tribe against tribe. I can not understand it:smt104

I am happy that not all are like this. My boyfriend is not like this and he stands to me and do not listen to his brothers and his family again. They have to accept it :smt112

 

Nigeria is divided by tribes, region, religion, and language. Some are very rich and many are dirt poor. Keep reading up on their history, maybe that will give you more insight into their customs and beliefs. Your boyfriend should be able to help.